Intimate Covenant Podcast

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Matt & Jenn talk about pre-marital sex and the impact it has on our marriage relationship and in the marriage bed. Sex outside of marriage has consequences — whether it’s before or after marriage, with your spouse or with someone else. Often (especially for women) these experiences cause barriers of shame which make it difficult to fully enjoy sex within the p...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Matt & Jenn respond to some listener questions about overcoming the disgust response in our sex lives — that unconscious grossed-out reaction that we might have to some forms of sexual activity.  Differentiate your sexual preferences from God’s sexual boundaries. Disgust is a learned behavior and can be a significant sexual brake for those of us with a sensiti...

Send us Fan Mail Sex should never be painful - emotionally, spiritually, or physically. In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss some common problems that might cause sex to be painful  for a woman and what you might be able to do about it. There are a number of reasons why sex could be painful for women. Proper assessment and therapy by a doctor and/or physiotherapist may be required.  When sex i...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the two most common problems that occur for men in the bedroom, erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE). If you want to function better with your wife, stop masturbating by yourself. Do something about your sexual dysfunction! Your reluctance to deal with the problem is making your anxiety worse which is making the manifest...

Send us Fan Mail Today on the podcast Matt and Jenn compare the blight of mercy sex and the art of a quickie. Stop settling for mercy sex. Don’t accept it. Don’t offer it. Sex is for connection, not just to use your spouse’s body or to be used.  On the other hand, a quickie is a great tool in a sexually and emotionally healthy marriage. A quickie can offer one or both of you a quick recharge and r...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Matt & Jenn are answering some of your questions! We love getting your emails -- keep them coming! It really helps us to know what you want us to talk about and how we can best help your marriage! Today we discuss a listener’s email that has several great questions included about female arousal, arousal aids, masturbation and more! Embrace fantasy as a way to...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss some exciting news about what's happening with Intimate Covenant outside the podcast and we chat about what couples can expect from the upcoming annual marriage retreat. 1. THANK YOU! We’re deeply humbled by the success of the podcast. If our message has helped your marriage, we would be incredibly thankful if you would share, rate and...

Send us Fan Mail This week Matt and Jenn continue their discussion about setting godly expectations for marriage by asking, "Am I expecting too little for my marriage?" In some marriages, one or both spouses are content to settle for “good enough” or “better than.” This is not a reflection of the quality of relationship that Christ demonstrated towards His Bride, the church. A godly spou...

Send us Fan Mail This week, Matt & Jenn ask the question, "Am I expecting too much for my marriage?"  One of the most harmful misunderstandings about marriage is when we behave and act like my spouse is given for the sole purpose to make me happy. As a result, we often expect too much from marriage. It’s not wrong to want to improve your marriage relationship. But, it is wrong to fir...

Send us Fan Mail Matt & Jenn discuss setting goals for your marriage in this New Year by asking the question, "What do I want from my marriage in 2021?" Mature past the selfish motivations of relationship and begin to see the true fulfillment of covenant love built on self-sacrifice — in your marriage and in your relationship to God. For 2021 (and everyday), ask the questions, “What...

Send us Fan Mail This week, Matt & Jenn unpack their emotions after giving away their daughter in marriage. How are we feeling and how does this experience change our perspective on our own relationship? Be sure that you've invested in your own marriage. Otherwise, when you give your kids away, you'll have given yourself away, too. It's possible and necessary to hold both joy an...

Send us Fan Mail This episode includes an excerpt from the 2020 Retreat titled, Redeeming Sexual Desire — Unlocking the Path to Sexual Arousal . The section that we’re sharing with you is about addressing a common sexual brake  — self-criticism. Jenn will challenge you to consider that how you treat yourself will impact how well you can enjoy your sex life. If you would like to join us for next ye...

Send us Fan Mail This week on the podcast, we're sharing an excerpt from the 2020 Retreat titled, Honoring the Romance of Redemption. This session considers principles from the timeless, romantic love story of Ruth and Boaz. We hope that your marriage is blessed and motivated as we approach the new opportunities of a New Year! Download our free resource titled, What Does Sex Mean To My Spouse...

Send us Fan Mail Today on the podcast Matt and Jenn are talking about Christmas. We all know Christmas time is supposed to be the “most wonderful time of the year” but reality is- it’s often full of a lot of tension, stress, and conflict. Specifically, for married couples, there is often conflict regarding how sexual Christmas should or should not be. Credit Paul Byerly for starting the the Annual...

Send us Fan Mail Matt & Jenn  discuss the wide wet world of sexual lubricants. Who needs them? When to use them? And how to choose one? Wetness and hardness are not accurate indicators of your arousal level. Accessory lubrication can enhance the sexual experience, even if you are a perfectly normally functioning person. Sex lubricants are broadly categorized as water-based, silicone-based, and...

Send us Fan Mail Matt & Jenn discuss the relational, emotional, and physical challenges of pregnancy and introducing babies into your marriage - specifically, how these challenges affect your sexual relationship. Both husbands and wives must recognize the strain that conceiving, carrying, and raising babies will have on a marriage relationship, especially in the bedroom. Be willing to frequent...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss making the moves to make it happen — that anxiety-filled, over-thought, and over-done vulnerable moment when a one spouse propositions the other for sex. We'll tackle some questions like:  Who’s responsibility is it to initiate sex? How does one initiate sex? Is there a reliable go-to move or pick up line? And we’ll even offer some pla...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode we’re talking about maintaining your sexual relationship during the stress of the holidays. Protect your spouse. Make sure they know that you’ve got their back when you are at family gatherings. Prioritize your spouse and your relationship. You absolutely MUST make time to continue to connect with your spouse, even at the expense of making others happy - including...

Send us Fan Mail Matt & Jenn discuss how to develop a vocabulary and language for your lovemaking so that you and your spouse can effectively communicate about your sex life.  Talking about sex improves the quality of your sex and your relationship. You must have vocabulary to learn a language. Know and name your parts. Define the types and kinds of sex that you are having. Helpful Resources r...

Send us Fan Mail In response to listener email, Matt & Jenn discuss the unique dynamic when the wife is the one with higher sexual desire. Higher desire wives, recognize that you are normal. You and your spouse don’t have to fit the stereotypes to still have a fulfilling sex life. You do still have to work at your relationship  - just like everyone else, just in a different way. Wives, You can...

Send us Fan Mail Matt & Jenn discuss the typical pattern of female sexual desire and arousal. "Normal" is not what you've been led to believe! Tapping in to sexual desire is a choice! Female sex drive starts in between her ears not in between her legs. Most women are not sexually aroused until AFTER they have chosen to engage in sexual play with their beloved. To have great sex,...

Send us Fan Mail Matt & Jenn discuss the five reasons people seek or avoid sex.  The 5 motivators toward or away from sex  are: pleasure, intimacy/connection, procreation, approval, and coping. Each motivator may be driving you toward or away from sex. Understand what motivates you toward or away from sex so that you can tap into your positive motivations and confront those negative motivation...

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Send us Fan Mail Matt & Jenn offer some very practical ways to build intimacy in the four realms of your marital relationship: spiritual, mental, emotional & physical. Intimacy is not just a euphemism for sex. It’s so much deeper. It means knowing and being known. Building intimacy is the goal for your marriage relationship. Building intimacy in all realms of your relationship requires an...

Send us Fan Mail Matt & Jenn share some joy from the 2020 Marriage Retreat by playing excerpts from the live Question/Answer session. Experience a little piece of the atmosphere and the fun that we have at the Retreat! Shout out to some of our Retreat Sponsors: Married Dance GhostSherpa Websites That Sell Check out our new website . (Get a free PDF) Sign up for the webinar , October 23 Make pl...