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The case for a slower childhood to help kids congruently meet their developmental milestones. Why we need to resist adultification amidst pressure for kids to think, speak, and act like mini-adults.

Here’s how social media and mobile internet use re-wired our social and emotional instincts to make us more primal, pre-social, irrational, inward, and inauthentic.

Many of today’s kids are being raised by the internet and its apps and algorithms are taking on parent-like roles. Here's how the internet is replacing our connections with companions and caregivers.

A lot has changed over the last few years when it comes to our use of screens, social media, and the internet. It turns out, there are significant costs associated with being online way too much.

Unpacking four reasons why struggle is necessary: Stress is required for evolution. Challenge is required for growth. Discomfort is required for adaptation. Frustration is required for resilience.

Reflections on a six-month fast from social media. I wanted to share the questions I'm asking myself after taking time away from addictive apps and algorithms.

The case for a new direction when it comes to the way we approach our emotions. Emotional honesty as a pathway for becoming free.

Holding ourselves back from progress, leaning away from our strengths, freezing in the face of fear, reclaiming our worth, and taking ownership over our lives.

What if this happens? Or what if that happens? Well what if this? What if that? A deeper look into the way we think and react in times of stress. What to do when you have a case of the "What Ifs".

Sometimes our stress and anxiety drives our helping response. What to do when your anxiety drives you to intervene beyond reason, plus a few notes about resisting the anxious urge to solve it all.

Mattering is a core human need but we don't talk enough about why mattering matters. This week, I'm peeling back the therapy curtain to bring you the questions I ask my clients when I get the sense that they feel like they don't matter.

A note about confronting our most challenging moments, the courage that comes from facing what’s in front of us, and the importance of turning towards instead of turning away.

Disappointment, dissatisfaction, and life regrets. Examining the brain's tendency to wander and long for a different reality. Navigating the struggle of wishing things were different than they are.

Rising rates of loneliness, unprecedented rates of separation and divorce, a drastic decline in friendships. We need to keep talking about social connection, how to stay in relationships, and how to strengthen our collective social health.

Many of us feel like we aren't good enough when we aren't doing enough . The state of constant chase keeps us chronically pursuing goals without ever feeling a sense of accomplishment. There's another way.

Unraveling the control paradox— how we manage our fear of not having control by trying to gain more of it. How to release our need to be in control of outcomes and let go of our tendency to control others.

Keeping up with appearances is far from enjoyable. It’s exhausting to pretend like everything is fine all the time. It’s annoying to constantly perform as the person who has it all figured out. It’s frustrating to feel like we have to conform to achieve a sense of belonging. The burden of maintaining a facade of unwavering positivity, even when our true emotions and experiences don't align, can we...

This week, I'm talking about our tendency to take on other people's emotions. This can happen at work, in relationships, and with our close family members. At its extreme, this is a pattern known as emotional enmeshment. In this episode, I talk about how to build emotional autonomy, reclaim our own emotional identity, and curb our tendency to take on the emotions of everyone around us. Read the fu...

Lately, I've thinking about how common it is to believe that busy is better. This week, I'm talking about how to break free from being busy and how to shift from chaos to calm. It's hard to let go of our need to be busy and drop the identity of "the busy bee". For many, it's just not easy to find stillness and take off the busy badge. Read the full article here: Breaking free from being busy by Ja...

"Everyone seems to have it all figured out!" "Why can everyone do it but me?" Moving beyond picture-perfect and resisting the performance of wellness. Shattering the illusion of effortless wellbeing. Read the full article here: The illusion of effortless wellbeing by Jake Ernst on Substack