Not So Normal Parenting | Enneagram, Myers Briggs, Personality, Neurodivergence, Emotional Intelligence

Sara Van Rensburg CEO of Potential Arena and ENTP, Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Perceiving, talks about how she was in school. She shares how you can keep your ENTP from jumping from one thing to another How to collaborate, negotiate and how to communicate in a way that gets them to listen. How they take things apart and cans seem disrespectful How to handle their fast-acting creative mind...

In this eye-opening episode, we delve into the dynamic world of an INTJ Type 1 mother raising her free-spirited ENFP Type 7 daughter. With a focus on the contrasts and complements between the thinking and feeling brains, we explore how these personality types uniquely influence their parenting and child-rearing experiences. Shana, an INTJ mother known for her structured approach and keen sense of...

Are you raising a future innovator, strategist, or systems architect? The INTJ is one of the rarest and most independent types—especially in girls—and their complex inner world can leave even the most insightful parent scratching their head. In this episode, we dive into the psychology behind the INTJ temperament, from their mysterious inner vision to their intense need for autonomy, structure, an...

Join us this week as we dive into a powerful conversation with Maggie Albrow, a special education teacher who brings a unique perspective to autism. Diagnosed herself and raising two children on the spectrum, she shares practical parenting strategies that anyone can use to better understand their child’s needs, whether or not they have autism. We’ll explore how her ISTJ personality shapes her appr...

ISFP children are sensitive, creative, and deeply attuned to the world around them—but they express it quietly. In this episode, we explore their core functions: Introverted Feeling (Fi), Extraverted Sensing (Se), Introverted Intuition (Ni), and Extraverted Thinking (Te) to help you understand their temperament across all life stages. Tune in to discover: How ISFPs process feelings internally but...

Introverted Thinking Lion ISTP (Introverted Sensing Thinking and Perceiving), Type 8 individuals are intellectually sharp but may lack emotional intelligence, making self-awareness essential. Their affinity for systems makes understanding temperament valuable. Female thinkers constitute only 25% of the population, underscoring the importance of teaching appropriate interactions with women. It's cr...

Does your child reverse letters and numbers, struggle to read aloud, forget how to spell simple words—or have a hard time memorizing their times tables? Do they seem bright but often frustrated by schoolwork? These could be signs of dyslexia or dysgraphia, which are often present alongside ADHD, making it even harder for kids to focus, retain information, and feel confident in the classroom. In th...

The ISTP child is a natural-born problem-solver. Quiet, observant, and fiercely independent, they don’t cry for help—they look for tools. In this episode, we break down their four psychological functions: Introverted Thinking (Ti), Extraverted Sensing (Se), Introverted Intuition (Ni), and Extraverted Feeling (Fe), and explore how they shape this hands-on learner at every age and stage. You’ll lear...

ESFP children are magnetic, expressive, and full of joy. They’re known for their love of fun, their strong connection to others, and their ability to turn every moment into a celebration. But behind that sparkle is a need for emotional safety and real-world experience. In this episode, we unpack the ESFP’s psychological functions—Extraverted Sensing (Se), Introverted Feeling (Fi), Extraverted Thin...

ESTP kids are movers, doers, and thrill-seekers. Known for their charisma, quick reflexes, and love for excitement, they thrive when they can learn by doing rather than sitting still. In this episode, we break down the ESTP’s cognitive functions—Extraverted Sensing (Se), Introverted Thinking (Ti), Extraverted Feeling (Fe), and Introverted Intuition (Ni)—and show how these influence their strengths...

What if one parenting technique could reduce whining, tantrums, and interruptions by up to 80%? In this episode, we dive into the research-backed power of planned ignoring, based on the work of Dr. Alan Kazdin of the Yale Parenting Center. Research from Yale's Parenting Center shows that planned ignoring—when used correctly with consistent positive attention—can reduce negative behaviors in childr...

NT personality types—ENTP, INTJ, INTP, and ENTJ—are known for their sharp intellect, fierce independence, and big-picture thinking. But when it comes to friendship, their strengths can also be their biggest struggles. In this episode, we break down how NTs approach relationships using the TRUE framework: Trust, Respect, Understanding, and Encouragement. You’ll learn: ✅ Why NTs need mental stimula...

Do you have a friend who craves deep, meaningful conversations, champions your dreams, and feels emotions with unmatched intensity? If so, you might have an NF (Intuitive Feeler) friend! Known for their depth, passion, and emotional intelligence, NFs (ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP) are the visionaries, dreamers, and counselors of the friendship world. But with their high expectations, sensitivity, and de...

Are you looking for a steady, dependable friend who always remembers birthdays, follows through on commitments, and shows up when it counts? Then you need an SJ friend! In this episode, we explore the Guardian temperament (SJ types: ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)—the friends who hold everything together with their structure, loyalty, and strong sense of responsibility. But just like every type, SJs have...

SP's or Sensory Perceivers in the Myer's Briggs system, are the thrill-seekers, the spontaneous adventurers, and the friends who can turn an ordinary Tuesday into a legendary night. But are they reliable friends, or just here for a good time? In this episode, we break down: Different types of SP friends—from the Party Starter to the Flaky Friend Why SPs struggle with commitment and deep listening...

In this episode, we delve into the age-old debate of nature versus nurture and its impact on our temperament. Discover the findings of an eighty-year Harvard happiness study, revealing that 50% of our happiness capacity is determined by our temperament, which is set at birth. Despite this, we often focus on changing our circumstances rather than accepting our inherent strengths. We explore how tem...

Making friends as an adult is harder than anyone ever warned us about. Unlike childhood, where friendships formed effortlessly on the playground, or college, where connections were built into dorm life, adulthood throws us new challenges—busy schedules, shifting priorities, and the reality that making (and keeping) friendships takes effort. This is a topic I love and have spent a lot of time think...

Every parent dreams of setting their kids up for success—protecting them from pain, offering them opportunities, and giving them the tools to thrive. But what if, in trying to shield our kids from struggles, we’re actually limiting their potential? What if you could give your child a superpower—a mindset that turns challenges into opportunities, builds confidence through healthy struggles, and equ...

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What if the key to motivating your child wasn’t punishment or rewards, but when and how you give recognition? In this episode, we explore the science of random praise and variable reinforcement—a proven method that builds self-motivation and resilience. Learn how to adapt traditional reward systems, foster trust, and tailor your praise to your child’s unique temperament. Whether your child is bold...

Welcome to Not So Normal Parenting, where we dive into the complexities of raising children through the lens of This mom first connected with me after finding my videos on YouTube and reading my parenting book, not just once, but twice. Through our coaching sessions, we developed practical strategies like a token system that gives her daughter the independence and structure she craves while teachi...

Are you struggling to find a therapist who truly understands and connects with your child? You’re not alone. Pediatricians tell me that over half of the concerns they see in their practice are tied to mental health—whether it’s the child the parents, or both. Tody, I’m thrilled to introduce you to a mom I’ve had the honor of coaching. She’s an incredible parent, a natural caregiver, and a communit...

Do you ever feel trapped in a cycle of triggers, reactions, and meltdowns with your child? You’re not alone, and today we’re diving into how to break that exhausting pattern. In this episode, we’ll explore the Trigger Trap Reaction Cycle and why it can make us sound like our own moms or dads—despite our best intentions. You’ll learn how to respond calmly instead of reacting in the heat of the mome...

What do you really want? It’s a question we often answer with things we don’t have—a bigger house, a better job, more time. But what if the most powerful wants are the ones you already have? The partner you chose, the kids you prayed for, the home you once dreamed of, or the life you built step by step. In this episode, we’ll explore: ✨ Deciding again: Stop living in default mode. Revisit your go...

Does your teen claim they’re the last person on earth with an iPhone 12? Or maybe your younger child is begging for a Barbie dreamhouse with a party room and pool while you’re still saving for a dishwasher that works. Entitlement can sneak into our homes, especially during the holidays, but there’s hope! In this episode, we’ll explore 5 practical ways to address entitlement in kids. From getting t...