Mindset in Mayhem

Here’s the truth: I’ve never loved goals. Too rigid. Too boxy. Too much pressure to “get it right.” And yet… without a destination, a map, or even the hint of a treasure, I end up going nowhere. So how do you set goals when your rebel brain pushes back every time? In this short episode, I share: * The importance of direction * Why minimum and maximum goals create freedom (and motivation) instead o...

This episode is a quick but powerful reminder that mindset and your thoughts are the ultimate bio hack. See, your thoughts not only create emotions, they create real responses in your body and life. After looking at research, here’s what you need to know: In this episode, you’ll learn: * How different thoughts create different physiological responses in your body. * Why the way you think about str...

Jo Fiddy and Carla Mardell live on opposite sides of the planet. Neither calls her birth country home anymore. Both became mothers later in life. And both bring women are EFT Master Practitioners with a rare blend of knowledge, lived experience, and deep dives into life’s big transitions. Together they share their own journeys and a desire to vibe higher, overcome challenges, and create more bliss...

Lisa’s in one corner of the world. Carla’s in the other. We chit-chat starting with the relatable chaos of shouting “Fin!” to kids at the beach in Australia and why it's probably not a great idea. Then we get to the good stuff (so hang in there) … What happens when life or your actions rub you the wrong way. It’s not pretty. The body tracks a tanty. Thoughts become doom spirals. You snap. You crin...

Do You Outsource Your Energy and Happiness? I get it. I used to believe other people’s actions controlled how I felt. Praise and I was up. Criticism and I was down.“They did this, so I feel like this.” That pattern runs deep. Families teach it. Schools reinforce it. Society echoes it. And marketing? It engineers it until it feels normal. But here’s the truth: your happiness isn’t in someone else’s...

This isn’t just about 3am thoughts. It’s for the thoughts that create mayhem in your mind, the ones that send you into doom spirals. Because we all have those pesky thoughts that lead nowhere. Nada. Zero. They drain our energy, keep us stuck and pull us down into worry. If your thoughts are loud and wiggly, this episode will help you evict them, and replace them with something that opens you to a...

We want the that thing. We want the benefits that come with the thing. But we just don’t want to do the work. We don’t want to feel uncomfortable. We don’t want to be a beginner. We don’t want to sweat. We don’t want to flex. We don’t want to use the time. We don’t want to learn new systems and processes. In this episode, we explore the aspect of willingness, how it spans the gap between wanting a...

How many times was I told about awareness before I actually got it. Thats because no-one made it easy. And trust me it is. You’ve done way harder things. So why is awareness actually awesomeness, well you can’t change what you’re not aware of. Those thoughts running in the background? They’re quietly shaping your reality, your relationships, your energy. Once You’re aware of them, then you get cho...

We’ve all heard the mantra: slow down, savor the moment, live slowly. It sounds beautiful. But what if the way “slow living” is being sold is actually making you feel more guilt, anxiety, and less calm? In this episode, I’m flipping the script on slow living. I’ll take you inside: * Why the Instagram version of slow mornings and curated rituals doesn’t fit real life (and how that gap between expec...

There’s a Byron Katie quote I love: “When you argue with reality, you lose - only 100% of the time.” And it’s true every single time. But here’s what most people miss: the argument with reality isn’t just out loud, it’s in your head. Every time you think, “This should’ve gone differently” or “They shouldn’t do this,” you’re in that invisible tug-of-war with what is not. And the currency you pay in...

Fun isn’t a luxury. It’s not some reward you get for ticking all the boxes or holding it all together. Fun is fuel. It regulates your nervous system, reconnects you to presence, and reminds you that joy isn’t frivolous, it’s foundational. In this episode, we unpack: * Why fun is one of the most underestimated forms of self-responsibility * Why research endorses fun over professionalism for creativ...

We all want to the best, most likeable version of a human. But doesn’t come from pretending to be someone else or polishing yourself into perfection. It comes from the awkward moments. The ones where you own mistakes, admit what you don’t know, or let people see the real you . That’s the goldmine. It’s what builds like-ability, trust, and charisma. It’s what lets you step up as your most dynamic y...

The Art of Saying No | The Essential Guide to Cultivate Saying No Skills Download a copy here: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/sayno Episode 15 Shownotes Every so often, the best plans go up in flames. Most of us meet that gap between expectation and reality with overwhelm, frustration, or guilt, especially when juggling family, work, and everything in between. But what if you could meet that gap...

Let’s talk about something that’s burning so many women out, especially mums: Saying YES when we mean NO. We keep saying yes because you don’t want to disappoint. You fear someone will be upset, disappointed even. You worry others will judge you as lazy or selfish or not part of the team, and you’ve been conditioned to believe that busy equals valuable. But here’s the truth: Not saying no is costi...

In reverence to school holidays , I’m dropping two podcast episodes focused on motherhood, because no matter how old your children are, this work still carries weight. We all carry patterns, beliefs, habits, and emotional reactions that were never really ours to begin with. And yet, they shape how we show up as parents. (They also affect how we show up as partners and in the workplace, so even if...

You know that moment when you open your wardrobe... and everything just stares back at you? Clothes you bought for a version of yourself you haven’t been in years. Trends you hoped would spark joy but ended up gathering dust. That quiet frustration of getting dressed feeling like a chore instead of a celebration? This conversation with Emma John, founder of Sisterhood of Style, is an antidote to a...

**Language Warning - I say A-hole** Let’s be real. At some point, someone’s going to dislike you. Not because you were rude. Not because you were wrong. But because you told the truth. You set a boundary. You chose yourself. In this episode, we unravel what it really means to be “the arsehole” in someone else’s story—and why that’s often a sign you’re growing, not failing. We talk shadow work, EFT...

Every tenth episode, I bring you behind the curtain- into the real tools I use, return to, and live by. This weeks modality ? Tapping. Specifically, Emotional Freedom Technique, otherwise known as EFT tapping. A practice that, quite literally, rewired how I respond to life. In this episode, I’m sharing the full story: * The surprising night I discovered EFT (spoiler: it wasn’t at a yoga retreat) *...

You tell yourself stories every day. Quiet ones. The ones that sound harmless - “I don’t have time,” “I’m not enough,” “This is just how life is.” But those stories? They’re the invisible scripts running your whole life. In this episode, we dive deep into how those subtle self-talk stories shape how you show up, and how they keep you stuck in overwhelm, exhaustion, and frustration. The stories you...

When life gets loud and chaotic (and let’s be real, it does), that magic? It gets buried under the “shoulds,” the pressure to be perfect, and the weight of holding it all together without ever really understanding your own blueprint. This episode is a real-talk, trial-by-fire conversation between Mel from RISE HUMAN DESIGN and Carla Mardell—two Line 3/5s - the great experimenters who bump into thi...

The first step in choosing a career you actually enjoy? Knowing yourself. The first step in being truly productive—not just busy? Knowing yourself. The first step in having deep, nourishing relationships? Knowing yourself. The first step in making wise investments? Knowing yourself. The first step in parenting with less guilt and more presence? Knowing yourself. We’re unpacking the ancient phrase...

“When you stop judging everything as good or bad - you stop judging yourself as good or bad too” You’ve journaled. Affirmed. Reframed. Held your tongue. Stayed kind. Kept the faith. You followed the rules. Worked on yourself. Tried to stay positive. And yet—there’s still that feeling. Tight. Loud. Unsettled. Like something essential has been missed.. In this episode, we explore: – Why beliefs can...

This episode is for the woman who’s ever whispered, “There’s never enough time.” It’s not another time management hack. Not another thing to add to your list. We’re going deeper—into the invisible beliefs shaping your entire relationship with time to stop the rush and constant worship of the clock hands. Together we’ll explore how old patterns the way you speak about time keep you stuck in busy—an...

If you're not getting self-care moments it's not because you’re disorganised. It's not because you're broken. You've likely got an idea that self-care is an opening night performance - needing perfection... What if you stopped trying to fit into ‘should do’ routines that never truly fit you ? Maybe it’s about discovering that often the best self-care is not in the glow, but in the grit. The stuff...

You’re always thinking, planning, fixing, reacting… but when was the last time you actually felt present in your own life? This one’s for the woman who’s doing it all—and quietly running on empty. It’s your pause-and-reset moment when your brain feels like it’s juggling 47 tabs at once, and you’re caught in a loop of overthinking, anxiety, procrastination, or overwhelm. We’ll explore the quiet cha...