Safeword

In this bonus episode of Safeword, Casey Tanner (of @queersextherapy ) unveils insights from their groundbreaking new book " Feel It All ", a guide to sexuality that dispels the stale cultural attitudes about sex that leave too many feeling inadequate, and offers an expansive, attachment-based framework to free us and develop bolder, more satisfying relationships with our sexual selves. Along with...

Back by popular demand, on @safewordpod, we get to hear from special guest @sexwithemily! Dr. Emily Morse hosts the longest running s-x and relationship podcast, where she challenges cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Kamil, Emily, and Casey share their years of wisdom about living as s-xual he...

Back by popular request, Kamil and Casey are talking about the age-old question: should I stay or should I go? No strangers to anxious attachment styles, our fearless hosts talk about the ways that the urge for leaving and the need for staying are always in tension.

In this fan favorite, Yaz Harris generously taught Kamil and Casey about Dom/Sub dynamics. Along with being a professional dominant (Mx. Aerys), Yaz is also the @queersextherapy Social Media Manager. In this interview, you will learn so much! The hosts was feverishly taking notes the whole time Yaz was talking. Not only was Yaz an amazingly competent and thorough D/S educator, they were also so ge...

In this fan favorite rerun, Casey and Kamil help break down the intimidation factor around group s-x that many people feel. They bring a human-centered, relational approach to all your amazing questions on threesomes and beyond. Season 3 will be out in Fall 2023!

In this fan favorite, Casey Tanner and Kamil Lewis, answer all your questions on your secret turn ons and turn offs. They talk you through ways to tell a partner what's on your yes/no/maybe pleasure lists. They answer other questions on solo kinkiness, the secret turn ons of a s-x therapist, the relationship between our fantasies and what we want in reality, and so much more.

On this favorite episode of Safeword revisited, Kamil is making hot use of office space and Casey gives the gift of being told what to do over Zoom. This week’s theme is fantasies, so ~imagine~ a dreamy conversation about your favorite type of bedtime stories. Can you fantasize about something you’d never do IRL? Are any fantasies ever “wrong”? Will we have a tangent about anal? Plug in and find o...

Back by popular demand: the Masturbation Episode! Masterbation is a go-to client topic for Kamil and Casey. Our hosts rewatch Brookback Mountain for the first time since being a teenager. They talk about how self pleasure is always a vibe! Unless it's not. Which is more than okay. What does masturbation with a partner look like? Is masturbation ever a waste of time? Should parents buy a sex toy fo...

Back by popular demand! We're bringing you a rerun of Learning Gender Through The Body from Safeword, a fan favorite that sparked fascinating discussions. Join us as we revisit Kamil and Casey's captivating discussion with s-xuality doulah, sensualist and author Ev’Yan Whitney, offering fresh perspectives and inspiring anecdotes that will leave you entertained and enlightened. The trio discussed g...

Relive the magic of our most popular episode! In this rerun of Safeword, we revisit Episode 12 called Bisexual Era, where we delve into the joys of bis-xuality and the challenges of living in a biphobic world. Whether you're a longtime fan or new to the show, join us as we explore bisexuality. Throughout the summer, we are sharing our most popular Episodes. Kamil and Casey dive into all of your qu...

In Ep 23 of safewordpod, Kamil and I talk about initiation. S-xual and romantic, and even social initiation has never felt easy for Casey. Kamil, on the other hand, loves it. It was special to learn from each other and from all of the listener’s insightful questions.

In Ep 22, Kamil and I, Casey, dive deep into listeners’ longer s-x and relationship stories and questions. We were blown away by listeners' insight and creativity. There was no official theme for this show, but we kept encountering folks who have already tried everything to tackle their challenge. Sometimes when nothing is working, it is helpful to identify where we have agency and where we just n...

In Ep 21, Yaz Harris generously taught Kamil and Casey about Dom/Sub dynamics. Along with being a professional dominant (Mx. Aerys), Yaz is also the @queersextherapy Social Media Manager. In this interview, you will learn so much! The hosts was feverishly taking notes the whole time Yaz was talking. Not only was Yaz an amazingly competent and thorough D/S educator, they were also so gentle and pat...

In Episode 20 of @safewordpod, we get to hear from special guest @sexwithemily! Dr. Emily Morse hosts the longest running s-x and relationship podcast, where she challenges cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Kamil, Emily, and Casey share their years of wisdom about living as s-xual health profe...

Queer dating! The greatest activity on earth? Or the most intimidating? On Episode 19 of Safeword, Kamil Lewis and Casey Tanner are here for all your queer dating quandaries. We hope these tips help you slow down, release some queer imposter syndrome and realize you got this! As always thank you listeners for these amazing questions!

Casey and Kamil help break down the intimidation factor around group s-x that many people feel. They bring a human-centered, relational approach to all your amazing questions on threesomes and beyond.

Everyone is always talking about org-sms. And while Kamil and Casey are big fans, they know through our work, and through their personal experiences that org-sms can be complicated and hard too. In Episode 17 of @safewordpod: they celebrate the pleasure that *comes* with org-sms; validate the challenges; and normalize all of the desires and styles of relating to org-sms.

In Episode 16, Kamil and Casey are talking about the age-old question: should I stay or should I go? No strangers to anxious attachment styles, our fearless hosts talk about the ways that the urge for leaving and the need for staying are always in tension.

*CW: Episode 15 contains themes of religious trauma, s-xual trauma, child abuse. Please take care of yourself in whatever way makes sense, whether that’s pausing and seeking support or sitting this episode out. In Episode 15 of @safeword, we are talking about Religious Trauma. Casey shares about their journey from studying to be an evangelical minister to today where they proselytize their love of...

In Episode 14, Casey and Kamil had the tremendous honor of speaking with s-xuality doulah, sensualist and author @evyan.whitney. The trio discussed gender and answered all of your amazing questions, addressing topics like gender dysphoria in the bedroom, the construct of straightness, the power of breath and much more! Hit the bio link @queers-xtherapy or @safeword on IG to send in your own questi...

Kamil and Casey dive into all of your quandaries about bis-xuality. Get ready! This is Kamil’s playground. They reflect on, what Kamil calls, “Casey's powerful  bis-xual era.” It is still a challenging world for people with bis-xual identities, and we get real about that. We also celebrate all of the ways bi folks are thriving! Check us out at @safewordpod on IG and Instagram.

Kamil and Casey discover that they both have been watching Gilmore Girls on repeat since high school! Amazing timing! Lorelei and Luke provide the perfect archetypal case study of avoidant and anxiously attached partners and the common conflicts that arise in this dynamic. As always, your fearless hosts answer your amazing questions on Relationship Conflict. They share tips on conflict avoidance,...

In this live recording, Casey Tanner and Kamil Lewis, answer all your questions on your secret turn ons and turn offs. They talk you through ways to tell a partner what's on your yes/no/maybe pleasure lists. They answer other questions on solo kinkiness, the secret turn ons of a s-x therapist, the relationship between our fantasies and what we want in reality, and so much more. 

In this episode, Casey and Kamil address your thoughtful questions on trauma and sex, and share pieces of their own survivor stories. This episode addresses the pain and grief of sexual trauma, as well as the discomfort, hope and pleasure found in healing. Please engage with this episode at a pace that feels safe for your system, pausing or stopping when you need to.

Kamil and Casey help us navigate the wild rollercoaster we call NRE a.k.a. New Relationship Energy, and the very different by also wild LRE a.k.a Longterm Relationship Energy. The transition from from one to the other can be bumpy and daunting. That's why your hosts are here to tell you their own messy times and also what has worked for them. This episode is not actually sponsored by Costar ;)