Make Love Work with Chris and Megan Rea

Apparently, if you want a healthy marriage in 2026, you need to know your attachment style, regulate your nervous system, follow the 7-7-7 rule, and apparently micro-date your spouse. And honestly, a lot of these things are really good! Chris and I are huge fans of therapy, self-awareness, and being intentional in marriage. But sometimes we can get so focused on understanding ourselves that we for...

What if some of the things we complain about in our spouse are actually being reinforced by the way we talk to them? Oof. That one got me. It’s so easy to turn a frustration into a label: “You’re lazy.” “You’re too sensitive.” “You never listen.” But when we constantly speak to someone’s worst behavior, we can’t expect their best to magically show up. I want to get better at speaking to who Chris...

Is liking someone else's pictures cheating? What about sending a DM, texting an ex, or having a "work spouse"? Honestly, these are conversations we need to be having. Because the truth is, most betrayals don't start with one big decision. Sometimes they start with small, seemingly harmless choices. A little attention. A private conversation. A connection you don't tell your s...

I think one of the scariest thoughts you can have in marriage is, “I’m just not as attracted to my husband/wife as I used to be.” And I get it. I’ve had seasons where stress, busyness, resentment, hormones, or just plain life can change how we see each other. But I’ve learned not to panic over a feeling or immediately decide, “Well, I guess this is just how it is now.” Instead, I try to ask myself...

If you’ve ever thought, “How do I get my husband to lead spiritually?” girl, I get it. I’ve asked that question too. And here’s what I’ve learned: ‘’You cannot nag a man into spiritual leadership.’’ I tried the subtle hints, the perfectly placed Bible, the “why don’t you go sit on the patio with Jesus?” routine. Chris was apparently not picking up what I was putting down. What works so much better...

How Often Should We Actually Be Having Sex? Honestly? We get asked this all the time. And everyone wants a number. “Once a week? Twice? Three times? What’s the magic answer here, Chris?” But the truth is, there isn’t a magic number. We’ve been married long enough to know that life changes. Babies, toddlers, teenagers, stress, work, health stuff, hormones, you name it. Some seasons are easier than...

I feel like we’ve all gotten marriage advice at some point and just assumed, “Well, I guess that’s what you’re supposed to do.” But some of the advice we hear all the time… might actually be making things harder. In this video, we are talking through some of those really common marriage “rules” and asking, “Okay, but does this actually work?” And I’ll tell you, there are a few in here that might m...

Let’s be honest... sometimes date nights can start looking a lot like sitting on the couch, scrolling Netflix forever, and calling it a night. So we asked AI to plan three summer dates that felt like us, but also pushed us a little outside our comfort zone. And honestly, it did a pretty good job. Some dates were definitely better than others, but what I loved most was that they all got us out of o...

Okay, real talk... if you've been married for, like, five minutes, you already know love doesn't magically make everything easy. We got to a point where we were basically really good roommates. We loved each other, but we just weren't getting each other anymore. Then we started reading a few marriage books, and honestly? They were total game changers. They helped us understand how diff...

Christian marriages often fall into the same destructive patterns as non-Christian marriages because, even though believers have faith, the Holy Spirit, and God's guidance, they are still human. People bring their past experiences, hurts, insecurities, fears, and selfish tendencies into marriage, which can lead to conflict, misunderstandings, and unhealthy relational patterns despite their lov...

Many women are drawn not to perfection, but to qualities that create trust, connection, and emotional safety. Being a good listener, showing strength without being controlling, demonstrating confidence without arrogance, and maintaining a caring, emotionally engaged presence are often seen as highly attractive traits. A shared sense of humor also plays an important role, helping couples stay conne...

Many men are attracted to qualities that go beyond physical appearance, including confidence, authenticity, competence, kindness, and emotional warmth. Women who are comfortable with themselves, genuine in their personality, capable of handling responsibilities, and thoughtful in the way they care for others are often viewed as especially attractive. Physical attraction is important, such as being...

Most couples don’t grow apart because of one major problem, but because of small, repeated habits over time that slowly become irritating. These everyday frustrations—like messiness, noise, forgetfulness, distractions, and communication habits—can build tension in a relationship if not addressed. The key is learning which issues are worth addressing and which are better to overlook. Minor annoyanc...

Marriage requires intentional effort and growth, not just relying on what comes naturally. People often enter relationships without realizing their own selfish tendencies, the significant differences between partners, and the importance of clear communication instead of assumptions. Strong relationships are built by learning to be selfless, understanding each other’s emotional and physical needs,...

Romance in a relationship doesn’t usually disappear on purpose—it fades due to busyness and lack of intentional effort, causing couples to drift into feeling like roommates. Rebuilding that connection doesn’t require drastic changes, but small, consistent actions: thoughtful gestures, regular appreciation, distraction-free conversations, physical affection, shared fun, and intentional intimacy. Ev...

"I Married My Opposite:" The Guide to Making Your Differences Work. Ever feel like you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? Whether its your taste in food, how you spend your Saturday, or how you handle the budgetbeing "opposites" can feel like a constant tug-of-war. In this episode of Coffee with Chris & Megan, were getting real about our own "date ni...