Permission to Evolve

Do you constantly ask yourself, "What did I do wrong?" whenever someone around you is stressed, flaky, or frustrated? In this episode, Brandon and Holly dive deep into the subtle art of emotional boundaries and depersonalization. Drawing from the coaching insights captured in a recent coaching, they explore how to stop internalizing other people's chaos. You will learn why your own con...

In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to zoom out” as a coaching frame for reducing day-to-day stress by tracing recurring patterns back to their origins, often in childhood. Brandon explains that fixation on present problems—like difficult coworkers—often mirrors unresolved dynamics with parents, and that healing the...

Kona Broke Them… Here’s What It Revealed About Embodiment, Ego & Peak Performance In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes recap Brandon’s whirlwind travel from Europe to Hawaii, including attending the Ironman World Championships in Kona, comparing it to Nice, describing Kona’s brutal elements and dramatic pro race shifts, and highlight...

On Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to rest” and why constant pushing can lead to burnout, injuries, and distorted decision-making. Brandon explains that rest is where integration, new perspective, and nervous system recovery happen, especially when rewiring patterns or doing deep emotional work, and notes...

In a coaching session between Brandon and Holly, they explore how an “I’m lesser than” wound can unconsciously drive people to overwork, say yes to everything, and seek worth through proving themselves, yet never feel satisfied. They contrast this with an outward expression of the same insecurity that looks like confidence but is actually a facade of entitlement, image-protection, and sometimes ma...

The Hidden Cost of Overthinking (and What Your Body Knows) In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to question everything” as an ongoing, practical process for uncovering blind spots, shifting perception, and moving from negative emotion into a more neutral, objective state. Holly asks about pe...

Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes return to a looser format on Permission to Evolve, catching up after Brandon’s two-week trip through Amsterdam, Croatia (Split and Dubrovnik), Ibiza, London, and Boston, sharing standout experiences like museums, historic old towns, nightlife, and the blur of travel and jet lag, plus his upcoming first Kona trip in under two weeks. Holly recaps I...

Brandon explains that the fastest way to create better opportunities is to make peace with your current situation, because fighting your job, home, or circumstances builds resistance and keeps you fixated on what’s wrong. By aiming for a more neutral, open mindset, you shift into an “attractive mode” that helps you see a bigger picture, connect to vision, and notice new connections and possibiliti...

Brandon shares a coaching-style reflection on how focusing on money as the primary concern creates hesitation, bargaining, and a “never enough” mindset that blocks action and fulfillment. He argues that desires must matter more than money not in a reckless way, but by getting more attached to the vision and resourcefulness than to current limitations because when attention shifts to “how do I make...

Detaching From Identity, Free Will vs Destiny, and “Electrician for the Soul” Explained In the 80th episode of Permission to Evolve, host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes run an Ask Me Anything focused on identity, growth, and Brandon’s coaching philosophy. Brandon discusses loosening identity ties to roles and labels, following excitement, taking healthy risks, and avoiding ove...

(And Your Body Keeps the Score) Brandon explains that avoiding difficult emotions numbs us temporarily but causes unprocessed stress to “stack up,” creating chronic stress that eventually resurfaces as illness when we finally slow down. He describes the body as the subconscious mind: when we tuck experiences away, we lose nervous-system “flow,” our mind becomes jumpy, focus drops, and survival-mod...

Why the Calmest Person Wins (and What You’re Blocking Without Realizing) In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to receive,” why many people struggle to accept support, money, opportunities, or compliments, and how imbalanced giving and receiving can create resentment, bitterness, and burnout. Brandon connects receiving...

Set an Intention, Not a Goal: The Hidden “Block” That Slows Everything Down In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to set intentions” as a looser, more surrendered alternative to goal setting, focused on meaning, energy, and openness to the unknown. Responding to Holly’s question about quantum physics and “shifting time...

Host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes open Permission to Evolve by sharing recent travel highlights, including Brandon’s Florida trip to St. Augustine and family time, and Holly’s Northern California trip for the first Redding IRONMAN 70.3, where she reflects on a difficult, unromantic comeback after a spring car accident and the role of gratitude. Holly then asks about judgment...

Why Your Identity Might Be Keeping You Stuck (and How to Unwind It) Host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes open by recapping Brandon’s LA trip, including visiting the Oppenheimer Group, the Urban Lights installation, and a Venice shop where he unexpectedly met the designer of sustainable brand One Golden Thread and saw a new women’s dress called “The Infinite” modeled in many way...

When Did You Stop Taking Risks? The Hidden Cost of Playing It Safe Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes introduce Permission to Evolve with a focus on “permission to take risks,” emphasizing that the danger isn’t only failure but also staying stuck in dry, unfulfilling stability. They connect risk-taking to building self-trust by turning attention inward, detaching from shame-based...

The Hidden Prep Behind Peak Performance (Boise 70.3 Lessons) Host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to find your flow,” sparked by Brandon supporting clients at Boise 70.3 where his client Sam won by about five minutes amid uncertainty from rough swim conditions and nearby forest fires. They contrast the practice phase (conscious skill-building and preparation...

What Happens When You Stop Judging Your Feelings? (And Why They Keep Coming Back) In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to own what you feel,” arguing that emotions are temporary unless judged, suppressed, and “hammered” into the nervous system as limiting beliefs that shape identity and behavior. Brandon explains how...

Why “Escape” Stops Working (and What Your Pain Might Still Be Teaching You) Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes return to Permission to Evolve after a week off to explore “permission to be lost” and “permission to stop pretending,” describing the uncomfortable gap that appears when you outgrow old habits, identities, and social expectations but don’t yet know what’s next. Holly sha...

Independence vs. Hyper-Independence: When Freedom Quietly Becomes a Prison In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to be independent” after the Fourth of July, clarifying the difference between healthy independence and hyper-independence. Brandon explains independence as living authentically in alignment with values, whi...

In episode 70 of Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes do an Ask Me Anything where Brandon answers questions on ownership versus other people’s issues, explaining that triggers are “your work” and the goal is returning to neutral detachment, sometimes with space, inner processing, and occasional courageous conversations. He discus...

Why the “Other Shoe” Fear Keeps You Stuck (and How to Break It) In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to be happy now,” especially for driven people who delay happiness until goals are achieved. Brandon explains how gratitude, presence, and process-oriented thinking reduce resistance and help...

Everyone’s Making It Up—So What’s Stopping You? Permission to Evolve on Creativity, Ego, and Confidence In this episode of Permission to Evolve, Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to make it up,” arguing that many societal norms and personal habits are inherited programming that can limit creativity and fulfillment. Using the “ham ends” story and examples like...

On Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to actually try” through Holly’s recap of Unbound Gravel, a premier gravel event in Emporia, Kansas, where she and her husband Aaron completed the signature 200-mile route (about 207 miles, 11,000 feet of climbing) amid repeated severe storms, hail, lightning, heavy “pea...

Host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to stop performing” and how performative identities form around earning love, validation, safety, and belonging through achievement, image, or helping others. Responding to Holly’s question—sparked by Enneagram Type 3s who feel disconnected from their true self—Brandon describes finding the true self through stillness, se...