Lessons in Self Worth

Send us a text In this episode of Lessons in Attachment , we dive into a common but unspoken challenge for anxious attachers, 'separation anxiety' for adults. While we might think of separation anxiety as something only children experience, actually, it can be a deeply distressing reality for adults with anxious attachment patterns. Whether it’s the constant “what if” worries about your...

Send us a text In this episode, Carly Ann shares a powerful 5 step-tool designed to help you find calm when anxious attachment leaves you feeling triggered and overwhelmed. If you’re someone who struggles with anxious attachment and you have reactive impulses, this tool will guide you to pause, ground yourself, and regain control before taking action you might regret. I walk you through each step...

Send us a text In this episode we explore self-love from the perspective of anxious attachment. Over on social media ( HERE ), Carly Ann has been discussing how to communicate with an avoidant attachment - to do this whilst loving yourself is key. Whether you are single or in a relationship, this episode will provide you with some epic gems to support your healing journey today That's why in...

Send us a text Do you want to communicate better and more effectively with a dismissive avoidant person? In this episode, Carly Ann discusses 5 common communication challenges faced by anxious attachers when interacting with avoidant partners. These are 5 things that push them away (even though you don't mean to). Understanding these mistakes is essential for improving relationship dynamics a...

Send us a text In this episode, Carly Ann shares three practical tools to help you calm your anxiety when it feels overwhelming. Whether you're stuck in a cycle of overthinking or feeling emotionally flooded, these self-soothing techniques will guide you to regain control and find some balance when you have lost yourself. Perfect for anxious attachers looking for quick, effective strategies t...

Send us a text In this episode we dive into the 'Expectation Gap' with our special guest, exploring what happens when life doesn’t go according to plan. Have you ever felt like you’re not where you thought you'd be by now? Maybe 30 feels like you should be further along, or you're panicking about running out of time. This episode is here to break down the pressure and set reali...

Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, you likely know all about being your own biggest critic. In this episode, Carly Ann explores how to quieten your inner critic using the 3 core elements of Self-Compassion, based on the work of Paul Gilbert & Kristen Neff.  If you struggle with anxious attachment,  self-criticism, or self-blame, this episode is for you. We’ll break...

Send us a text In this very honest episode, Carly Ann tackles the often tricky terrain of expressing needs a way that is "reasonable" versus "too much". We’ll share relatable examples that highlight the fine line between healthy expression and being driven by anxious attachment. Discover times it is unacceptable to be called needy VS times we might also need to look inwards. Th...

Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, you likely ruminate - on the past. Over your ex, what you wore, what you should have said, their tone of voice.... and why why why, In this episode, Carly Ann discusses rumination and what makes it worse - amongst that you will take away some tips to help you! Becoming Secure: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course Suppo...

Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? In this episode, we get real about  four times your anxious attachment hits the hardest - when you're most likely to spiral and feel out of control. From the struggles of nighttime to the stress of sudden changes in routine, Carly Ann breaks down why these moments trigger intense anxiety. We will discuss the moments when it feels like yo...

Send us a text In this episode, Carly Ann discusses a tender and often overlooked topic - grief and its deep connection to anxious attachment. People with anxious attachment tend to experience unique and profound types of complex grief, often tied to unmet emotional needs, lost relationships, and the fear of abandonment. We'll explore 5 different types of unresolved grief that can manifest in...

Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? We all have core wounds that live in our subconscious. If you have an anxious attachment style, it's likey you fall into a certain type of wounds. In this episode Carly Ann discusses What core wounds are Impact of Your Core Wounds Anxious Attachment Core Wounds Healing Core Wounds A reflective practice to help you identify your core woun...

Send us a text Are you on a journey of healing your anxious attachment? Well, what exactly does healing mean? There is a lot of misleading information about what it means to heal... what are you allowing yourself to believe? We know it's not easy, right? We know you want it to be quicker...You want it to be easier! That makes sense to us. But still.. what is it?? In this episode Carly Ann dis...

Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment? In this episode, Carly Ann offers a practical tool and five essential questions that you can use daily to help manage your triggers. By planning ahead and taking proactive steps, you can significantly reduce and understand your triggers over time. Tune in to learn how to navigate your anxious attachment and walk away with five powerful questions th...

Send us a text FREE WORKSHOP: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-secure-free-workshop In this episode of Lessons in Attachment Carly Ann gives the key indicators that you or someone you know might be experiencing anxious attachment in relationships. If you often feel insecure, crave constant reassurance, or have a deep fear of abandonment, this episode is a must-listen. We'll break dow...

Send us a text Welcome to Lessons in Attachment! If you struggle with anxious attachment, past experiences can quickly lead you into mind-traps when triggered. Recognising these patterns is crucial for healing attachment wounds and moving from anxious to secure. In this episode, Carly Ann explores four common cognitive reactions that occur when your anxious attachment is triggered. You might exper...

Send us a text Are you on a journey of healing your anxious attachment? Well, what exactly does healing mean? There is a lot of misleading information about what it means to heal... what are you allowing yourself to believe? We know it's not easy, right? We know you want it to be quicker...You want it to be easier! That makes sense to us. But still.. what is it?? In this episode Carly Ann dis...

Send us a text Welcome to Lessons in Attachment! If you have an anxious attachment style, you know the struggle of feeling obsessed and preoccupied with someone you like. Have you ever heard of 'outside-in orientation'? It's a common tendency among people with anxious attachment.  In this episode, Carly Ann discusses some of the reasons behind this obsession and preoccupation you ex...

Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, it's very likely you know all about being triggered and having your anxious attachment system activated. Perhaps your date has cancelled, they haven't text back, or your partner seems different towards you. In this episode, Carly Ann shares practical strategies for managing anxious attachment triggers. Drawing on her personal...

Send us a text Can you sense someone is pulling away? Or maybe they have pulled away? Either way, it feels horrible and you can't stop obsessing over them? In this short series of the podcast, Carly Ann shares some key lessons about her experience with having an anxious attachment - knowing why someone pulls away has helped in the recovery process. This episode is based on a combination of pe...

Send us a text In this short series of the podcast, Carly Ann shares some key lessons about healing her anxious attachment. Using both a combination of personal experience and professional experience (evidence backed research). If you have an anxious attachment style and you're on a journey to becoming more secure, this episode is for you. If you are seeking to become more secure in your rela...

Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style and feel determined to move towards secure? Well this epiosde deep dives into your healing. We deep dive into so much goodness in this epiosde, it wasn't easy to choose a title.  This is an ideal episode if you have questions about the healing process and how to use the tools, this episode is definitely going to help you! In this guest ep...

Send us a text Have you heard the saying "when you know you know".  Well, do you? Is it True That "When You Know You Know?" If You Have an ANXIOUS Attachment Can you really trust your gut in love if you have an anxious attachment? Dive into our eye-opening video to find out!  Carly Ann reveals how anxious attachment affects your love life, why you struggle to know if you'v...

Send us a text Following on from last week's episode where we spoke about why you compare yourself, I am now sharing with you some steps to help you change this habit Comparing yourself is a mind-set that absolutely steals your joy. If you have an anxious attachment style and compare yourself negatively to your partner, their ex, other relationships, or your friends - this is for you. Support...

Send us a text Anxious Attachment often goes hand in hand with the comparison trap! You compare yourself to their friends, their ex, their family. You compare your relationship to other people's or the ones in the movie. You compare them to your ex... it's endless. In this episode, Carly Ann talks about why you compare. And I know, you want to know what to do about it too, that's co...