Rat Girls

Dr. Ellen Kaufman, an AI and dating expert, joins us to discuss the current state of AI, how people are using it for dating, and what the future holds.  We cover if using AI to write your dating profile is considered catfishing,  how AI affects our mental health, why people are turning to AI companions, what happens when people trust AI instead of human connections, ChatGPT psychosis, and more.  W...

In this episode, we are talking about how to help Gaza. Just because there is a ceasefire does not mean the trauma and suffering are over. We speak to Operation Olive Branch, which works with partners to get aid directly to the people of Palestine. Operation Olive Branch: https://www.instagram.com/operationolivebranch/ Perinatal Project Operation Olive Branch: https://www.instagram.com/amani.alkah...

In this episode, we are covering the Vogue article by Chanté Joseph, "Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing now?" We talk about boyfriends stealing their girlfriends' aura, having to compromise your morals for a man, why this culture shift happened, how to be your own person in a relationship, not doing things because social media says to, living life for yourself, the generalization o...

This week, I am answering your questions! I answer: What is the key to a happy and healthy marriage? How do I get over kink shame? What books are you reading? What is the best way to give a bj? Have you ever had a threesome? What do I do about UTIs? Do you identify as neurodivergent? What are the best tips for booty stuff aftercare? What is your favorite movie? We also nibble on Jumanji, bed death...

Rory Uphold, author of A Final Girl's Guide To The Horrors Of Dating, joins us to talk about the ups and downs of dating and what she has learned from her experiences! We chat about debunking traditional dating advice, how women can become the choosers, when to leave a relationship, how to take autonomy over your dating life, how to get rid of a limiting belief system, how to heal from SA and...

GG Magree, whose new album SPIT LOVE comes out Oct 22, joins us to talk about sexuality and creativity! S8xuality inspires creativity and vice versa. And when you learn to step into yourself and find your stride, you become completely yourself and unlock your creative potential! We touch on how you deserve to take up space creatively, sexually, and personally. And we touch on how you get to the pl...

This week, my husband Jesse Townes joins me to talk about what men think about during s*x. We answer: Men, why don't you make any noise? Speak up!, Is it true that when you are in doggy, you think about other girls?, Do you have to go somewhere else mentally to finish?, What is going through your head when you are f!ngering me?, What does it mean when a guy doesn't make eye contact durin...

Kaila Yu, author of the newly released book Fetishized, joins us to discuss the fetishization of Asian Women in the Western Media. We cover the 2000s as problematic,  Memoirs of a Geisha, how stereotypes affect mental health, dating, and building up your self-esteem after being fetishized, the nuance of sexualization, and more.  We also nibble on being a foodie, LA restaurants, Emily Ratajkowski,...

It's just me this week, and I decided to put my Personal Trainer Certification to WORK and talk you all through some no bullsh*t fitness advice because I am tired of seeing people who do not know what they are talking about share info on working out. I walk you through the lies influencers are telling you, the secret to being fit, what workouts you should be doing, and the mind-muscle connect...

John York, a voice actor and Quinn Narrator, joins us to talk about what makes something sexy and getting turned on between the ears! We walk through coming up with hot ideas, discovering new fantasies, how fantasies weigh up to real-life experiences, making your partner feel heard, audio erotica, good communication, checking in during a hookup, how to dirty talk, building confidence, and more.  W...

How to Date People IRL with Cassidy Davis  Cassidy Davis, creator of Chaotic Singles Events, is on the pod, walking us through how to meet romantic partners in real life! We’re talking about why the apps are dead, the benefits of meeting people IRL, how to approach people you’re interested in, what events to find singles at, where to find hot guys, overcoming rejection and social anxiety, what to...

Morgan Miller, midwife and co-author of The Cycle Book, joins us to teach us all about our cycle and how tracking it can change our lives! She's walking us through how hormones are actually our friends, explaining the different stages of the cycle, how to track your cycle, and why not to use apps, among other topics.  We also nibble on birth control pills, endometriosis, the pain gap, conditi...

Kenneth Play, the maker of good lovers, joins us on this week's episode! He teaches us all about how to get the men in our lives to help us come. We talk through how to be the top 1% of lovers, discovering what you like in the bedroom, how men can learn to pleasure women, verbal and non-verbal feedback from your partner, how to tell your partner what you want, how to use sm*t books to get bet...

Sex therapist and author of Drink Water and Mind Your Business, Dr. Donna Oriowo, joins us to talk about self-esteem and how it relates to every aspect of your life! She teaches us how to identify our self-esteem type, how to build self-esteem, and how to establish boundaries to maintain our self-esteem. She also walks us through the aspects of our lives that having good self-esteem improves-- lik...

Comedy Writer and Survivor Runner-up, Hannah Shapiro, joins us to chat about Love Island! She's using her experience on Survivor to share what it's like to be on reality TV and offer us some insights into what the islanders might be going through, both inside and outside the villa. We chat about mental health, mob mentality, how social media changed reality TV, personal growth, and of co...

Hanna Anderson, co-host of the Dating Detectives Podcast, joins us to chat about trusting your intuition and dating safety. She's teaching us: what intuition is and how to hear it through all the noise, listening to your body and pattern recognition, steps to take before a first date to date safely, self-defense techniques to get out of a bad dating situation, and more.  We also nibble on Kyl...

Ya'll, I am freaking out because one of my biggest inspirations is on the pod! Dr. Laurie Mintz is the author of Becoming Cliterate and basically wrote the handbook on how to help women org*sm! If you want to org*sm or want to help your partner with a vulv@ org*sm, this episode is for you.  We discuss the pleasure gap and its prevalence, as well as how to close it. She touches on penetration,...

Morgan Lorraine Gallo, host of "My Body, My Jokes," joins us to talk about eating disorder recovery and how to seek help if you are struggling! She teaches us how to listen to our bodies, the first steps we can take, how to continue our recovery, celebrate our wins, why decentering from men is helpful, and why community is so important.  We also nibble on Burlesque, female friendship, th...

Hannah Johnson, the Libido Fairy, joins us to teach us how to increase our libido! She walks us through how to go from faking orgasms and pretending to be asleep to enjoying mind-blowing sex with your partner and finding pleasure in yourself!  We walk through how to regulate the nervous system, enjoy pleasure, identify our turn-offs, make room for our turn-ons, discuss our preferences with our par...

Jessica Stahl, the creator of Vanilla Cooldance, joins us to chat about how to speak up about what you want in the bedroom! 

Lindsey Straube, author of 'Kiss of the Basilisk,' is on the pod this week, and we are GIGGLING! We are chatting about the book (duh!), falling in love with monsters, discovering our deepest fantasies, how the girlies can get everything they want, finding power in your org@sms, love triangles, living for pleasure instead of productivity, etc.  We also nibble on book communities, being Te...

This week, we are joined by Colette Pervette, a dominatrix, who teaches us all about embracing our power in and out of the bedroom. We learn all about fem domme, kink, negotiating rules, discovering fantasies, and finding a sub to bring out your domme. We also discuss how to find power within yourself and be true to yourself outside of the bedroom.  We nibble on feeld, fetlife, people pleasing, Br...

In this episode, we discuss how much and what you should share on a first date! I am an oversharer, so it was a hard pill to swallow that maybe I shouldn't share my entire life story and every trauma with everyone I meet. We talk about things that are 'safe' to talk about and how to find out if they are a good match for you without scaring them away.  We also nibble on The Wedding S...

In this week's episode, we are covering Friends with Benefits! We chat about whether it is possible to make it work and, if it is, how we make it work!! We also talk about the most likely outcome from FWB. And I share my past experiences to make you feel better about your own lol.   We also nibble on Lorazepam, flying, Justin Timberlake, Britney Spears, Vet costs, etc. 

Another ask me anything question where I share: how to deal with differences in s*x frequency preferences, how to do it with a man so much taller than you, the best music to listen to in the bedroom, what to do when you fall out of love with your partner, how to feel your partner while on top, what to do if you hate the taste of come, how to stay excited about s*x in a long term relationship, how...