Only Your Way Counts

"AI will never replace our thinking. It will always be our mirror." That's what my friend Marco Houwen said to me near the end of our conversation. And it's the thread underneath everything we talked about. This is part two of a two-part conversation. Last week Marco and I sat in the bigger picture of what AI is asking of us as humans. This week we move into what that means in pr...

"Who the hell are we now as humans?" That's what my friend Marco asked me, somewhere in the middle of our conversation. 25 years in technology. Sold everything in 2017. Now spending his life on one question that he believes every leader and every human needs to ask. This is a two-part conversation. In part one, we sit in the bigger picture. What AI is actually asking of us as humans....

"My business can only be as successful as I am." That's what Fabienne said to me, somewhere in the middle of our conversation. Eighteen years in corporate. Four years building a coaching practice. Two of those years without a website. This is the story of how she got here, and what she learned along the way. In Fabienne's own words: "I understand why leaders who have succeed...

"How much am I judging myself?" That's what Thushara asked herself in the middle of the session you heard last week. And something moved in her. Today I want to sit with you and reflect on what unfolded. What was happening in me as it did. Where I get curious about my own choices. And what tends to keep moving long after a session ends. Reflection through noticing. — The next Coaches...

"How is it going to land for them?" That's what my client asked at the start of our session. This is what unfolded. A real, unscripted coaching session with Thushara, who said yes when I asked. The kind of session you cannot plan for. The kind that asks the coach to stay with what is moving, rather than with what was named at the start. Next week I'll come back and reflect on it...

Three groups of questions. Three dimensions of a sustainable coaching practice. Inner Ground. Mastery and Depth. Business Framework. Across the last few episodes, I've been exploring each of these. Today is where everything comes together. Not as separate challenges to fix. As three dimensions of one living system, evolving in relationship. And inside, an invitation to draw your own map. Coach...

"I'm confident in my skills and my impact. It's the business aspect that is lacking." This came through the research. And this coach isn't alone. On the surface, it looks like a business challenge. And it is. Yet when I sat with it, something else also became visible. In this episode, that something is explored. And I share how my own business structure came into being in a w...

How do I become a masterful coach so that my clients call me one? This question came through the research. And there's something in the way it's framed that's worth staying with. What does mastery actually ask of you? And what if it's not what you think? In this episode, these questions are explored. And I share something about my own practice that might surprise you. Coaches Tribe...

How do I trust my intuition more? How do I deepen my presence in a coaching session? These questions came through the research. On the surface, they look different. And yet they all point in the same direction. Inward. What if these questions are not asking for information at all? What if they're asking for something else entirely? This is the first in a series of episodes exploring what your...

"How do I trust my intuition more?" This question came through the research I've been conducting with certified coaches. And it wasn't alone — almost every question submitted began the same way. How do I… There's nothing wrong with that question. And yet when we slow down and look more closely, something interesting emerges. What if the question itself is where the real explo...

What do experienced, certified coaches actually need to grow? In this episode, I share reflections from research I've been conducting with professional coaches worldwide — and what emerged surprised me. The coaches responding weren't beginners. They were thoughtful, experienced practitioners. And yet beneath their different situations, five surprisingly similar growth needs kept surfacing....

What happens when you realise you've been living someone else's life? In this first episode, I share my own journey — from surviving long-term abuse and multiple suicide attempts, to discovering coaching as the path that brought me back home to myself. This is where Only Your Way Counts begins. Not as a title. As a lived philosophy. If you've ever felt the quiet pull of who you should...