Right Here

You’re having a perfectly fine day. Then you open your phone. Someone from college just got promoted. A neighbor is posting vacation photos. Another parent mentions their kid just made the travel team. And suddenly, the life you felt okay about two minutes ago starts to feel smaller, slower, or somehow not enough. In this episode of Right Here , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips,...

You can live in a full house and feel lonely. You can be in a relationship and feel lonely. You can have a group chat that never stops and still feel like no one really knows you. And you can be home alone on a Friday night with nothing but a book, a movie, or a playlist and feel completely at ease. So many of us confuse being alone with being lonely, treating loneliness as a headcount problem ins...

Most of us did not grow up in homes, schools, workplaces, or relationships where “no” was considered an acceptable answer. Maybe you learned to explain, justify, soften, over-apologize, or offer a whole life story in place of simply drawing a boundary. Maybe saying no still feels selfish, rude, ungrateful, dramatic, or difficult. In this episode of Right Here , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and K...

Most of us learned pretty early that anger was a problem. Maybe you were told to calm down, stop overreacting, watch your tone, or keep the peace. So you swallowed it, turned it into jokes, aimed it at yourself, or let it build until it came out sideways. And for a while, that may have worked. You got through family dinners, stayed in relationships, avoided conflict, and kept other people comforta...

At some point, you decided something about yourself. Maybe you decided you were the difficult one, the responsible one, the one who doesn’t need much, or the kind of person good things don’t happen to. You probably didn’t make that decision consciously. It settled in quietly over time, until the story started to feel like the truth. In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Ken...

There’s a version of masculinity that looks strong on the outside but feels like silent overload on the inside. In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW are joined by Jake Ross, MSW, LISW-S, a therapist specializing in men’s mental health, to explore the invisible weight that many men carry. Drawing from Jake’s work with outwardly functioning but internal...

There’s a version of love where the appearance of devotion masks self-abandonment, and the line between two people becomes blurred beyond all recognition. In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore one of the most widely used and misunderstood concepts in modern mental health lingo: codependency. Drawing from its roots in addiction research and clin...

What if the problem isn’t just what’s happening in your relationships, but how those relationships are shaping your sense of reality? In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW break down one of the most overused and misunderstood terms in modern mental health language: gaslighting. Drawing from clinical experience and real-world dynamics, they explore how...

What happens when a word meant to describe something specific becomes the language we use for everything? In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore the cultural overuse of the word “trauma” and why that shift, while validating, can sometimes blur what people actually need. Drawing from clinical insight, they clarify that trauma is not just somethin...

What if the thing you’ve been calling a boundary is actually pushing you further away from the connection you’re craving? In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW unpack the cultural confusion around boundaries—challenging the popular idea that “having boundaries” means cutting people off, shutting down, or building emotional walls. Instead, they reframe...

What if the most painful belief you carry isn’t about what you’ve done, but who you are? In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore the often misunderstood and deeply isolating experience of shame—separating it from guilt to reveal how differently it lives in the body and shapes our behavior. While guilt can motivate repair, shame tends to drive hid...

What if your kindness isn’t kindness at all, but a survival strategy? In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW unpack the often-overlooked link between the trauma response of fawning and people-pleasing by reframing the habit of saying “yes” as a survival mechanism rather than a personality trait. Together, they explore how the fawn response develops as a...

In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore the powerful connection between movement and mental health. What begins as a conversation about running quickly expands into a deeper look at how physical activity, sleep, hydration, and nutrition shape emotional well-being. Drawing from both clinical experience and insights from Harvard metabolic health ad...

In Part Two of this two-part conversation, hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW continue their dialogue with grief, loss, and bereavement therapist and Fordham University professor Kat Hurley, LCSW—exploring what grief actually looks like in the mind, body, and daily life. Kat shares powerful ways of understanding loss, including the idea that grief doesn’t shrink over time and...

In Part One of this two-part conversation, hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW sit down with grief, loss, and bereavement therapist and Fordham University professor Kat Hurley, LCSW to explore what it really means to companion people through life’s most vulnerable moments. Kat shares her unexpected journey from professional dancer to “grief nerd,” and unpacks the often-misunde...

"I'm fine." It's a lie that so many men tell. Not only to others, but to themselves. In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore the quiet conditioning that teaches boys to “shake it off,” “man up,” and never let anyone see them cry. From scraped knees and hockey rinks to boys’ dormitories and adult relationships, they unpack how early praise for tou...

In this uplifting episode of Lumen, hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW carve out some time with guest Andrew Tepper, LCSW, founder of BODA Therapy in New York, to talk about something that often gets overlooked in mental health work: joy. Andrew shares how his program blends short-term retreats in the Catskills, skill-based therapies like CBT and DBT, and real-world accountab...

What if perfectionism isn’t your greatest strength, but your most exhausting defense? In this episode of Lumen, hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW approach perfectionism not as a badge of honor, but as a trauma-informed coping strategy rooted in fear, shame, and the need for control. They explore how the drive to be flawless often comes from a deeper belief that we are only l...

In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore the quieter epidemic beneath so much modern distress: exhaustion. Not just physical tiredness, but the kind of mental and emotional fatigue that comes from living in a constant state of alert. The conversation explores how being tethered to our phones—a nonstop source of information, notifications, breaking...

In this episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW unpack the runaway train of negative thinking—how a single mistake can spiral into shame, catastrophizing, and the feeling that you’re about to get fired from life. Drawing from everyday moments, clinical work, and a surprisingly accurate all-you-can-eat buffet metaphor, Christopher and Kenyon explore common unhelp...

We’ve never had more ways to connect—and yet so many of us feel profoundly alone. In this episode of Lumen, hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore the modern loneliness epidemic and how social media, curated identities, and fear of being fully seen have quietly reshaped the ways we relate to one another. From the awkward reality of needing to “text before calling” to the...

In the inaugural episode of Lumen , hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore the meaning behind the name Lumen and how it reflects the heart of therapy: seeing, being seen, and creating a shared sense of understanding. Drawing from clinical work, creativity, music, dance, improv, and lived experience, they describe therapy as a collaborative, living process rather than a on...