Relating Differently

We hear a lot about red flags in relationships but what about the green ones? The small, consistent signs that someone is actually safe, supportive and emotionally available… and that we often overlook. In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore the quiet behaviours that signal a healthy partner.. things like consistency, communication, respect and emotional presence. We talk about why the...

Not all grief comes from something clearly ending. Sometimes it comes from losing what you thought a relationship could become, the future you imagined, the connection you hoped for or the version of someone you believed in. In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore what it means to grieve a relationship that never fully existed in the way you needed. We talk about “what could have been,”...

Why You Give So Much in Relationships Giving a lot in relationships can feel natural at first. Being attentive, supportive and thoughtful. But over time, it can turn into something heavier where you’re the one holding everything together, often without realising how much it’s costing you. In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore why over-giving happens, how it often develops as a way to...

What Anxious Attachment Feels Like Anxious attachment often shows up in subtle, everyday ways. Overthinking texts, needing reassurance, feeling unsettled when there’s distance or uncertainty. It can feel like you’re constantly trying to keep the connection safe, even at the cost of your own peace. In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore what anxious attachment actually feels like beneat...

Fearful of Starting a New Relationship: “What If It Doesn’t Work Out?” Starting a new relationship can feel exciting and at the same time deeply unsettling. Especially if you’ve been hurt before, the fear of getting attached or investing in something that might fail can make you hold back. In this episode of Relating Differently , I explore why this fear shows up, how self-protection can quietly t...

Letting Go of Perfectionism in Relationships and Life Perfectionism often shows up quietly in relationships. Overthinking, over-responsibility and pressure to get everything “right” so you can be loved or accepted. But instead of protecting connection, it often creates anxiety, imbalance and distance from yourself. In this episode of Relating Differently , I explore how perfectionism sneaks into o...

Avoidant Partners: Why They Feel So Addictive Being drawn to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners is more common than you might think and it can feel strangely addictive, even when the relationship is draining. In this episode of Relating Differently , I explore why avoidant partners create such a powerful pull, how uncertainty activates the nervous system and why emotional highs and l...

Why “Being Low-Maintenance” Is Costing You Emotionally Being “low-maintenance” is often praised in relationships. It sounds mature and easygoing. But what if it’s quietly costing you more than you realise? In the first episode of Relating Differently , I explore how being low-maintenance can mean suppressing needs, managing emotions alone, and adapting yourself to keep things smooth, often leading...

Relating Differently is a podcast for women ready to build confidence, trust themselves and create healthier, more balanced relationships. Each episode explores common challenges like overthinking, people-pleasing, unclear boundaries and repeating old patterns, and offers practical insights and tools you can use in your everyday life. I’m Mons, a trainee counsellor and relationship coach and I sha...