Self-Carved

Are your boundaries too soft… or too strict? Most women fall into one of two extremes: They either give too much and lose themselves… Or push everyone away to protect themselves. But underneath both? The same root wound: “I’m not worthy of love as I am.” In this episode, I break down the subconscious patterns that drive both over-giving and over-protecting, how they stem from childhood beliefs, an...

Ever walked away from a conversation wondering, “Did I do something wrong?” even though you were just being honest? That’s the hidden weapon of projection —and it’s how toxic people transfer their unhealed wounds onto you. In this episode, we unpack: - What projection really is (and why it’s so dangerous) - The psychological trick it plays on high-achieving women with big hearts - Why some people...

This message will hit different if you’ve ever been called “too much” or felt afraid to be seen. In this episode, we go deep into why healing doesn't always mean you're growing—and how your inner child might be the one calling the shots.

Were you celebrated for who you truly were as a little girl… or quietly taught to tone it down ? In this episode, we’re going straight to the root —the moments in childhood when you learned it wasn’t safe to be fully you. Not to stay stuck in the past, but to uncover the exact point you internalized: - “I’m too much.” - “I need to shrink to be loved.” - “It’s safer to hold back.” We’ll unpack: How...

You journaled. You prayed. You did the work. So why does your body still feel heavy? This episode is the truth most coaches won’t tell you: You can do all the “healing work” and still feel broken if your nervous system hasn’t caught up. You can apply every strategy, and still feel stuck—because you skipped the most important step: acceptance . In this final episode of The Aftermath series, I’ll wa...

You thought you were past the worst of it… But then, when the chaos quieted down—everything crashed. In this episode, I break down what actually happens when your nervous system is no longer in survival mode—and why it might feel like you’re falling apart even though you’ve “done the work.” Here’s what you’ll hear: Why emotional crashes happen after the divorce, breakup, job loss, or identity shif...

You’re meditating. You’re journaling. You’re doing everything “right”… So why does it still feel like you’re falling apart? In this episode, I share the truth about what happens when high-functioning women finally slow down after survival mode—and why the healing tools stop working unless your nervous system is regulated. This is the part no one warned you about: Why you feel “blah” when the crisi...

You held it all together... until your body started falling apart. This is the part of healing no one warned you about: when the chaos ends, the crash begins. In this episode, I reveal the emotional aftermath of high-functioning survival mode—how it disguises itself as discipline, delays grief, and keeps even self-aware women feeling stuck, numb, or unmotivated after a divorce, identity collapse,...

You can manifest something… and still let it go. You can live the dream… and later outgrow it. This episode unpacks the real reason your manifestation didn’t fail —your soul simply evolved. Let’s talk about shame, self-reclamation, and what it means to be brave enough to pivot. I’m sharing a deeply personal chapter that reminds us all: “Just because it ended doesn’t mean it was fake. It means you’...

Are you healing—or still waiting to be saved? In this episode, we unpack the trauma response keeping high-value women stuck in survival mode. ✨ Want the deeper work? Instagram: @selfcarved Self-Talk Reset Guide: www.selfcarved.com/self-talk-reset-guide

This isn’t just a Riverdale scene—it’s a masterclass in trauma bonds, emotional caregiving, and why powerful women stay in toxic love. ✨ Want the deeper work? Instagram: ⁠@selfcarved⁠ Self-Talk Reset Guide: ⁠www.selfcarved.com/self-talk-reset-guide

When a woman disconnects from her worth, she tends to go one of two ways: ➡️ She becomes performative and approval-hungry—living for his texts, his validation, his breadcrumbs... OR ➡️ She pretends she doesn’t care at all—masking her pain with arrogance, shutdown energy, and “whatever” vibes. Neither is power. Both are rooted in insecurity. True self-worth is quiet, grounded, and magnetic. It’s th...

In this episode, we dive into the first essential trait of the healing woman—her ability to seek understanding rather than rush to judgment. True healing starts from within, and that begins when we open ourselves to deeper awareness, empathy, and compassion. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @Ivan...

In this episode, we dive deep into the 'Wife' Archetype, a powerful blend of the Wise Woman and Wonder Woman. Whether you're single or in a relationship, understanding and embodying this archetype can transform how you navigate dating and relationships. Learn how to balance feminine wisdom with masculine strength, and discover how this dynamic energy can help you attract and maintain h...

The first step to transforming your dating experiences and relationships with my DESIRE method is to dissect your past. In this episode, we'll explore how understanding your past can unlock the door to the love life you truly desire. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @IvanaSelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order my bo...

In this episode we dive into the Wise Woman archetype (feminine energy), and why it's crucial to embody "HER." Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @IvanaSelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order my books: - Self-Love Healing Journal: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://amazon.com/dp/B0BV1F3BYV ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Couples' Journal: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https:/...

In this episode, we discuss the importance of addressing and breaking patterns in your life to unlock your full potential. Whether it's repetitive behaviors, negative thoughts, or limiting beliefs, toxic patterns can keep you stuck in cycles that hinder healing, personal growth, healthy relationships, and fulfillment. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok:...

In this episode, you'll hear about Yadira's journey; where she was when we first started working together; how her experience was coaching with me; her breakthroughs; where she is today, and so much more! Yadira went from: Business-focused only to self-focused, first. People pleasing to healthy setting boundaries. The 'busy-bee' to taking much needed time off. Lack of awareness to...

This podcast episode delves into why you may be drawn to possessive people in dating. We highlight factors like familiarity with controlling dynamics, seeking security, struggles with self-esteem, fear of abandonment, and the reinforcement of roles in relationships. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠ @IvanaSelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠⁠...

There are three important 'female archetypes' to embody when you're desiring to manifest a partner. One of them is the Wonder Woman. However, if your inner Wonder Woman is too dominate, you will attract men you continually are dissatisfied with. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠ @IvanaSelfCarved ⁠⁠⁠ Order my books:...

In this episode we dive into how LIB participants' attachment styles and underlying subconscious patterns is the driving force of the choices they make regardless of what they say they want. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠ @IvanaSelfCarved ⁠⁠ Order my books: - Self-Love Healing Journal: ⁠⁠ https://amazon.com/dp/B0BV1F3BYV ⁠⁠...

In this empowering episode, we delve into my client Carrie's journey of overcoming codependency, reclaiming her sense of self, and establishing healthy boundaries amidst the challenges of caring for her husband after a traumatic brain injury. Through a transformative process of self-discovery and healing, Carrie shares her remarkable evolution from feeling lost and tethered to her husband'...

The tricky part about having a disorganized attachment style is that the desire for closeness is as strong as the desire for independence. But when you meet a person that activates the desire for closeness, you’ll often overlook red flags due to inner child wounding. And because you grew up in an unsafe (unsafe being emotionally safe as well) environment, the things a ‘secure’ person would react t...

Disclaimer: DO NOT perform this meditation if you're driving or operating heavy machinery. Only to be exercised if you're in a safe space where closing your eyes won't put you or anyone else in danger. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠ @IvanaSelfCarved ⁠⁠ Order my books: - Self-Love Healing Journal: ⁠⁠ https://amazon.co...

In this podcast episode, we embark on the journey of starting the healing process. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠ @SelfCarved ⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠ @IvanaSelfCarved ⁠⁠ Order my books: - Self-Love Healing Journal: ⁠⁠ https://amazon.com/dp/B0BV1F3BYV ⁠⁠ - Couples' Journal: ⁠⁠ https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CN99PWGT ⁠⁠