Pastors on Porn

In this episode Vern interview Jonathan Daugherty the author of the book Grace Based Recovery. They discuss the ways, good and bad, that people try to help others walk free from porn. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also...

There are a number of ways that churches react to the information that a pastor is actively engaged in some form of sexual sin. In this episode Vern explores a number of those approaches (both helpful and not so helpful) and proposes a model to use in dealing with these situations. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you...

Our preaching can have unintended consequences. In this episode Vern asks the question - in our desire to help people with sexual issues are we in fact creating a culture of shame? I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see...

Our preaching can come with unintended consequences. In this episode Vern asks are we, despite our good intentions, actually creating more of a porn culture in how we are training our people to view sexuality? I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.ca...

This is a short sermon from the story of Naaman that could be used in any recovery setting to look at how our approach to God either encourages our recovery/healing or causes us to move away from it. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.c...

In this episode Vern interviews the authors of the Beautiful Ugly Truth who share a story of how brought healing into the sexal brokenness in their marriage. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources on...

In order for us to continue our embedded use of porn we need to continually tell ourselves a number of lies. In this episode Vern interviews recovery coach John Doyel as they explore these lies. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com Yo...

Ever considered yourself misogynistic? Most of us would not consider ourselves in this light. In this episode Vern explores the uncomfortable truth about how our porn use may be changing us more than we think. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.ca...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

Why do churches fail to lean into difficult topics like sexual brokenness? It affects us all yet we pretend that we are above it all and our churches are above it all. In this episode Vern explores some of the reasons for our "failure to lean" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can re...

There is an entire movement under the banner of "Sex Positive" which has pushed against the Christian sex ethic as being harmful and repressive. In this episode Vern pushes back on some of the teaching by discussing how "Sex Postive" is far from "sex positive". I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to...

Dr Laura Nelson is a pastor who works with couples who are struggling with sexual brokenness. In this episode she describes some of the things she has learned along with way. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some...

One of the biggest questions in dealing with sexually broken people is how do we discern between true and false repentance? In this episode we discuss that difficult topic. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some mo...

Repentance is a word you hear alot about in the church. What is it and how do we approach this topic when we are struggling (despite our best efforts) to quit looking at porn? I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some...

In the last podcast we introduced the idea of being a conflicted pastor when it comes to being used by God. Today we turn to the other side - what is it like to be a non-conflicted pastor? I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can...

In this first part of a two part series Vern explores the idea of being conflicted vs. being non-conflicted in our ministry as a pastor. In this episode he interviews Darrel Brazzell about his own conflicted journey with sexual brokenness and how God has both changed his life and used him to help other men. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageabl...

I (Vern) have been immensely helped by having a recovery coach. In this episode Vern interviews one of his mentors, Michael Leahy, as to the role that coaching can play in your recovery. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can al...

Can God still use me despite my ongoing struggles to walk completely free from behaviors like porn? In this episode Vern interviews Matt Cline and they discuss that topic. Matt is the Director of Restored Ministries and can be reached at https://www.restoredministries.ca I (Vern) ove to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need...

Probably my favorite porn recovery book is Surfing for God by Michael Cusick. In this episode I am honored to interview the author. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources on my website https://bandof...

What is the biggest lie we need to tell ourselves to continue our porn use? In this episode Vern (in a round about way) gets there! I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources on my website https://bandof...

One of my favorite recovery podcasts is the Pirate Monks podcast. In this episode I am honored to interview the two hosts of the podcast - Nate and Aaron I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources on my...

Be Broken is a ministry to bring sexual healing to the entire family. This includes groups for men, weekend intensives and support for women. In this episode Vern interviews Jonathan Daugherty, the director as they talk about some of the ways you can find help We are so blessed in that there are so so many more resources than there were 10 years ago. Be broken ministries can be contacted at https:...

The pull towards porn impacts us differently as we age. In this episode we talk about the false promises that porn offers us at different stages of our life. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources on...

Zach Williams is a well known Christian artists who has some great recovery songs based on his own journey. In this episode Vern shares some of the songs he has found inspirational in his recovery journey. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@g...

Joe Beam is a sexologist who leads a ministry that works with broken couples. In this episode he shares about some of his thoughts about how to provide hope and healing for couples on the brink of divorce. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@g...