Love This Way!

Send us Fan Mail Somebody else's life is not proof that yours is falling behind.  You can celebrate their engagement while still believing in your own love story. You can clap for their promotion while working toward your own goals. You can be genuinely happy for someone's new beginning without feeling ashamed of where you are. There is room for more than one person to win. Stop treating...

Send us Fan Mail You spend so much time making sure everybody else feels loved, supported, and taken care of. But when was the last time you gave yourself that same love?  You can be a wonderful mother, father, husband, wife, or friend and still be a person with dreams, needs, desires, and a life of your own. You are more than what you do for everybody else. Self-love isn't just about how you...

Send us Fan Mail You can miss someone and still need to leave them.  You can grieve the relationship, the memories, the years you invested, and the future you thought you would have. You can wish things had turned out differently and still know that walking away was necessary. Don't confuse the pain of losing someone with proof that you should go back. You can love them. You can miss them. Yo...

Send us Fan Mail You can be a good person and still be a bad partner. You can have a good heart, good intentions, and still make the person you love feel lonely, unheard, or unappreciated. The question isn't just “Am I a good person?” It's “What is it like to be loved by me?” That answer might change everything. #LoveThisWay #ShaleeaVenney #RelationshipAdvice #Marriage #MarriageAdvice #H...

Send us Fan Mail The person you’re cheating with doesn’t know you. They know the version of you that gets to escape. The version that gets dressed up, feels desired, laughs, flirts, and gets to leave before real life starts. Sometimes what you think is another person is actually a version of yourself you’ve been missing. #LoveThisWay #ShaleeaVenney #Relationships #Marriage #Infidelity #Cheating #A...

Send us Fan Mail In a world that constantly tells us to chase the next thing, sometimes we forget to appreciate what we already have. Your family. Your home. Your people. Don’t risk something permanent for something temporary. And don’t miss the life you have because you’re too busy looking for a better one. Your people are the point. #LoveThisWay #ShaleeaVenney #LoveThisWayPodcast #Family #Family...

Send us Fan Mail Men don’t age like fine wine. Neither do women. We’ve been sold two completely different stories about aging: Men get better. Women expire. Men become “silver foxes.” Women are told to fight every sign of getting older. But the truth is, aging doesn’t exempt anyone. Men experience changes in testosterone, sexual function, sperm quality and fertility. Women experience their own bio...

Send us Fan Mail Some marriages don’t need more love. They need less defensiveness. Because sometimes your partner says, “That hurt me,” and instead of hearing them, you start explaining why they shouldn’t feel that way. They say, “I need more from you,” and you start listing everything you already do. They bring up their pain, and you bring up their mistakes. Eventually, they stop talking. Not be...

Send us Fan Mail You can love each other deeply and still stop building a life together . You share the bills. The house. The kids. The responsibilities. But what are you actually building? What are your shared dreams? Your traditions? Your adventures? Your memories? Your vision for the future? Because marriage isn't about losing yourself to become "we." It's about bringing you...

Send us Fan Mail You don't become roommates overnight. You practice it. It usually starts innocently. Different work schedules.  Different bedtimes.  Different routines.  Kids. And before you know it, you're sharing a house... but not really sharing a life. And the scariest part? The household can still function perfectly while the marriage inside it is starving. I'm not saying you...

Send us Fan Mail Maybe your relationship isn't broken. Maybe you're just exhausted. Sometimes life gets so heavy that the person you love most ends up getting what's left of you. You held it together at work. You were patient with the kids. You answered everyone's questions. You handled the bills. You solved everyone else's problems. And then you come home... and your spou...

Send us Fan Mail Somewhere between the bills, the kids, the grocery lists, the responsibilities, and everyday life… we can accidentally stop dating the person we're already committed to. But being secure doesn't mean you have to stop pursuing each other. You can be married and still flirt. You can be comfortable and still be playful. You can know they're yours and still make them fe...

Send us Fan Mail Most people think the greatest threat to a relationship is poor communication. I don't. I think it's poor character. Because communication doesn't stop you from cheating. Communication doesn't stop you from lying. Communication doesn't stop you from crossing boundaries you know you shouldn't cross. Character does. Somewhere along the way, we've b...

Send us Fan Mail I think we've been measuring love the wrong way. We ask, "How much do they do for me?" But maybe that's the wrong question. Because every relationship has an emotional economy. Every compliment... Every broken promise... Every hug... Every criticism... Every thoughtful gesture... Every ignored moment... They're all transactions. But here's the part no...

Send us Fan Mail Everyone says they want accountability in a relationship. But I think most people misunderstand what it actually is. Accountability isn't saying, "Fine... I already admitted I was wrong." It isn't, "I already apologized." And it definitely isn't, "That wasn't my intention." Because admitting you hurt someone isn't the same as...

Send us Fan Mail Your partner can't read the story you're telling yourself. And that might be one of the biggest reasons relationships struggle. They walk in the house quiet... You tell yourself they're upset with you. They forget something important... You tell yourself you don't matter. The event lasts a moment. The story can last for months. And here's the heartbreaking...

Send us Fan Mail Today isn't just Father's Day. Today is for the fathers nobody checks on. The ones who carry the weight of the world without telling anyone how heavy it feels. The men who lie awake wondering if they're doing enough. The fathers who cry in the car before walking into the house because their family needs them to be strong. The men who quietly sacrifice things their c...

Send us Fan Mail Most people ask: "Can you love me?" But the deeper question is: Can you love me when it hurts? Can you love me when you're disappointed in me? Can you love me when I'm struggling? Can you love me when I'm not showing up perfectly? Can you love me when life gets hard? Because anybody can love when everything feels good. The real test of love comes when hurt...

Send us Fan Mail We spend so much time looking for the big moments in love... The proposal. The wedding. The grand gesture. The expensive gift. But if we're honest? The best parts of love are usually the smallest. Because real love isn't built in one extraordinary moment. It's built in a thousand ordinary ones. And one day, when you look back on the people who loved you well, you pr...

Send us Fan Mail Complacency doesn’t usually destroy a relationship overnight. It happens slowly. The dates stop. The compliments stop. The flirting fades. The effort gets replaced with routine. And the person you love starts feeling less like they’re chosen… and more like they’re just there. Comfort in a relationship is beautiful. Complacency is not. You chose them. So how long do they have to ke...

Send us Fan Mail There’s a huge difference between the spouse who simply doesn’t care… and the one who may get things wrong—but genuinely means well and is trying their best. And if we treat those two like they’re the same… we create pain where there only needed to be patience, perspective, and grace. Not every missed expectation is intentional. Not every mistake means they don’t care. Sometimes y...

Send us Fan Mail Nobody talks about the grief that can exist inside a relationship that never ended. Not all grief comes from breakups. Sometimes it comes from: the romance that never came the effort that slowly faded the emotional connection that changed the version of love you thought you were building And the hardest part is… many people carry this pain silently because “nothing bad technically...

Send us Fan Mail Motherhood changes women in ways people rarely talk about. Not just physically. Emotionally. Mentally. Relationally. A woman can deeply love her children… and still miss herself. And that doesn’t make her selfish. It makes her human. In this episode, we talk about the identity shift motherhood creates, how relationships silently change after children, and why so many women feel lo...

Send us Fan Mail It feels like men and women are at war right now… Everyone has a side. Everyone has a story. Everyone has a reason why the other is the problem. But what if we’re not enemies? What if we’re just… misunderstood? Men are carrying pressure they don’t always know how to express. Women are carrying emotional weight they don’t always feel seen for. Both are trying. Both are hurting. In...

Send us Fan Mail You think you know your partner… But do you know who they are right now ? Or are you still relating to who they used to be? A lot of relationships don’t break because love disappears. They break because understanding stops. People grow. People change. People evolve. And if you’re not paying attention… you can end up loving a version of your partner that no longer exists. In this e...