Manage to Engage

Self-sabotage is in the news these days and it inspired me to write a piece about today that I'm delivering in this podcast. It's a door into the paradigmatic processing of reality, which is a big part of my upcoming course that begins April 17, 2025, called The Art of Open Connection . You can find the article here .

This episode is a read and talk on a recently published article on protector styles. We all have them and it's one of the most important things you can learn about yourself. Here's the link to the original article: https://clearandopen.com/protect-yourself-from-change/

It’s been a while since I dropped a podcast as I’ve had a number of other priorities these days, but I do promise to keep it going. I wanted to share a rich and challenging conversation we had in a recent Clear and Open webcast. This was the 8th session in a course we’re currently completing called Intuitive Leadership and Living. Some interesting things came out about challenging values, which in...

Today’s episode is, like the last series, from my course, “The Art of Asking Questions.” We talk a lot about the importance of deep listening and using questions to get to the heart of the matter in this conversation, with some interesting real-time examples. I’m a business coach, spiritual educator, and therapist and I specialize in helping leaders get out of their own way. For more information a...

I offer weekly member webcasts, online courses, and mentorship at clearandopen.com because it’s my truth that – with the right tools – anyone can eliminate the people, money, and time problems holding them back in business. And I share parts of these webcasts and courses on this show because I want to help you, too. This series is from the course entitled The Art of Asking Questions, which you can...

I offer weekly member webcasts, online courses, and mentorship at clearandopen.com because it’s my truth that – with the right tools – anyone can eliminate the people, money, and time problems holding them back in business. And I share parts of these webcasts and courses on this show because I want to help you, too. This series is from the course entitled The Art of Asking Questions, which you can...

I offer weekly member webcasts, online courses, and mentorship at clearandopen.com because it’s my truth that – with the right tools – anyone can eliminate the people, money, and time problems holding them back in business. And I share parts of these webcasts and courses on this show because I want to help you, too. This series is from the course entitled The Art of Asking Questions, which you can...

We begin a four part series today from my course entitled “The Art of Asking Questions”, which you can find at courses.clearandopen.com. I’ll talk about the nature of curiosity, our poor conditioning about learning and what to do about it, how embarrassment can be productive, and a lot more.

This is the third and final part of the excerpts on excellence from my course entitled Embodied Values and Virtues, which you can find at courses.clearandopen.com. In this installment, we relate excellence to the 5 stages engagement, which you may remember from previous episodes, and the dead-end of striving. Then we connect passion work and soulmates to the final stage of flow, the place we’re al...

Today is part two of a three-part series excerpted from my course “Embodied Values and Virtues.” We’re focusing on excellence and apply this to the domains of soul-mates and passion-path today, the person and work that is inextricably intertwined with your destiny.  Spoiler alert: doing your best with what’s in front of you is the path to get there, and we’re not entitled to anything we haven...

This episode is part one of a series excerpted from my course “Embodied Values and Virtues.” The topic today and in the next two episodes is excellence, and it’s quite relevant to the “quiet quitting” stuff we’re hearing about in the news these days. In this episode: why never giving up is bad advice, how will-based excellence isn’t sustainable, and the terror of letting go of what once worked, bu...

This episode is part three of a series excerpted from my course “Embodied Values and Virtues.” We continue the conversation about compassion today by deconstructing the ubiquitous judgment of judgment in our world, and how counter-intuitively accepting and investigating your own judgments can lead to authentic compassion.

This episode is part two of a three part series excerpted from my course “Embodied Values and Virtues.” We continue the conversation about the limits of repressing feelings, fear or otherwise, and the process of dead-ending principles by living them out to their logical extreme. Then we transition from courage to compassion and deconstruct some of the most common misconceptions of compassion that...

The last series was excerpted from my course “Embodied Values and Virtues,” and we’re following suit. This episode begins a three-part series taken from the hour that followed. We talk more about courage and move onto the next virtue on the list, compassion. We talk specifically about the importance of not repressing fear, which is the most common misunderstanding of courage. Related to this, I fi...

This episode completes our four-part series on courage, excerpted from my course “Embodied Values and Virtues.” Today we explore “the cake and eat it too” dynamic, the necessity of diagnosing root causes, living paradigms all the way to their logical conclusion, the red herring of confidence, and finally, to wrap up the series, the punchline: get intimate with your fear. That’s what courage really...

This is part three in the courage series from my course Embodied Values and Virtues.  In this episode, we talk about the similarities between parenting and management and the importance and power of being curious about another’s experience. We also discuss the limits of nervous system regulation based models, treating symptoms vs. root causes, western medicine’s inability to diagnose and heal...

This is part two in the courage series from my course “Embodied Values and Virtues.” Today we talk about the courage it takes to no longer need supervision. The expectation we have to be supervised comes from our school conditioning and unfortunately follows most people well into their adult lives.  We also discuss the courage required to take responsibility for the people you draw and learn...

The next four episodes are excerpted from my Embodied Values and Virtues Course which was live the first quarter of 2022. We spent an hour or so on each of eight virtues of Clear and Open, which I based off of the list created by the Samurai. The virtue you’ll hear about is courage, and in this episode specifically what it means in peer relationships where you don’t have control. I’ll talk about t...

Last week, we learned to recognize that marketing is not an action, but a discipline. And the discipline of marketing leads to the three activities: client fulfillment, lead conversion, and lead generation. Identifying how it fuels each of those is essential to effective marketing. Advertising is only a tiny part of marketing, and it’s a disservice to the art to stop the discussion there.

Most people think they know what marketing is… but they aren’t actually doing it. And those who think they hate marketing don’t even really know what it is. When we hear the word “marketing,” many of us jump straight to advertising. But that’s not right. If we think of marketing not as an activity but as a discipline, the content starts to fall into place. Once you address the beliefs behind marke...

In the coming weeks, we’re going to start talking about what marketing really is and why most people have it wrong. But before we get to that, it’s important to understand why we sometimes find it difficult to get our most important work done. We all have a very limited amount of time to do anything to our best ability, and it usually occurs at the same time each day. When we fill those hours with...

The role of the org chart is to make the responsibilities of each person within the organization as clear as possible. It’s crucial that responsibility is not shared, because shared responsibility avoids accountability. Without accountability, you can’t have consequences. And without consequences, we negate our whole reason for being. The only way we can learn our lessons is by acting out our trut...

to you) brings up all of our deepest existential issues with power and free will. When you try to put someone in a role, it can make their unconscious need for control feel threatened. But, through that friction, and recognizing the consequences of their actions, is where a sense of freedom truly emerges. Our beliefs have to crash with the boundaries of reality in order to discover genuine truth f...

There’s value in a job well done. Think of the difference between a reward earned after some hard work and one you’ve treated yourself to. We value the things we’ve worked towards, but we can often “cheat” our way to the same goal – but doing so isn’t truly satisfying. It’s a lesson everyone, at any level of an organization, needs to learn on their own. I’d love your feedback. Click here to leave...

As humans, we have an innate desire to be free. But we also don’t recognize the realities of freedom. Free will exists: you can do whatever you want. But you can’t escape the consequences of doing it. And the role of life is to hold us accountable to reality and show us what happens when we take our truth to its natural conclusion. I’d love your feedback. Click here to leave a rating & review...