Raising Arrows

Send us Fan Mail Nobody told Connor he was supposed to lead. He was the one following Hailey to church while she went alone every Sunday. He was the one sitting at home, convinced he didn't need it. And then, somewhere between her consistency and his growing hunger for something more, the switch flipped — and suddenly the weight of spiritual leadership landed on his shoulders. The problem? He...

Send us Fan Mail You've probably already told your kid to put down the iPad today. But when's the last time someone told you to put down your phone? That's the conversation Connor and Scott are having in this episode — and they're starting with themselves. Connor opens up about something that might surprise you: he's never really struggled with phone addiction. Not because...

Send us Fan Mail One in four men have six close friends. That's it. In 1990, it was one in two. We're more isolated than we've ever been, and if you're a new dad, the isolation just got worse. In this episode, we talk about why male friendship isn't optional—it's essential. They tackle the stats (and they're brutal), the reasons we let our friendships die the mom...

Send us Fan Mail Three Questions Every New Dad Should Ask God (And What Actually Happens When You Do) What do you pray for when you become a father? Not the surface stuff—the real questions that keep you awake at 2am. In this episode, Connor sits down with Scott to tackle the three questions every new dad in the faith grapples with: How do I lead my family spiritually? How does God actually speak...

Send us Fan Mail You yelled at your toddler over something stupid. Now you're sitting on the bathroom floor feeling like the worst dad alive. This episode is for you. Connor and Scott tackle the thing nobody talks about: anger in fatherhood. Not your kid's tantrums—your anger. The moment you realize your voice got louder than it should have. The guilt that follows. And the question that...

Send us Fan Mail One in four dads experience paternal postpartum depression. One in four. So if you're in a room with three other dads, statistically one of you is walking through it right now — and probably hasn't told anyone. In this episode, Connor gets as vulnerable as he's ever been on the show. He shares what happened when his son Beau was born and the instant connection every...

Send us Fan Mail "Just tell me what to do." Five words every married dad has said — and five words that drive your wife crazy. In this episode, Connor and Scott get honest about the gap between wanting to help and actually owning your household. Connor shares the early-marriage kitchen moment that exposed how differently he and Shay see "clean," and Scott opens up about the nig...

Send us Fan Mail It now costs over $300,000 to raise a child in America. Let that satisfying number sit for a second. In this episode, Connor and Pastor Scott tackle the financial pressure that keeps new dads up at night — sometimes even more than the baby does. They break down how to make that massive number feel manageable, the needs-versus-wants conversation most couples never actually have, an...

Send us Fan Mail Two-thirds of couples say their relationship satisfaction tanks after having a baby. Two-thirds. So if you and your wife feel more like co-workers running a daycare than the people who fell in love — you're not broken, you're normal. But normal doesn't mean you stay there. In this episode, Connor and Pastor Scott get honest about the roommate phase that quietly take...

Send us Fan Mail No one satisfies you before the baby arrives and says, "Hey — the guy you've been for the last 25 years? He's gone now." But that's exactly what happens. In this episode, Connor and Pastor Scott get brutally honest about the identity crisis that hits the moment your child is born. Connor opens up about the guilt spiral of wanting just five more minutes alo...

Send us Fan Mail You're spending more time with your kids than your dad ever spent with you — and somehow the guilt is worse than ever. Connor and Pastor Scott tackle the myth of the perfect dad head-on: where it comes from, why social media is lying to you, and why your kids don't need a flawless father. They just need a present one. In this episode: Why 57% of parents report burnout —...

Send us Fan Mail  Why the First 3 Years Matter More Than Most Dads Realize  Think your toddler won't remember these early years? Science says otherwise — and it's not even close. In this episode, Connor and Scott break down three research-backed facts about early childhood brain development that every dad needs to hear. Your toddler's brain is running at twice the speed of yours. 80...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Raising Arrows. We're Connor and Scott — two young dads, husbands, and Christ-followers figuring out fatherhood in real time. In this first episode, we introduce ourselves, our families, and why we felt called to start this podcast. The truth? There's not a lot of real, faith-driven content out there for dads in the trenches of early fatherhood. No fluff. No &...