Relationship Dish

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about over functioning.   Pam and Iona both learned to over function to control and distract themselves from chaotic situations in their lives. They discuss the price of over functioning and the toll it can take on your life.   Learn how to recognize over functioning as a coping mechanism in your own life before you burn out! 

This week the therapists dish and dive about jealousy. Iona's had an episode of feeling very jealous, which catches her off guard. Pam weighs in on how those ugly feelings have raised their head repeatedly throughout her relationship as well. Listen in as they dive into the literature about the function of jealousy and learn how to reign in that wild beast. 

This week the therapists finish their discussion about trauma with a dive into the literature about trauma. We learn about the different types of trauma, how it develops and how to treat it. Not all trauma is created equal and the more you know, the more you can do to manage, move past and even grow from the trauma in your own life.

This week the therapists dish extensively about their own experience with trauma and the ongoing impact these traumas have had on their lives. There is no dive this week folks, just juicy dishing! Stay tuned for next week's dive into the trauma literature. Season 4 is here, and it's going to be great! Iona and Pam

Season 4 is here, and it's going to be great! Join us on a new season where we Dish and Dive on topics sure to peak your interest. Iona and Pam

Hi listeners, we're still on our break between season 3 and 4 but in the meantime we're going to leave you with a quick appetizer today.  Try treating your partner as you would treat your client, and see your relationship as something alive and ongoing.  We will be back next week to launch season 4 on July 24th with new exciting episodes that are sure to give you the dish you are looking for in yo...

Here is a quick little 1 minute Appetizer for you about The balance and courage to stand alone. We're taking a 2 week break while preparing to launch season 4 and will return July 24th with new exciting episodes that are sure to give you the dish you are looking for in your relationship. Iona & Pam, Relationship Dish

This week the therapists weigh in on the issue of addiction, in its many forms. Listen in as they discuss their own addictions and the addictions of their family members and friends. Dive into the literature with them as they navigate through the various diagnostic and treatment models to find the right one for you. 

This week the therapists dish and dive about affairs and infidelity. Listen in as they dish about their own experiences with infidelity and affairs (spoiler alert, it's not pretty) and the impact they've had on their lives. Learn from the literature how to deal with it, get past it or get out of it if it happens to you!   

This week the therapists dish and dive about that critical voice in their heads, their inner critics. They look at where they come from and  how we can learn to manage them so they don't take over our lives. Listen in and learn how to beat those negative voices! 

It's Fathers Day and This week the therapists dish and dive about fathers! They look at the fathers of their own children and compare them to their own fathers, they dive about the importance of fathers and how a good relationship with father actually helps kids thrive all throughout life.    

This week the therapists dish and dive about enmeshment. They wonder if they are at times, enmeshed with their partners. Listen in as they dish about their own issues and explain what enmeshment  is and how to deal with it so it doesn't run your life! 

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about seeing themselves in their partners.   They realize that many things that trigger them about their partners are the very things that trigger them about themselves. Being in a relationship is like standing in front of a mirror 24/7 and when that mirror feels like one of those "fun house" mirrors, well,  it's going to be a bumpy ride.

Listen in this week as the therapists conclude their interview with two women who are pros at making their marriage wor k. Learn about what's challenged them over the years and how they've learned to overcome these challenges and continue to grow together. They are inspirational to us. Learn from the masters!

Listen in this week as the therapists offer yet  another side dish! This time, they interview two women who, despite big obstacles, have managed to create and maintain an incredibly happy and healthy relationship.  Listen in to part 1 and find out which obstacles they faced and how they navigated them together. They are truly masters at their relationship and have much to teach us all. Next week w...

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about the difference between shame and guilt. Both therapists recall events from their family of origin when guilt bled into shame. Instead of feeling guilty for a bad behaviour, they ended up feeling shamed for who they were. Learn the differences between guilt and shame so you can more easily and cleanly heal and repair in your own life. 

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about the deals they make with the devil. It turns out they tell themselves some pretty interesting stories about the things they have to do to feel safe and to keep horrible things from happening to them and theirs! Who knew they had such power! Anyone else seek guarantees that nothing bad will befall them? What  are you willing to do to ensure...

The therapists continue to dish and dive in this two part series about depression. They continue discussing how depression has impacted their own lives and the lives of their family and friends. They then dive into the literature and share the most current research into treatment options for this painful and often misdiagnosed mental illness. There is hope! Treatment saves lives! Listen to part 1...

Listen in this week when Pam and Iona dish and dive about depression as part 1 of a special 2 part series.  The therapists talk about how depression has touched their own personal lives and those of their loved ones and how their relationships with depressed family members have impacted them over the years. They dive into some literature on depression to help better understand it. The series conti...

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about siblings. Why are these relationships, the ones we have with the people who are the closest biologically to us, so often fraught,  painful  or just plain disappointing? Pam and Iona discuss their own sibling relationships and unpack the issues from their own families of origin that may explain some of the difficulties they've struggled with...

This week the therapists dish and dive on self care. Is it really necessary to care for the self or is it just frivolous at best, selfish at worst? Listen in as Pam and Iona struggle through the questions of self care; why is it necessary, are they allowed, is it a one size fits all and what does it even look like. Learn some handy tips about self care for yourself, so you can give more of your be...

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about how to fully repair after a tiff.  Pam has had an issue with Eric in the kitchen (where else??) and learns how to find her part, own it and take responsibility for it without taking it all on. Iona's has an issue with Steve and also owns her piece and realizes what she needs from Steve; for him to cleanly own his part without being defensiv...

This week the therapists dish and dive on forgiveness.   Iona struggles to forgive Steve for his wrongdoing and in so doing, realized that the she was the only person she was hurting by holding onto her anger.  Pam also finds it challenging to forgive Eric because well, does that mean she also has to forget?  Learn the difference between forgiving and forgetting. Stop getting stuck and start letti...

This week the therapists grapple with the things they can and can't control in their partners and in their relationships. Iona's husband is having some issues with his family of origin and she wants to protect him from the fallout, but he refuses to let her. She feels frustrated and her anxiety cannot be soothed by controlling the situation, because he won't cooperate! Pam also has a family member...

This week listen in for part 2 of our interview with Sandra and Laird, a loving couple, who, despite dealing with many obstacles, has made their relationship work, and work well for 37 years!   Listen in as we continue the dialogue and we continue to learn from masters of the trade. What got them through the hard times? What are their rituals? How have they managed to continue to grow and evolve t...