Intelligent Intoxication

Anger is not a problem - it is a helpful, useful emotion that can instigate positive action. Anger only becomes problematic when we react to our anger or direct it at others.  I invite you to consider these questions: How willing are you to feel your anger? How often do you react to anger and direct it toward others? When do you notice becoming immobilized or shut down in anger? What can anger tea...

Is it really true that we can only really know who we are in juxtaposition to others? I invite you to consider these questions: When does it serve you to compare yourself to others? When doesn’t it? When does it serve you to compete with others? When doesn’t it? When do you compare your gifts and talents to the strengths of others? When do you compare your passionate talents to the interests of ot...

When we believe that “one size SHOULD fit all”, we unconsciously believe that there’s no room for being or doing things “differently”.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you expect yourself to think or feel the way others do? When do you expect others to think or feel the way that you do? When are you resistant to ask for what you really need? When do you feel like you don’t have a...

Tattling is not the same thing as “informing”. In fact, “cancel culture” is just another type of “tattling”.  When we inform, our intention is to provide someone with information in order to EMPOWER them or someone else.  When we tattle (cancel), our intention is to BLAME them or someone else, thereby ensuring that someone is: punished publicly shamed overpowered humiliated inferior When we tattle...

“Starting where we are” means to allow the present moment to be your baseline - the starting point from which you can measure your continuous progress.  I invite you to consider these questions: What’s your “baseline” starting point in regard to your: health? life satisfaction and enjoyment? energy level? passion or excitement?   I invite you to click on the link below to book your complimentary h...

We must be willing to celebrate our progress. We tend to look at how much we still have to do, yet we must equally measure our progress and celebrate it fully.  I invite you to consider these questions: What progress have you made: today? this week? this month? this year? What prevents you from celebrating your progress?   I invite you to click on the link below to book your complimentary happy ho...

There’s a difference between being introverted and being socially anxious.  Introverted people tend to: recharge from within enjoy solitary pursuits relax and unwind alone A person who struggles with social anxiety may experience: worry about doing something embarrassing in public avoid interacting with people get fixated on potential “screw-ups” in social settings feel frustrated and lonely becau...

Because we’re human beings with human brains and bodies, we are going to get triggered at times when we’re in a social setting or scrolling on social media.  We tend to get triggered when we compare ourselves to others in regard to: appearance/attractiveness/clothing wealth/income education/intelligence gifts/talents/strengths social status/relationship status success/achievements career/job child...

As a classroom teacher, I’d have my math students complete the “three most difficult problems” first. My reasoning was this - if they could successfully solve the most difficult problems, there was zero need for them to do any of the other problems.  In your professional or personal life, what tasks are your most difficult? Get in the habit of doing these tasks first in order to “buy back” time or...

When we don’t get “equal air time” or feel seen or heard, we may feel excluded, rejected, or left out.  I invite you to consider these questions: When someone else gets “more time” than you do, how do you tend to respond? Do you tend to: fight for equal air time? run away from the situation because it feels too stressful? shut down and feel incapable of speaking up? tip into people-pleasing in an...

We can “have our own backs” before, during, and after triggering or stressful situations.  Before you enter the stressful/triggering situation/environment, try this: tell yourself the truth: “I don’t want to go.” take control of the decision to go: “I’m deciding to go.” decide the minimum amount of time you’re willing to be there: “I’m willing to be there for 20 minutes or until I… “ While you’re...

In education, a LEARNING CONTRACT is an agreement between a student and a teacher regarding what the student is responsible for learning and completing.  We, too, have “learning contracts” in our relationships. When you feel an energetic charge (positive or negative) with another person, you share a “learning contract”.  I invite you to consider these questions: With whom do you share a learning c...

When we keep things that we don’t love or use, we are sacrificing valuable space to store these items.  We unconsciously keep and store more than possessions. We also receive: opinions advice comments compliments criticisms obligations expectations “shoulds” I invite you to consider these questions: Which possessions are you tired of keeping or storing? Which opinions, advice, comments, compliment...

Here’s my working definition of “bright lines”:  “Anything that is clear and - not murky or questionable.” In her books Bright Line Eating and Rezoom, author Susan Pierce Thompson teaches a “bright line” approach to ending food addiction: no sugar no flour measure the quantity of food you eat establish consistent meal times “Bright lines are boundaries that you just don’t cross, no matter what. An...

Every Monday, I tackle any “unfinished business”. Here’s my working definition of “unfinished business”:  “Any task, project, or commitment that’s been considered or started yet not finished, completed, or closed.” I invite you to consider these questions: What have you started yet not finished or completed? Do you still want to complete it? Do you have the same sustainable energy to complete it?...

Labels can be critical or empowering. When labels instigate “black and white thinking”, they don’t serve us or others.  Invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice labeling others? When do you label yourself? Are your self-labels empowering or critical? When someone labels you, what do you make that mean about you or them? What’s your intention for labeling others?  When do you noti...

We tend to procrastinate, avoid, or put off tasks on our “To-Do” lists that feel too complicated, too hard, or too painful.  We can break down painfully hard tasks into small, actionable, “easy” steps.  Instead of writing down “finish my taxes”, try writing down the one, next, small, actionable step to take: “Print Amazon receipts for January 2022.” Once it’s done, cross it out.  By doing this, yo...

As human beings who desire and thrive on connection to other people, we are triggered when other people don’t like us or have negative opinions or thoughts about us. But, there’s a difference between “caring” what others think AND basing your decisions and choices on your attachment to what they think or feel about you.    Invite you to consider these questions: Whose opinion matters too much to y...

When we say “I like THIS - but I like THAT more,” we simultaneously acknowledge that we do like engaging in habits or actions that don’t serve us long term AND we prefer to do something even better.  “I really like eating sugar and flour AND I like how I feel without it MORE.” “I really like drinking wine AND I like sleeping well and waking up refreshed MORE.” I invite you to consider these questi...

You must know what’s OK and what’s NOT OK in the relationships you have to OTHERS.  It’s NOT OK to: shame or guilt another person blame them for your feelings lash out at others when you’re angry or triggered expect another person to be 100% compatible with you expect others to anticipate or assume what you need self-sacrifice to meet the needs of others push yourself past your capacity  act like...

You must know what’s OK and what’s NOT OK in  the relationship you have to YOURSELF.  It’s NOT OK: to blame yourself or feel at “fault” for having: a neurodivergent brain experiencing anxiety or depression having ADD or ADHD feeling what you feel to avoid taking responsibility for your brain, mental health, or emotions label yourself: “I’m a procrastinator, a flake, stupid, bad… “ to SHOULD yourse...

Amor Fati is a latin phrase that means to “love one’s fate”. If we “love” our fate or circumstances, it means that we resist arguing with “what is” and we accept them as they are.    However, before we are ready to champion “loving our fate”, we must first feel and heal “what ails us”.    I invite you to consider these questions: When you revisit difficult or challenging circumstances from your pa...

Thank you for listening to this podcast - because of YOU, we have achieved almost 15,000 downloads! I’m so incredibly grateful for you!   When we judge our “success” as inadequate, insufficient, or “not enough”, we are in lack and blocking additional progress and abundance.    I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice achieving results and still feeling like a “failure”? When do...

There are five elements or components of differentiation:   content (what you to need to learn) process (how you learn it and how you apply it) product (what you create and who you create it for) environment (the circumstances you require in which to change) assessment (how you’ll measure your progress)   Teaching Gifted Kids in the Regular Classroom by Susan Winebrenner.   If you want to make you...

There are five elements or components of differentiation:   content (what you to need to learn) process (how you learn it and how you apply it) product (what you create and who you create it for) environment (the circumstances you require in which to change) assessment (how you’ll measure your progress)   Teaching Gifted Kids in the Regular Classroom by Susan Winebrenner.   If you want to make you...