Secrets in the Elephant Room

This week, the girls tackle one of the hardest and least talked about parts of adulthood: friendship. Because despite what every coming-of-age movie promised us, friendships aren't always easy, permanent, or simple. In fact, Dalany and Payton argue that friendships might actually be more complicated than romantic relationships. The girls talk about all the different kinds of friendships they've ex...

The girls are back after a month "off"... and by off, we mean barely surviving the chaos that was May. This month has officially been dubbed May Madness, and for good reason. Between work, life, travel, unexpected opportunities, and the general nonsense that seems to follow them wherever they go, Dalany and Payton have a lot of catching up to do. (not really, you know what we mean) The girls fill...

There are two types of girls on a Sunday: the productive go-getters and the productive rest-ers. This week, Dalany and Payton spend an hour trying to convince themselves they're the second type. As the Sunday Scaries settle in, both girls are running on fumes. Payton is preparing for a trip to Las Vegas, Dalany is recovering from being sick, and neither of them feels particularly ready to face ano...

Inspired by TikTok trends, rejection therapy, and a mutual desire to stop standing in our own way, Dalany and Payton are setting out to collect as many rejections as possible. Why? Because somewhere along the way, we realized we're often the first people to tell ourselves "no." Dalany brings the research, Payton brings the TikTok rabbit holes, and together they unpack what rejection actually is, t...

The Chaos Chronicles are BACK for Season 2… and we are picking up right where we left off — emotionally vulnerable one second, absolutely unhinged the next. The girls start by recovering from Dalany’s birthday episode (yes, the one that made everyone feel something), before immediately spiraling into the birthday festivities: the parties, the iconic PowerPoint night (“23: Where Will She Be?”), and...

It’s Dalany’s birthday… which means Payton was left in charge of the episode. That was the first mistake. Instead of doing something normal, Payton decided to conduct the official yearly business review of Dalany Inc., recapping the successes, failures, growth charts, emotional damages, and unexpected plot twists from Dalany’s 22nd fiscal year. We go through stats, patterns, personality traits, an...

Alright… we know things have been a little deep lately. So this week we’re talking about something extremely important, highly intellectual, and not complicated at all… fashion. The girls will never claim to know how to look good, but we definitely know something. We’re just not sure what that something is yet. We go through our fashion eras over the years (including the shocking revelation that P...

Lucky Girl Syndrome… because obviously everything works out for us. It’s March, the luck of the Irish is in the air, and the girls are leaning all the way into it. Both Dalany and Payton come from strong Irish roots, so this time of year always feels a little extra magical. Dalany fully claims her title as the St. Patrick’s Day princess as she talks about the traditions she grew up with — includin...

In our “Everything’s Fine” era… and we are smiling while we say that. It’s a weird time. For us. For you. For everyone. And if there’s one thing Gen Z knows how to do, it’s cope with dark humor and a perfectly timed meme. So yes, we laugh. A lot. But also… we talk about what’s actually been weighing on us. This episode is a soft tribute to Dalany’s sweet dog, Chilli. We miss you already, old man....

It’s Galentine’s in the Elephant Room… and yes, we are once again single. The girls pop the chardonnay, pull out the chocolate-covered strawberries, and exchange long-stemmed roses... for each other. Because if the men are inconsistent, at least we’re not. We talk about how our relationship with Valentine’s Day has evolved (from bitter and dramatic to romantic and slightly delusional). The bad Val...

We’re back, darlings. And we are not coming quietly. Season 2 of the Elephant Room kicks off with something bigger than ever — The Bohemian Hotline. Dalany and Payton are joined by some of their closest girlfriends — Tiya, Via, Shelby, and Shikhu — for a long-overdue, long-awaited, LOOOONGGG episode to make up for the even longer break. Together, the girls unpack the four ideals of the bohemian li...

Inspired by People We Meet on Vacation , Dalany and Payton are officially in their travel-rom-com era. The girls start planning all of the dream trips they swear they’ll take together, despite the fact that they haven’t actually done many girls’ trips before… but they’re choosing to believe the friendship will survive. They talk about what really makes or breaks travel dynamics, why some friendshi...

The girls are officially dead from the holiday run , but we lived to tell the tale. Dalany and Payton try (and mostly fail) to spend quality time together while juggling winter solstice rituals, Christmas chaos, and the looming pressure of a new year. Winter solstice kicks things off in full witch mode — vision boards, wishes, manifestations, and strict rules about what magic Dalany is not allowed...

It’s been a minute… and the girls have a LOT to catch you up on. Welcome back to the Chaos Chronicles, where Dalany and Payton finally spill everything that’s been happening behind the scenes. Dalany’s been deep in her mental health and mindset era. Her energy is high, her vibes are immaculate, and the real question is: is this manic energy or is she just genuinely thriving? Meanwhile, Payton land...

Before anything else, we start this episode with what matters most: everyone deserves access to a good meal. In an economy where so many people are going without, Dalany and Payton talk about the importance of giving back to your community — mindfully. Whether that’s volunteering, donating, or participating in things like Angel Trees, this is about genuine care, not a trend or a performance. And t...

Happy Thanksgiving from the Elephant Room! 🦃✨ This week, the girls are feeling extra grateful. For life, for growth, and most importantly… for you , yes you , the listeners who keep this chaotic little corner of the internet alive. Dalany and Payton dive headfirst into the very best and absolute worst parts of Thanksgiving. They talk food (including Payton’s fully justified hatred of green bean...

This week is a special one, the girls are celebrating eight years of friendship, which means the chaos is heartfelt, the memories are vivid, and this is officially the longest episode in Elephant Room history. Dalany and Payton take a step back from the noise of life and dive into the roots of their relationship: how they see each other, why their connection has always felt different, and how thei...

Two theatre girls like… sports? Shocking, we know. This week, Payton and Dalany are trading jazz hands for game-day foam fingers as they unpack their very different (and very chaotic) relationships with sports. Payton reveals her deep family history in athletics (and how she was literally named after a football player), while Dalany talks about her lifelong need to stay active but loves a sport wh...

It’s officially fall in the Elephant Room, and the vibes are immaculate. Dalany and Payton are fully embracing their Glinda and Elphaba eras. One pumpkin spice and cozy blankets, the other apples, eyeliner, and gothic melancholy. Together, they dive headfirst into their favorite season and everything that comes with it: costumes, movies, candy, and Halloween traditions. But it wouldn’t be an Eleph...

Back at it with another round of unfiltered chaos. Payton’s officially living her Seattle era and juggling grad school life, while Dalany… might be in her workaholic relapse arc (but can Payton really say anything when she’s kind of in one too?). Between V8 addictions, Amazon meltdowns, and a Harvest Moon that decided to test everyone’s patience, the girls are hanging on by a thread... and maybe a...

Social media… what is it even for anymore? In this episode, Payton and Dalany spiral (in the best way) about the pressure to post, perfection paralysis, and the confusing art of trying to build a brand without feeling like an NPC. Dalany might’ve won the “solo side quest” because Payton hates posting... but can you blame her? Between trying to be authentic (but not weird), niche (but not trapped),...

It’s September, which means it’s time to lock in . But is this just a TikTok trend, or something wired into human behavior? Dalany and Payton are setting their own goals and even crafting a self-made “curriculum” to bring some structure (and chaos) into their lives. Of course, locking in isn’t simple. We get into the complexities of discipline vs. capacity, the burnout that sneaks in, the scheduli...

Payton has officially made the move, and the girls are diving into the unglamorous, chaotic, and low-key magical reality of living on your own for the first time (and no, college doesn’t count). From forgetting the essentials (who remembers can openers?), to worst-ever moving experiences, to the existential “first night alone” crisis-slumber party. We’re covering it all. We also talk about the art...

After two weeks off (because… life), the girls are back in the Elephant Room and the chaos is multiplied . We kick things off with alter egos, fist fights, and missed flights, and somehow end up talking about spiritual readings, crying on your birthday, and questioning mortality. Don’t ask us how we got here. Payton has officially moved to Washington and turned 24, which means we’re officially spi...

The girls are reunited IRL (only the second time ever!) and naturally, the chaos level is off the charts. Fresh off a movie night screening of He’s Just Not That Into You , Dalany and Payton dive into the world of dating apps (specifically Hinge) and apply Alex’s “if he wanted to, he would” wisdom to their own love lives. But we plan to be the someone's exception and not the rule. From swiping thr...