Now What Therapy

What Happens When You Stop Caring What Everyone Thinks People love to say that when women hit 50, they stop caring what anybody thinks. Amy thinks that misses the point entirely. In this episode of Now What? with Amy Neufeld , Amy starts with a painfully awkward story from a friend’s 40th birthday party: a conversation about a pair of terrible leggings that took a very unfortunate turn when Amy di...

Parenting Teens: How to Stay Close and Step Back Parents of teenagers are asked to do something that sounds almost impossible when their child is struggling: move closer and step back—at exactly the same time. Your teen needs to know that you are there, that their feelings are safe with you, and that they do not have to handle hard things alone. But they also need enough room to think, make decisi...

Can’t Get Started? Skip the Beginning. There’s something you need to do, or maybe even want to do, but you cannot seem to get yourself started. You already know what you’re supposed to tell yourself: You’ll feel so much better afterward. You’ll be glad you did it. Just get up and go. But when you’re tired, overwhelmed, procrastinating, or staring at a beginning that feels way too big, knowing how...

In This Episode There’s a very unsexy part of behavior change that matters more than we give it credit for: consistency. In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually looks like to rebuild a habit after you’ve fallen out of a routine, why something that used to feel automatic can suddenly take so much effort again, and why that effort doesn’t mean you’re failing. We’ll talk about: why consis...

We talk a lot about kids and phones. How much screen time should they have? Should phones be allowed at school? When should they get their first one? Should we take them away at night? Meanwhile, most of us are having that conversation with our own phone somewhere within arm’s reach. In this episode of Now What , therapist Amy Neufeld looks at the research behind no-phone zones, parental phone use...

When was the last time you asked yourself what you actually want? Not what your kids need. Not what your partner needs. Not what your boss needs. Not what the house needs. What do you want to be different in your life right now? In this episode of Now What , therapist Amy Neufeld is talking about why we can want something to change for years and still never actually do anything about it—and why in...

There’s a strange kind of grief that comes with watching your kids grow up. You miss the little shoes, bedtime routines, funny words, and the version of your child who once needed you for absolutely everything. But what if all that looking back is keeping you from seeing the incredible person standing in front of you right now? Learn more about Amy at www.amyneufeldtherapy.com Follow Amy on social...

I'll start dating when I lose weight." "I'll apply for the job when I feel more qualified." "I'll invite people over once my house is clean." Sound familiar? In this episode of Now What? , therapist Amy Neufeld challenges one of the biggest lies we tell ourselves: that life begins after we're ready. If you enjoy this show, and we hope you do, please support it by clicking that "subscribe" or "foll...

Have you ever stepped on the scale and instantly felt like the number somehow defined you? You're not alone. In this honest and vulnerable episode, therapist Amy Neufeld shares a personal moment that happened just hours before recording. After seeing the scale go up three pounds, she noticed her brain immediately turn a simple piece of information into a judgment about her worth. Why do we do that...

Have you ever decided to make a positive change—go for a walk, meet a friend, exercise, or simply leave the house—only to abandon the plan because it suddenly felt overwhelming? You're not alone. In this episode of Now What? , therapist Amy Neufeld shares a surprisingly funny story about trying to walk to a coffee shop... and never actually making it inside. What started as a simple outing became...

Therapist Amy Neufeld explains how people-pleasing, resentment, and the fawn response can show up in tiny everyday moments — even during a foot massage. Sometimes being easygoing is real. It can feel generous, peaceful, flexible, and kind. But sometimes “I’m good” comes out of your mouth before you have even checked in with yourself. Before you know what you need. Before you know what you want. Be...

Get the 21 day to GLP-1 Success Program right here! Not Losing Weight on a GLP-1? Here's What Nobody Is Telling You You're taking Ozempic®, Wegovy®, Zepbound®, or another GLP-1 medication...so why isn't the scale moving? If you've hit a weight loss plateau, feel frustrated, or expected faster results, you're not alone—and you're not failing. In this episode, therapist Amy Neufeld explains why GLP-...

Mean Girls, Friendship Drama, and the Lesson We Don't Want Our Daughters to Learn Every parent dreads it. The friendship that suddenly changes. The group chat that explodes. The birthday party your child wasn't invited to. The friend who is warm one day and cold the next. Or maybe there isn't even a friendship to lose. Maybe there's simply a child who has decided to be mean. Whatever form it takes...

How to Have a Great Summer Without Spending a Fortune Summer is supposed to feel carefree. So why does it often feel so expensive, exhausting, and full of pressure? In this episode of Now What? , therapist Amy Neufeld explores the hidden expectations we place on ourselves during summer—and why so many people end up feeling overwhelmed trying to create the "perfect" season. From expensive vacations...

How to Catch a Moment Before It Becomes a Memory There are certain moments in life that make us wish we could slow time down. A graduation. A wedding. The last day of school. A child who suddenly looks older than they did yesterday. And whenever those moments arrive, people always seem to say the same thing: "Don't blink." But what if that's actually terrible advice? In this heartfelt episode of N...

Most of us have heard the words "I'm sorry." But have you ever walked away from an apology feeling just as hurt—or even more hurt—than before? That's because not all apologies are created equal. In this eye-opening episode of Now What? , therapist Amy Neufeld explores the subtle but powerful difference between true accountability and what she calls the ultimate "sorry, not sorry" apology. Through...

Most people think anger is about power. About standing your ground. About finally not letting someone get away with treating you badly. But what if anger slowly turns into something else entirely? What if the moment you become emotionally consumed by another person… is actually the moment you lose yourself? In this powerful and surprisingly relatable episode of Now What? , therapist Amy Neufeld sh...

Everyone loves a good comeback story. New hair. New clothes. New habits. A fresh start. But what happens when the same insecurity, emotional pattern, or shutdown response is still quietly running your life underneath the glow-up? In this powerful episode of Now What? , therapist Amy Neufeld breaks down the difference between a real emotional comeback and simply creating a new aesthetic with the sa...

Motherhood changes constantly—but no one prepares you for the emotional shift that happens when your children stop needing you in the same way. One of the hardest parts of parenting isn’t the exhaustion, the schedules, or the emotional labor. It’s learning how to love your child as they grow more independent while your nervous system is still wired to protect them. In this deeply emotional episode...

Why Most Couples Therapy Doesn’t Fix Your Marriage: Amy Neufeld’s Secret to Better Communication Most couples think their marriage problems are caused by poor communication—but according to therapist Amy Neufeld, that’s not the real issue. If communication tools like “I feel” statements, conflict scripts, and therapy exercises haven’t improved your relationship, there may be a deeper reason why. I...

Why Self-Care Isn’t Working: The Difference Between Relief and Real Emotional Repair Self-care isn’t always actual self-care—and if you’ve ever taken a bath, done a face mask, gone for a walk, and still felt overwhelmed after, there may be a reason why. Emotional burnout, anxiety, overwhelm, and stress often require more than temporary relief. They require repair. In this eye-opening episode of No...

If you’ve ever said, “My child is my best friend”… this episode might change how you think about parenting. In this episode of Now What with Amy Neufeld , Amy and Andrea break down why being best friends with your child can actually increase anxiety, weaken emotional development, and disrupt healthy relationships—both now and in the future. While closeness and connection are critical, Amy explains...

Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult—and is it them… or is it you? In this final installment of the Why It’s So Hard to Make Friends series, Amy Neufeld breaks down what’s really getting in the way of connection—and how your own patterns, mindset, and emotional responses may be impacting your relationships more than you realize. Through real-life examples and honest conversations, you’ll...

Making friends as an adult shouldn’t feel this hard — but for many people, it does. If you’ve ever walked into a room and immediately thought “these aren’t my people,” or stayed in a friendship long after something felt off, you’re not alone. In this episode of Now What? with Amy Neufeld , therapist Amy Neufeld explains why adult friendships can trigger deeper emotional patterns that quietly shape...

Grab your pattern map template right HERE! Why does making friends as an adult sometimes feel harder than dating? If you’ve ever looked around and thought everyone already has their people except me , this episode of NOW WHAT will hit home. In this candid and surprisingly funny conversation, therapist Amy Neufeld sits down with Andrea Rappaport and Jami Schaer to unpack one of the biggest struggle...