Seeing Other People

I kick off this solo episode by opening up about career growing pains, feeling sad about the dating world, and the pressure I put on myself to succeed. After concluding my vent session, I answer listener questions about when and how to say "I love you," whether or not I think guys and girls can be just friends, how to handle If someone treats you like a boyfriend or girlfriend but won't call you t...

I'm joined by a man who shares his experience fighting cancer throughout his 20s. He discusses how it's impacted his dating life and his social life, how he navigated ending things with someone he started dating in remission as his cancer came back, how he feels about the possibility of putting himself out there to date again, when and how he would approach discussing his medical history with a po...

I’m Joined by Katie Gatti, AKA Money with Katie , to discuss the most common money issues that singles and couples face. We discuss who should get the check and what it means if you split it, when and how you should talk about how much money you make, having a different financial situation than your friends, dealing with families and money when wedding planning, and how to navigate when your partn...

I'm joined by a girl who shares her experience with a "Classy Fckboy," someone who knows how to win you over with their words, but is a professional at making empty promises. We hear about how each time she was ready to give up and move on, he reeled her back in by convincing her he was looking for something serious, too. She shares the red flags she identified in hindsight, why she gave him the b...

I'm joined by Jeff Guenther , LPC, to discuss how we can overcome our dating anxiety, make better decisions, and approach the early stages of dating in a healthier way. We discuss what to do when your anxiety is holding you back from dating, tips for staying calm when going on a first date, why we go for people who send us mixed messages and don't treat us well, how to choose better people, why yo...

I’m joined by a man who shares the the ups and downs he experienced in his hyper-active pursuit of love, which ultimately led him to meet his fiance. We hear how he fit so many dates into his schedule, what he was looking for, how he balanced dating multiple women at the same time, what he learned from all of his dates, how he kept track of them, and how it felt to finally meet the person he was s...

Mariah Grippo, TikTok’s dating queen and founding member of Little Words Project, joins the show to talk about the struggles she and many other women face in their dating lives. We discuss how draining it feels to continue to form connections and relationships with people only to be told they’re “not ready,” questioning if there’s something wrong with us when it keeps not working out, staying with...

I’m joined by a listener who shares the story of the relationship and breakup that changed her and set her years back on the timeline she had imagined for herself. We discuss going from that high of being so in love with someone who loves you back to breaking up and feeling the lowest you’ve ever felt in your life, what it felt like to see her ex in a relationship with someone new shortly after th...

In this episode, I’m joined by Whitney Goodman, LMFT, author of Toxic Positivity, and the brains behind the popular account @sitwithwhit. We discuss how our culture doesn’t allow for negativity and has become a competition for who can seem happiest and most positive, how toxic positivity invalidates people struggling with relationship problems, how we can better support our friends and loved ones...

I sit down with my friend Sammy who shares her highest highs and lowest lows throughout her dating journey. We hear about a six-year relationship that ended because he was having doubts, going through her “hoe phase” in her mid-twenties, how she’s managed to stay friends with most of her exes, finding out her most recent relationship ex was in a relationship with someone else weeks after they call...

Jake and I answer listener questions about our relationship and reflect on how we got to where we are now as a couple. We discuss what Jake thinks of dating rules, the honeymoon phase and if we’re still in it, the biggest challenges we've faced together, how we knew we wanted to commit to each other, who said “I love you” first, if we ever run out of things to talk about, the surprising perks of d...

On this episode, I sit down with a woman who is navigating dating while knowing she doesn’t want kids. We hear when she decided this, why she stands by her decision, and how it impacts her dating life. We also discuss her personal preference for dating nonamericans and how their dating behavior appears drastically different from the Americans she’s dated. Support this podcast at — https://redcircl...

On this episode I’m joined by Kate Steinberg , the internet’s early 2000s queen who met her fiancé Chad on HBO Max’s “12 Dates of Christmas.” Kate shares how she remained calm and confident while knowing Chad was going on dates with other women and the benefits of not sharing every detail of your dating life with friends. We discuss how you know if someone’s the one, the importance of being your t...

On today's episode I talk to a woman who reached out to me after listening to the unfiltered episode called "Married at 25, Divorced at 26, Dating at 27". She wanted to share her story of being on the other side of that situation, dating someone who was married at 25 and divorced at 27. She shares how their relationship unfolded, what her initial reaction was to him sharing that he was divorced an...

On this episode, I’m joined by Rikki Cloos (@anxiousheartsguide) to discuss the basics of attachment theory. We learn how our attachment styles are shaped, if we can change attachment styles, how our style shows up in our dating lives and our relationships, how to navigate your partner’s attachment style, and more.  Click here for your expedited Lox Club membership review or use code ILANA in the...

On this solo Q&A I answer listener questions about what makes a good date, rekindling an old situationship, being friends with an ex after ending on good terms, not hearing back from someone after telling them how you feel, what to do if you're always texting first, if they're still active on dating apps after telling you they like you, when to follow up, and how to know if you should stay or...

On this episode, I sit down with Kelly McKenna (@sitwithkelly), a therapist for anxious millennials. We discuss the difference between overthinking and anxiety, how dating rules and games can make you more anxious, boundaries you should be setting, identifying the source of your anxiety, and in-the-moment tools for dealing with your dating anxiety. Kelly shares tips for communicating your anxietie...

On today’s episode I sit down with Kayla Moran, host of the Let’s Get Candid podcast. Kayla opens up about relationship and intimacy trauma, her relationship with sex and her body, and how her childhood and her relationship with her mother impacted her dating life. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adc...

On this episode, I’m joined by @yourbreakupbestie Kendra Allen to discuss how to get through a breakup. Kendra walks us through the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup, if getting back together is ever a good idea, what to do if it’s been a while since the breakup but you still think about them, when and how to get back out there, if you should ever text your ex on their birthday, how to...

TW: Sexual assault. On this Unfiltered, I sit down with a woman who shares the story of the toxic relationship she didn’t realize she was in, despite all of the warning signs. We hear about gaslighting, manipulation, lying, and other unhealthy behaviors her partner brought to their relationship. We discuss why she was in denial of what was really happening, why she ignored the early red flags, wha...

On this episode, I sit down with Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT, owners and founders of the Therapy Group. We hear about early red flags you can look out for to identify if someone might be toxic, manipulative, or abusive, how to realize you’re in an unhealthy situation, and how you can get out of it. We discuss why we want what we can’t have and push away what we can have, dating...

On today’s episode, I sit down with a 27-year-old woman who recently went through a divorce from her high school sweetheart who she had been with for nine years. We hear about what her life was like before the divorce, why they got divorced, and what it’s been like getting out in the dating world for the first time as a 27-year-old divorcee. Feel better with O Positiv's Immunity and PMS gummies! o...

On this episode I sit down with Talia Goldstein, Founder and CEO of Three Day Rule Matchmaking. We discuss the biggest flaws in dating apps and modern dating, the most common mistakes daters are making, what questions you should be asking on dates, how to determine your dealbreakers vs. “nice to haves,” and whether or not you’re correct about your “type.” Talia shares how the matchmaking process w...

In this solo episode, I answer listener questions about ghosting, unfollowing, and taking things slow. At 15 minutes in, I open up about the constant pressure I feel to be at a certain place in my relationship and how social media leads us down a dangerous path of comparing ourselves to others, no matter what life stage we’re in. At 28 minutes I discuss the precautions you should take when conside...

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Elizabeth Earnshaw (aka @lizlistens), Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, owner of A Better Life Therapy, and author of “I Want This to Work.” We discuss the different types of couples therapy, the most common issues couples face, how to ask your partner to go to couples therapy, and early signs of relationship success or failure. Liz gives us tips for start...