She Moves Forward

Your biggest source of pain is the lies that your brain keeps bringing up. This may look like something someone said to you long ago. Maybe you believed it then, and you've taken it on as part of your identity. "You should be ashamed of yourself." That is my lie from way back as an 8 year old.  I didn't know that believing that was a choice, so it became part of who I was. Here...

This is where midlife women go to figure out what is missing. Once the children have left the nest, and you are at the crossroads of what now and where does my joy come from, I will help you figure out what is next for you. This is not the beginning of the end. This is the time when life gets really exciting. This is the time when you get to dig deep into what you truly want for you. I promise you...

Our brains were wired to connect with each other and to interact in groups. A Harvard study of Adult Development that has spanned over 3 decades has found that the function of your brain as well as your physical health depend greatly on your connections in your relationships. However, connection and nurturing your relationships is a life long endeavor.  This is why I created the Relationship Audit...

One of the most painful questions you can ask yourself is "How did I get here?" In this episode I explore the 3 answers to that question. Our behaviors are driven by our emotions. And because we are still carrying around a primitive, our emotions are often negative and on high alert for harm. We also don't realize that we have a set of habits that are keeping us from what we truly w...

What stories have you been telling yourself about money? I know mine were pretty sucky. 😱 I'm the spender in this relationship. 😱 I'm not good with money. 😱 That's how our parents did it. This type of relationship lead to a ton of fear of never having enough money. It also lead to behaviors that continuously proved there was never enough money. You don't have to have this ty...

Friendships can happen in the most unexpected way. You simply have to keep an open heart about letting someone new into your circle. Amanda and I found each other on Instagram. I loved what she had to say about life and how she lifts up other women through her coaching practice. When we decided to meet up over Zoom for coffee, we discovered that we have so much in common. In this episode, she shar...

Assuming that your children are going to do something, Mom, because YOU ask is only setting yourself up for heartache. When we assume, we are telling our brain we believe it to be true. We tell ourselves that we know something will happen, but here is what we don't consider. 💎Other people have agency of what they want to do, or what they feel is in alignment for themselves. 💎It is actually...

It is becoming increasingly clear that at midlife besides the big M, our biggest changes are occurring within our relationships.  These women want more connection with their spouse especially those who are empty nesters or getting ready to experience empty nest. I’m hearing from a lot of my clients it feels like we just don’t really know each other any more or we make really good roommates. The sa...

This week I am talking to Dr. Li Huo. She is a board certified gynecologist who pivoted to a med spa aesthetic practice a few years ago. She has always loved empowering women in different ways, but now devotes her energy to helping women create and maintain a no-fuss, wallet-friendly skincare routine so they can have healthy glowing skin. She  teaches women how to have healthy glowing skin without...

This episode is not just for teachers. Dr. Katie Barrett, also known as The Joyful Educator, helps educators achieve work/life integration through a focus on social, emotional, and physical health, so that their professional life doesn’t dominate their personal life. We already know that hands down teaching is a tough profession.  I know when I was still in the classroom, I could have used all the...

On the podcast this week, I am chatting with Master Certified Coach Jane Pilger.  Jane empowers women who feel out of control around food to develop food freedom and body trust. She helps women who have been struggling, often for decades, to find the missing link to go from fighting with their bodies to working with them. In my quest to educate that there is a life coach for everyone, Jane hands d...

I recently polled midlife women asking "What is it that you really want at this stage in your life............hands down the top answer was CONNECTION".  More connection with: Spouses Adult Children Friends This week I am talking with The Connection Coach, Jill Wright.  She is a certified life and financial coach, and the host of the Easy Money podcast.  In this conversation, we talk abo...

This week I am talking to Hailee Gardiner of Hailee Mae Coaching. Hailee is a general life coach, and I knew we were going to hit it off when she said that she was also a teacher. In our conversation, you will learn her passion for life coaching and why she believes it is so important for everyone to have a coach. You just have to find your perfect fit. If you are interested in learning mor about...

Monette Van Lith is a a certified life coach through The Life Coach School as well as a Positive Psychology coach.  She has professional experience of four continents that she shares with us during my chat with her. She is a life and family coach. In this episode, we talk about different aspects of family engagement around the holidays.  We also offer you our perspective on how best to handle fami...

Self help books is where I started on my journey to creating a life I love and want to live. But I didn't stop there. The information in the books were valuable, but I noticed that I wasn't consistent with following all of the advice and the concepts sometimes just didn't stick. That is why having a coach was so valuable. I didn't know that I could change old beliefs. I didn&ap...

As human beings we live our lives by patterns. Some patterns we inherited from our family of origin and some patterns we created by what is working or not working in our lives. You have the power to choose which patterns you want to keep and which ones you are ready to break up with. This episode gives you a 3 part process to help you complete an emotional inventory. It doesn't take long to c...

Recently I woke up and felt a little off. It was almost as if I had a bad dream, but I couldn't remember what I had dreamt.  Have you had that feeling before? Maybe a bad memory pops into your brain and leaves you feeling a little blue, guilty or shamed. In this episode, I am giving you two tips you can do to help ease some of the pain. Doing these exercises could get you off the hook from le...

You have a unique path to excellence! What if every single day you woke up knowing what that path looked like and exactly how to use it? Dr. Lee Koles and I sat down after I took the Clifton Strengths assessment. As she states in our conversation, there are 34 themes that are measured and only a 1 in 33 million chance that ANYONE else will have the same top 5 you do in the exact same order. What??...

Your past, present and future are not all separate entities. You are the same person now that you were when you were 8, 48 and 80. You may look completely different, you may think completely different, but to your core you are that same soul………….you still have that 8 year old human inside of you and at 80 you will too. So why not let your past teach you about who you are today and let who you are...

Sometimes we cannot even see for ourselves what is happening with our own thoughts. We know that something is off, but we struggle to find the right questions to ask ourselves to determine what it is. Your coach can help you to identify the sneaky patterns of your brain. Your coach can also help you uplevel the practices you already have in place. Your coach will help you create your future with c...

Over the last couple of months I have been going through some changes. Some have been completely unexpected and kind of weird. But I get to decide if I want to sit in worry and confusion over what is going on,  or if I want to be proactive and embrace the changes. I am using the model in a different way to help me to create the results I actually want in my life.  Listen in to see how this works....

Last week, I had an opportunity to spend some face to face time with my business coach as well as 14 other entrepreneurs. Even though we were not all coaches, each person had unique experiences and wisdom to offer.   My biggest take away that has already changed me is uncovering my top 5 strengths. Wait until you hear about what I thought they actually were.  Shout out to coach Lee Koles for bring...

Don't leave your brain unsupervised. When you are not questioning the thoughts you are thinking, the feelings you are creating for yourself are probably less than ideal. The model can be a little complicated to understand when first presented with the idea that it is our thoughts that create our feelings. My coach broke it down for me in a super simple way. Courtesy of Dave Moreno...............

Why don't some friendships last? It doesn't have to mean that you did anything wrong or that the other person did any thing wrong. But each party does have to do their part in order for it to survive. And if it doesn't survive, it is ok to mourn the loss. Connect with me if you want to learn more about creating connections that last. www.kristiballardfalany.com  Thanks for listening...

I mean are you fair to yourself when it comes to conflict with your significant other. Remember you can only control your own thoughts and emotions. In this episode, I teach you two pits that you could possibly fall into when you are in the heat of battle. By not falling into these traps, will have you fighting fairly getting your point across without regretting what you said later.  Let's ju...