Narcissism Recovery Podcast

Narcissistic mothers are extremely smothering. With a weak dad, the son of these mothers will come to enmesh and rely on their mother even into adulthood. With no ability to develop a healthy ego and a sense of self, the suffering male will look for female partners who are similar to their mother and look to take revenge on their female partners for what their mother did to them. To heal from this...

Narcissistic abusers live in this state of denial and project the true and shamed aspects of themselves onto victims. This is done to remove these aspects of themselves by punishing and abusing victims for having these aspects. This defense mechanism is in order to never face reality and truth of their situation which includes a self that has been humiliated, shamed, guilted and abused.

Intellectualization is a Defense Mechanism designed to protect the individual from facing their anxiety, shame, guilt and other painful emotions. The individual uses their intellect to rationalize and avoid any accountability as well as vulnerability. Narcissistic abusers use their intellect to outsmart victims and shame them for knowing less. It is imperative to walk away from these type of preda...

Narcissistic abusers abuse others but they are also abusing themselves. In fact, anything that is done to disrespect, mistreat, berate or humiliate the self is considered self abuse. Many people do this and do not realize they are in fact their own abusers. It is important to identify the enemy within and heal the wounded inner child that presents itself as a malicious and abusive inner critic.

Children of narcissists are pitted against each other in order to maintain control by the narcissistic parent. Siblings will start to compete against each other to get the love from the parent. Because narcissists lack any form of unconditional love, the sibling rivalry is manufactured to maintain control and give the narcissistic abuser narcissistic supply. Decades later siblings may still compet...

The Defense Mechanism of Narcissism is one of a false personality in order to protect from facing one’s inner shame, guilt, feelings of worthlessness that reside in the victims true self. The many abuse tactics are designed to manipulate victims to be a source of supply to soothe their inner shame by having power over and controlling victims. The heavily defended narcissistic abuser is using their...

Religious and Spiritual Narcissists take advantage of victims who are in a low place in their life as well as those who are looking for guidance spiritually in their life. This relates to narcissism because of abusers in this way are able to tap in to their victims vulnerabilities and weaknesses and leave them astray where they are serving as a narcissistic supply for the Narcissistic Abuser. It i...

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Projection is a defense mechanism that is done in order to protect oneself from facing inner feelings that have been deemed unlovable and unacceptable by family, friends, and society. Narcissistic abusers will use this defense mechanism at all times as self reflection and self awareness are severely lacking and therefore will be in desperate need to remove these feelings by projecting them on to f...

Narcissistic Supply is what narcissists’ need to fuel and keep in place their false self and fake world. This can come in many forms and is extracted from unknowing victims in the form of love, money, sex, attention, adoration, and anything that allows for the lie of the false self to be supported and reflected back as real. When the Supply is taken away as in the case of when abusers walk away, t...

When deciding to leave a narcissistic abuser one will need to decide if they can contact their abuser or not. In deciding this it is important to determine how dangerous they are, if they will respect boundaries, and ones ability to maintain optimal health when communicating with the narcissistic abuser. If one needs to communicate with the narcissistic abuser it is important to keep emotions out...

Pathological Envy differs from jealousy and simply envy in that is seeks to destroy others and their accomplishment because of a deep hate for what others have that is not had by those with pathological envy. Narcissistic abusers are riddled with envy and because of deep inner shame and feeling insecure look to devalue and destroy victims who are successful, are happy, and in possession of things...

It is not uncommon that a narcissist will also have borderline personality traits. The personality disorders of NPD and BPD exist on a continuum based on how wounded the individual is and how disconnected they have become from their true self. The Borderline Narcissist will tend to have an inner world that is mostly borderline with extreme emotional dys-regulation which is clingy and with a major...

Narcissistic abusers live in a false imaginary world that is split off from reality. The dissociated state that narcissists live in is a defense against feeling inner shame and pain which their true self is experiencing from their wounds of childhood. Narcissistic abusers pull victims into their fake world with love bombing and promises of love when in reality they are recruited to serve and be a...

According to most neurologists and psychologists, 90 to 98 percent of a persons conscious awareness is not actually inside of the individuals awareness but rather existing in the unconscious of the subconscious mind. Wounds of childhood exists in the subconscious and create a faulty subconscious programming that without identifying, dismantling and healing will create patterns that lead to destruc...

Vulnerability becomes extremely difficult for abuse victims who have learned that being so will subject them to mistreatment and exploitation. Vulnerability, however, is a prerequisite for human connection and without it can lead to isolation and extreme defenses that lead to emotional and mental dis-ease. It is imperative to heal from within the wounds of childhood and past relationships in order...

Narcissistic abusers are notorious for boundary violating and disrespecting their partners, friends, children etc. victims may not realize they are being violated and therefore make excuses, back down, or even allow for boundary violations which slowly erode, weaken, and destroy confidence and self esteem. It is imperative to heal oneself and build a sense of healthy self so that boundary violatio...

Narcissistic abusers are aware that they can use shame and guilt to make victims feel badly about minor actions taken that upset them. By shaming and guilting victims, they will look within to correct their behavior and thus blame and shame themselves. The narcissistic abuser will look to groom victims to become the best source of supply as victims work on themselves to please the perpetrator. Vic...

“It's impossible to love someone and control them at the same time" - Terry Crews. There is no better description of the lack of love that exists with narcissistic abusers then this quote. Narcissistic abuse is fake and manipulated relationship designed to keep victims serving as a source of supply. All actions taken and narcissistic abuse tactics by narcissistic abusers are done to maintain this...

Empathy is a natural and later nurtured human trait that allows one to step out of one’s shoes and feel another’s pain. It’s allows for true human connection as two people are able to bond and be vulnerable seeing and experiencing each other’s perspective. Narcissists lack this trait because of early childhood trauma. Narcissists use fake empathy which mirrors back to the victim that they are care...

The Repetition Compulsion is the phenomenon where relationship partners are chosen with specific abuse patterns that are repeating a childhood dynamics of abuse or neglect. The unconscious drive, according to Sigmund Freud, is done in order to gain mastery over one’s inner world where they once felt helpless. It is also done in an attempt to recreate an happier ending where in the past there was a...

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Codependency is a relationship dynamics that includes people pleasing, self sacrificing, and clinging to others in an attempt to avoid inner pain and wounds left from childhood and pst relationship hurts. Codependency often team up with narcissists in a perfect dance that include the codependent continuously giving in the hopes of being loved while the emotionally unavailable narcissistic abuser c...

The Trauma Bond otherwise known as the Stockholm Syndrome, is when a victim is bonded to their abuser with feelings of love and desire regardless of the abuse and mistreatment. The phenomenon is found in narcissistic abuse as victims are often times unaware they are in a relationship with a narcissistic abuser. They will defend, protect, and serve their abuser who will always promise to love them...

How often do you feel like you are never enough, doing enough, or accomplishing enough? Everyone has been plagued by these feelings at one point in their life. Feeling worthless becomes crippling when we buy into the feeling as an indication of personal value. Often times it will dictate self image and choices as fear becomes the driving forces. Fear of being left with intolerable shame and feelin...