My Mother's Trauma

In this episode, host Kim Loliya delves into the complexities of mothering and smothering, particularly in the context of intergenerational trauma and societal pressures. Kim reflects on the toxic culture surrounding New Year's resolutions and the systemic forces that shape our desires for change. The conversation transitions into an exploration of smothering behaviors, their roots in fear and...

In this episode Kim Loliya reflects on the recent Justice in Therapy conference, discussing the complexities of engaging in justice work, especially in the context of familial trauma during the holiday season. Kim explores themes of emotional labor, gender dynamics, racial capitalism, and the impact of migration and displacement on holiday experiences. Kim goes on to emphasise the importance of co...

In this episode Kim Loliya explores 'holding the good' amidst the challenges of trauma and cultural barriers. Kim emphasises that goodness can be found in both significant moments and mundane experiences, and discusses the importance of self-love and community in nurturing this practice. The conversation delves into the impact of trauma on our ability to perceive goodness, the cultural con...

In this episode Kim Loliya explores the complexities of intergenerational trauma, challenging common myths and misconceptions surrounding the topic. Kim emphasises the importance of broadening our understanding of trauma beyond major calamities, recognising the variability in how it manifests across different individuals and communities. The conversation delves into the roles of accountability, fo...

In this episode Kim Loliya explores how different cultures relate to the dead during this season of collective remembrance. Kim reflects on a personal experience from 2023 of experiencing Day of the Dead while in Mexico and the significance of community and intergenerational inclusion in processing grief. The conversation delves into the complexities of grief work, the role of joy and the importan...

In this episode Kim Loliya explores the theme of harvesting, particularly in the context of living in the diaspora. Kim discusses the significance of land, the challenges faced by those disconnected from it, and the importance of land justice. The conversation transitions into defining harvesting both physically and emotionally, emphasising the need for community support and the potential for emot...

In this episode Kim Loliya explores the theme of reclaiming narratives during Black History Month. Kim discusses the importance of recognizing how external narratives shape our identities and the need to consciously reclaim and redefine our stories. The conversation emphasises the collective nature of this work, the impact of societal structures on personal narratives, and the importance of inclus...

In this episode Kim Loliya delves into the complexities of intergenerational trauma, focusing on the theme of the unknown. Kim discusses how uncertainty intolerance affects individuals, particularly those from marginalised backgrounds, and how this impacts their understanding of family histories. The conversation explores the murky waters of inherited trauma, the challenges of naming and acknowled...

In this inaugural episode of 'My Mother's Trauma', host Kim Loliya explores the themes of intergenerational trauma, family wounding, and the complexities of motherhood. Kim emphasises the importance of understanding these issues within the context of systemic oppression and the need for compassion in healing. The episode also delves into the societal expectations surrounding motherhood...

Healing intergenerational trauma needs more than quick fixes and self-care strategies, especially when racism and systemic oppression undermine every aspect of our existence. How do we do ‘the work’ of unlearning our inherited patterns when we’re exhausted? Join trauma therapist Kim Loliya for a different conversation on how to break the cycle through an anti-oppressive lens of justice and liberat...