Live Your F*ck Yes Life

We’re finally doing it — an episode dedicated to all things demisexuality! Understanding demisexuality was the lightbulb I needed in fully understanding myself and how/why my attraction has looked like the way it has. I always felt … weird. Different. And I didn’t understand why I didn’t experience that initial intense physical attraction towards someone, ever. In todays episode, we dive into my p...

One of the most common things I get asked by you all is how I’m really doing post / during my divorce, and I get it. I haven’t really talked about how I’m doing in a direct way regarding this particular piece of my story and while that’s been intentional — I realized that not doing so was also a disservice to all of you and to this process. If there’s anything I’ve realized through this experience...

Did I ever think I’d have a former partner, a queer platonic partner and a platonic life partner together for an in depth conversation around all things queerness? If you had told me a few years ago, I would have been like hell no. I didn’t even know platonic partnership could be a thing back then. AND to have former partners of mine want to participate in my world and be willing to navigate the n...

This is my fifth pride out as a queer person, and I would be lying if I said that I haven’t felt at a loss on how to being to find queer community. Part of queer-ness isn’t just going from thinking you’re straight to knowing you’re queer and then voila, you’ve got the queer life of your dreams. It’s a whirlwind of unpacking comp het, going through queer puberty (I used to scoff at the idea of this...

CW: sexual assault, harassment “Something is wrong with me.” Words I used to think and say out loud all the damn time when I wasn’t feeling turned on enough or when I felt pain during sex or when I started having sex with vulva owners and had no idea what the fuck I was doing. If only I’d known about how trauma and living in a culture rooted in the patriarchy can impact our own body’s (and thus se...

Well, fuck, this episode means the world to me and I am just so damn grateful to get to introduce you all beyond the gram to my queer platonic partner, Kels (they/them). I’ve loved cultivating this partnership over the last year of my life. They mean the absolute world to me, and finding our way into what we are today has been a journey — one that I’m very proud of, and one that we get into the ni...

You probably know them as the trio that started the Multiamory podcast, and I’m so honored to know them as peers, friends and colleagues. When they reached out to let me know that their book was getting ready to be released and that they wanted to come on the podcast to share, it was an easy f*ck yes. If you are new to these incredible humans, Jase, Emily, and Dedeker have spent the last decade ra...

Is hierarchy in relationships ethical? A very important question that folks in non monogamous and monogamous relationships alike have been asking and unpacking and holy balls, do we have a lot to say about this subject. I’ve had a WILD ride when it comes to hierarchy in relationships since I was in high school. Although I didn’t have the language at the time (and internal knowing and understanding...

SHE’S BACK!!! And holy balls is this conversation juicy AF. If you’re newer to the pod, Jordan Shomer (she/her) is a friend, colleague and our very own resident astrologer. Jordan is a Queer Jewish intuitive astrologer who recognizes the patterns and puzzles of astrology and synthesizes them into stories that land on your heart. She believes that within the map of the stars lives a blueprint to he...

I dropped the “I don’t identify as polyamorous anymore” bomb a few months ago & I’m finally sharing the behind the scenes of why I arrived there. I promise you, it’s not what many folks think. So let’s get the fuck into it, bbs. Some things I talk about in todays episode: The mess and the magic of sifting through identity markers to figure out who the fuck you are My own process of feeling see...

You’ve asked for an entire episode on all things relationship anarchy and I’m so stoked to be kicking off the conversation and deep dive into all things relationship anarchy with the one person that’s made me feel the most seen by sharing their lived experience as a demisexual relationship anarchist who has been in polyamorous and monogamous dynamics alike : Abby Rosmarin aka my mutual and friend...

Welcome back to the pod my queer-dos, loves and everyone in between. It feels really fitting to be coming back to the pod at this time of year — not just post the first birthday I’ve had in years that wasn’t surrounded by chaos and pain because of my personal life, but also because this marks the 5 year anniversary of the pod. Crazy balls. So much of the last six months since I saw you last here h...

I wasn’t sure that I was going to share this episode today, but it felt right, so here we are. And, in true Amanda fashion, we’re getting wildly vulnerable and moving through the mess on our season finale of the podcast about something so many of you have been wondering for months: Divorce. Specifically my divorce. This episode is messy, because divorce is messy. This episode is filled with feels,...

Today’s episode is one I honestly wasn’t sure would or could ever happen. If you’ve been around these parts for a while, you will know Rachel Wright not just as the incredible psychotherapist & sex educator, but as one of my dearest friends, collaborators & business partners. From the moment we met in 2018, we instantly knew we were kindred spirits. Meant to meet. And we spent the next few...

How the f*ck do we even begin to feel at home in our queerness, let alone cultivate queer community when we’re starting to come out and own our sexuality? When I first came out four years ago (this month!), I felt SO damn confused. And SO damn alone. And, to be honest, I often still struggle to feel connected to my queerness beyond my individual self. Learning from Kiana and, honestly, just watchi...

We all have scars. The physical ones that we see, and all of the ones that are there that we can’t. But we feel them. We know them. And, sometimes, we discover we have them years into our adult lives and the shame, the guilt, the overwhelm of processing it all can be all consuming and incredibly fucking daunting to face. TW: self loathing, body image, medical procedures/needles In todays episode a...

Coming into queerness later in life. Kink dynamics. Going from monogamy to non monogamy. Abusive relationships. Sex parties & beyond. All of that, and so much more, is explored in Rachel Krantz’s book: Open, and I’m not lying when I tell you I devoured this book in the span of 24 hours and immediately reached out to have Rachel (she/her) on the podcast to get into the nitty gritty of it all —...

Todays episode is all about the “growth mindset” mentality vs. the process of unbecoming, unlearning and coming home to ourselves that so many of you asked Amanda for after her instagram stories last week. As someone who lives her life outside of many of the traditional norm boxes that our society is rooted in, this has been on her heart big time, lately, and it’s clearly been on yours too. We’re...

After our last episode on the various relationship models, it felt only fitting to expand on the relationship model that I know most folks are usually either very intrigued and excited by or absolutely terrified about considering — and that is: solo polyamory . I am not a solo polyamorous person. Never have been, and given my personal values and needs (and inherent biases and privileges), I likely...

Confused AF about what kind of relationship model you actually want because all you’ve ever been taught is monogamy or bust? And even THEN, monogamy has soooo much variability from person to person around expectations, needs, what the relationship feels like/looks like, boundaries etc? Amanda was too. We aren’t taught this shit. We’re just thrown into the world to figure it out by the seat of our...

After a short unforseen intermission, we’re back for the rest of the season and Amanda is kicking off this post hiatus with a solo episode sharing about what she’s been navigating and how she’s really doing. Hint: it’s been really f*cking hard. Things she talks about in todays episode: the intense losses she’s experienced the last 2 years the excavation process of owning identities and navigating...

Okay I know the title is cliche but I did that for a reason ‘cause as we get into people pleasing season around these parts and what causes so much harm to so many of us, I wanted to get into something important we’ve never explicitly talked about on the podcast: expectations. In todays episode, Amanda dives into how expectations have caused a lot of pain in her life, and her system for identifyin...

Happy 2022 loves. Or should I say, WTF am I doing with my life continued. Anyone else feeling this way? I know I am. I always have lots of feelings about new years resolutions, goal setting and beyond. But this year, it’s different in a profound way. And I’m coming at you hot with a solo episode from my heart to yours sharing all about my struggles entering a new year — and I’m guessing you can re...

And just like that, we’ve gone a whole entire year around the sun and it’s time for our yearly astrology recap with the Live Your F*ck Yes Lifes resident astrologer — the one and only Jordan Shomer (she/her). She’s an astrologer, intuitive, cosmic coach, and an Aquarius passionate about leading the charge into the future armed with cosmic consciousness and radical, unapologetic authenticity. Jorda...