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So this episode didn't go as planned... and I loved it! The best conversations come from moments like this! Shera the Goddess and I chop it up about how important it is to protect black women.

In this episode, I have a special guest come in to continue our last conversation on how important it is to create a safe space when it comes to pleasing your partner. As I often say, it's about the experience!

We dive headfirst into a conversation that too many men avoid — the importance of actually pleasing your partner in the bedroom. No more quickies and ego-driven performances. We’re unpacking the emotional and physical work it takes to create real intimacy, prioritize her pleasure, and stop treating sex like a selfish sprint. Fellas, if you think you’re putting in work… this might be your wake-up c...

We’re talking first date do’s, don’ts, and straight-up disasters. From phones at the table to the infamous “ghost ‘em after” exit plan, your poll responses sparked a whole convo.

It’s been damn near 2 years, but guess what? We’re back and the block is under construction! In this episode, I’m breaking down the art (and chaos) of “spinning the block” on past relationships—especially in the poly world. Buckle up, because we’re talking growth, second chances, and why some streets you just shouldn’t drive down twice. Let’s get into it!

We all know relationships have ups and downs. And we have either seen or been in a relationship thats become toxic. It seem that nowadays, relationship toxicity has not only become a source of entertainment, but its totally normalized and not taken seriously...Until it's too late. Let's talk about it.

So Im sure we all can agree that these new kids ain't shit... from a lack of respect for adults, to their total disregard for life in general.. lets talk about it. Oh yeah, those trash ass hobosexuals too!

Remember playing the game of telephone as a kid? When a group of friends gathered in a circle, to whisper a sentence to one another, and pass it along to laugh at how ridiculous the sentence gets by the time it's gone through several rounds of the group. In the end, the sentence/message is completely misunderstood. That's what happened to Kue recently and it wasn't nearly as fun as it was when we...

Do you think you would allow your ex to pick your next partner? Not on any malicious, get-back ish, really taking what they learned from being in a relationship you, and seeking that in a new partner for you. Interesting concept right?! We happened upon a show with this premise called After Happily Ever After. Their are many different relationship dynamics and an so much drama. Hell, they had Iyan...

Fifty percent of marriages in the US end in divorce, and finances has proven to be the number one reason for divorce. If money is the main issue for divorce in monogamous relationships, it can arguably be a bigger issue in polyamorous relationships. Join us this week to discuss some things we do to help us maintain financial stability while dating.

Love Bomb? I never knew it was a thing.. So lets talk about it!

All sexual activity comes with risks, pregnancy, STIs, or STDs, so most people use barriers (condoms) for protection. The only way to truly avoid risk is to abstain from sex. I’m sure they’re some people who do, but it ain’t us! Lbs! Fluid bonding is the decision parties make to stop using barrier protection during sexual encounters, and exchange bodily fluids. What are some reasons people become...

ENM is supposed to be a safe place, with no judgement but I’m sure as most of us have learned, that’s not always the case. This week we’re talking the many ways that we judge one another in polyamory. How can we avoid doing this in the future. Join us as we discuss ways to be more open and honest with ourselves so we can be less judgmental in our relationships

As we’ve discussed previously, the “umbrella” of ENM is quite large. Throughout our journey, we’ve noticed that some forms of ENM overlap. On our journey to polyamory, we found swinging first. Years later we learned that many people had a similar experience. Almost as if the two forms of ENM overlap. Join us this week with special guest, our friend, host of the podcast Coffee with Mrs. Crawford, E...

Anxiety has become pretty common these days for many reasons, but what is anxiety? How does it affect one mentally and emotionally? How does it affect their partners? Join us this week to discuss our journey coping with Elle’s anxiety. Mental health awareness is important to us, and we want to continue to shine a light on it. Take a listen and learn how you may be able to help someone you love bet...

In this FIRST EPISODE OF 2023 we are gonna dive deep into this viral TikTok that posed the question, Why men choose the "Plain Jane" over the "Pretty Girl" to settle down with?

We’ve never shied away from sharing things we’ve done wrong along our journey. Hell, that’s one of the reasons we created the show. Our thought process has always been, if we worked through it [poly struggles and growing pains] and grew stronger, maybe we can save some people heartache, so they don’t have go through it. With that being said, in this episode we’ll be letting you all in a little mor...

Have you ever experienced building a connection with someone, thinking things are going well, then responses to text messages and phone calls become slower, then you start getting excuses for them not having time for you. Then boom, they just vanish. Well, that act is known as ghosting. Over the years, it’s become much more common. So much so that, one of the major music channels created a tv seri...

Y’all know we try to keep things fresh, so this week, we wanted to play a game. Not just any game, as seen on VICE, BuzzFeed, and Glamour, {THE AND} is a card game for couples designed to create a space of openness, honesty, and vulnerability with no judgement. Join us as we dig deeper into our relationship and share a little more about ourselves. I hope you enjoy listening as much as we enjoyed p...

I feel in recent years, I’ve learned that our dynamic, hierarchical polyamory, is frowned upon. I damn near feel like most ppl would put hierarchical polyamory in the ghetto barrel with unicorn hunters. Lmao! Sad, but true. So what does hierarchical polyamory mean to you? We’re going to talk about what it means to us, as well as some of the negative connotations that come with it.

Just like there are red flags in mono dating, there are red flags when dating poly. Let’s be honest, if you’re not a good person, it doesn’t matter if you’re in one relationship or multiple relationships simultaneously, your relationship(s) will likely be shitty because you are! This episode we talk about some common red flags in polyamory.

We created our podcast to educate POC on ENM, specifically polyamory. One of the main things that inspired us to do it was the MANY f*ck ups we made along the way. There was no user manual for ENM for us. We didn’t even know there was a community, so we wanted to bring awareness and education to it. My goal is to help some ppl avoid the mistakes we’ve made in our journey. With that being said, we...

We all have had partners who feel they got that good good... but is it really? In this episode we talk about the MANY way one may know they got that WAP or that weak meat!!

Knowing and embracing someone’s love language(s) can be the ultimate cheat code for dating. Paying attention to the little things that make your partner happy can get you far! But what are the 5 love languages? Do you know your partner(s) love languages? How do you ensure you’re catering to your them? Join us this week when we dive into knowing and embracing your partner(s) love languages.

Let’s talk consent. Everyone needs it, so why don’t we talk about it more in polyamory and ENM? We openly talk about the importance of communication, intimacy, and sex, so why not consent? This episode, we’re going to talk about it! What does consent mean? How can you ensure you don’t get or give mixed signals when discussing consent? Join us this week to learn how you can ensure you have no blurr...