Kill The Silence

I went live on a Sunday with no script and no topic. Just an open room and whoever wanted to sit in it. 40 people showed up, and we talked for 45 minutes about the stuff most people only think about at two in the morning and never say out loud. People dialed in from San Antonio, San Diego, Miami, Louisiana, Costa Rica, West Africa, and right here in Detroit. Some of them said straight out that the...

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You Didn’t Know It Had a Name Nobody sat you down and explained what was happening. There was no moment where someone said your parent was emotionally unavailable and here is what that means and here is what it will cost you later. You just grew up in a house where something felt permanently off and spent the rest of your life trying to figure out what that something was. This is what it cost you....

You didn’t do anything wrong. You know that. Somewhere underneath all the second-guessing and the stomach-dropping anxiety, you know it. And yet there you are — apologizing. Again. For existing. For reacting. For taking up space. This isn’t weakness. It isn’t stupidity. It is one of the most sophisticated survival adaptations the human brain can produce. And someone taught it to you on purpose. He...

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