Life on Ten

Send us Fan Mail You can be exhausted and still feel unable to stop. That’s the tension we sit in today: the weird, body-level discomfort that shows up the moment we try to rest, like we’re doing something wrong even when we desperately need a break. We talk about how high achievers can get hooked on achievement the way you’d get hooked on a feeling. Straight A’s, awards, being the best, being the...

Send us Fan Mail One small critical comment can feel bigger than your entire track record, and it can follow you into the shower, your commute, and right up to the moment you fall asleep. We get real about that experience and why it happens, even when you know logically that you also received a ton of praise. The answer sits in a very human piece of psychology: negativity bias. Our brains are wire...

Send us Fan Mail “Do you have to do that right here?” sounds like a normal question, but it can quietly fail the moment someone answers it literally. That tiny gap between what we *mean* and what we *say* is where relationships get messy and where neurodivergent people often get unfairly labeled as “rude,” “too direct,” or “not getting it.” We talk about the phrase we keep seeing online, “Clear Is...

Send us Fan Mail Fear can make smart people do strange things. It can keep us quiet in rooms where we should speak, push us into chasing goals we don’t even want, and turn other humans into threats instead of neighbors. Angela and Vanessa pick up their fear series with a deeper look at what’s really underneath avoidance, anger, and the need to scapegoat, especially when people feel their identity...

Send us Fan Mail Fear is not just a feeling, it’s a full-body survival response, and your brain doesn’t always know the difference between a broken bone and a broken heart. We talk honestly about what that means for real life: why rejection stings so much, why you freeze before a presentation, and why “playing it safe” can quietly shrink your world. Along the way, we start with something surprisin...

Send us Fan Mail Boys barking at girls during a middle school PE unit sounds absurd until you hear it from a sixth grader who had to live through it. That moment is the starting point for a bigger conversation about the manosphere, the online ecosystem of misogynistic influencers and “alpha” content that teaches boys to devalue women and blame them for their own insecurity. And it’s not staying on...

Send us Fan Mail What if the right number of friends isn’t more, it’s fewer—and deeper? We dig into how friendship shifts from childhood ease to adult intention, and what it really takes to keep the people who matter close without burning out. From standing monthly dates to “good enough” rituals at home, we share the small, sustainable habits that build trust, survive busy seasons, and make reconn...

Send us Fan Mail Want a calmer mind and a clearer path without adding another hour-long ritual to your day? We sat down with returning guest Jasmine Bailey, author of Healthy by Design, to unpack STOP—a four-part, one-minute framework that turns tiny pauses into real momentum. Think of it as a portable reset you can use between meetings, in the car, or right before bed to shift from frantic to foc...

Send us Fan Mail A new year starts with joy and service and quickly opens into a frank, human look at AI: where it helps, where it harms, and how we keep our voice intact. We get real about the moments you feel the machine creeping in: your inbox tells you “AI is your companion,” your tools draft replies before you do, and the pressure to move faster starts to shape how you think, work, and relate...

Send us Fan Mail A new year, a hard pivot: we talk frankly about why so many boys and men feel unseen, and how that vacuum gets filled by voices that promise strength but sell division. A Netflix story about a 13-year-old who kills a classmate sparked the conversation, but the thread runs through schools, social media, dating apps, and dinner tables. We trace how graduation gaps, higher male suici...

Send us Fan Mail We unpack time poverty, the invisible squeeze that steals discretionary hours and erodes health, and map the cultural and structural drivers that push it hardest onto women. We share practical tools to buy back time, protect sleep, and keep prevention easy. • clear definition of time poverty and discretionary time • examples of unpaid labor and invisible workload • health impacts...

Send us Fan Mail The temperature is rising, and not just in the headlines. We’re feeling the squeeze of creeping authoritarian habits—self-censorship, apathy, and the slow erosion of institutions we once took for granted—so we decided to do something about it. Using Timothy Snyder’s “On Tyranny” as our guide, we break down the clearest warning signs and turn them into practical, human-scale action...

Send us Fan Mail The question "What do you do?" has become America's default conversation starter, but guest Lorna Owens believes we're asking the wrong question. "You are not your job," she states emphatically during this profound conversation. As a nurse, midwife, attorney, entrepreneur, author, and humanitarian, Lorna defies easy categorization – and that's pr...

Send us Fan Mail Angela and Vanessa explore why humans struggle with feelings of perpetual dissatisfaction despite living with unprecedented comfort and abundance. We dive into the evolutionary psychology behind our restless minds and why contentment feels so elusive in modern life. • The evolutionary advantage of dissatisfaction: it drives innovation and progress • Research showing people would r...

Send us Fan Mail Vanessa and Angela discuss a recent Walker family vacation and the subsequent shift in Vanessa's perspective after seeing the contrast of simple island life and the extravagance of the Icon of the Seas, the world's largest cruise ship. 

Send us Fan Mail Angela and Vanessa are joined by Vanessa's 11-year-old daughter Selma to give an update on her ADHD journey. We first listened to Selma in October 2022 when she described her personal experiences with being diagnosed with ADHD, navigating her world and how taking medications made her feel. Now we get an update 2.5 years later and this pre-teen is more neurospicey than ever!

Send us Fan Mail Angela and Vanessa discuss the various changes women can experience before, during and after menopause. They also talk about the societal expectations and lack of general understanding of what 50% of the population experience as they age. 

Send us Fan Mail Angela and Vanessa are joined by special guest Dr. Beatrice Tetteh, a pediatrician who has dedicated her life to helping children regardless of their ability to pay. She services many children who are only able to access healthcare through the Medi-Cal program. Together they discuss the current state of Medicaid in the state and the country. They talk about the realities of what w...

Send us Fan Mail Vanessa and Angela debunk the top 10 medical myths that everyone grew up with. Listen and find out what myths you have heard and why they might not be true. 

Send us Fan Mail On this episode of Life on Ten, Angela and Vanessa discuss the serious ramifications of the appointment of RFK Jr. as the head of the Department of Health and Human Services. A battle of science and pseudoscience is already playing out and the scales are not tipped in our favor. What is at stake for the health of all Americans as he takes the helm?  Listen and find out.

Send us Fan Mail On this episode of Life on Ten, Angela and Vanessa discuss the current state of affairs in the United States government as our president sold power to the richest man in the world and Americans are paying the price. What can we do as we watch our friends and families lose jobs, healthcare, benefits and rights while the richest in America get richer? We have some ideas on how all A...

Send us Fan Mail Angela and Vanessa ring in the new year with a special guest! Welcome Jasmine Bailey to the show and learn about her latest book that helps readers create space to cultivate environments where healthy relationship skills are learned, developed and practiced in order to thrive. If you want 2025 to be your best year yet, listen and gain some additional tools to help you live your Li...

Send us Fan Mail Vanessa and Angela discuss the concerns surrounding the potential appointment of RFK Jr. as the head of the Department of Health and Human Services. What kinds of policy could he influence or derail? And what possible areas could receive additional scrutiny under his stances on health and wellness. Listen and decide for yourself!

Send us Fan Mail Angela and Vaness Discuss the explosion of the 4B movement in Google searches immediately after the election. What is the 4B movement and why is it trending? Listen to find out!

Send us Fan Mail Angela and Vanessa discuss their feelings after the 2024 Trump election win and unpack the ramifications on different members and groups of our society. They focus on what a Trump victory says about Americans and specifically how to navigate the post-election landscape.