Instant Mom

If you’re considering solo motherhood (or even partnered motherhood!) you may be wondering if you can really swing it by yourself. It’s scary! There are so many things to consider before deciding to be a parent — and especially a solo parent. Tune in as I walk you through a framework to evaluate your decision based on financial, logistical, physical and mental considerations.

If you’re navigating a new or suspected ADHD diagnosis for your kiddo, let me throw you a life preserver. Navigating an ADHD diagnosis is a little like fumbling around in the dark — so consider this a tiny flashlight to help you figure out which resources and next steps you might want to consider, from one experienced parent to another. NOTE: I forgot to add step 9: obtain a neuropsychological eva...

The bio parent, and the foster parent are on the same team. Let’s talk about how you build that team to be strong and powerful!

Foster well requires a unique selflessness and a lens of service. We are not saviors. This isn’t about us. We are not the heroes of the story — or even the main characters. Check out the list of beliefs and values every foster parent should hold true in order to foster well.

Let’s all take a deep breath before we dive into this potentially hot topic of foster care influencers. How do we share our foster parenting experiences without crossing the line into martyrdom, saviorism or outright exploitation? Let’s talk about it.

Afraid of open adoption? Confused about what it means? Check out this episode to hear all about navigating (and embracing!) an open adoption.

Navigating how to answer that BIG question: “Would you adopt your foster child?” It’s a big leap — emotionally, financially, physically — from answering the call to foster to saying yes to forever. How to understand if you’re called to foster… or to adopt.

Mediation happens when a case plan is changed to adoption and the prospective adoptive parent (often time the foster parent) presents a compelling offer to the bio parents in the hopes they’ll voluntarily give up their parental rights. It’s… kind of icky. And an ethical minefield. And filled with all sorts of unfair power dynamics. Learn about our own mediation experience and what I think of it al...

Foster care is designed to preserve a family — not break it up. Let’s talk about why it’s not okay to wish for a case to end in adoption and how foster parents can and should support bio parents.

Can you believe it’s almost been a year since the last episode? Find out what happened to baby Olivia, how Makel is doing in college, and what’s new with me and Jack.

Olivia‘s birth mom changed her mind and decided to parent. Hear about how we are handling that and how we’re helping to support the new family through our grief.

Surprise! We adopted again! Learn more about how 3 month old Olivia came into our lives as perhaps our biggest surprise yet.

You asked, I answered. Behavioral challenges, finances, dating, future plans, how to prepare for a placement, and more!

It’s a grab bag today! An update on the health scare of our teen, why we won’t use an adoption agency to grow our family, and for the love of God, kids in foster care don’t need your donated socks.

So many people are afraid to foster teenagers — and until roughly 30 days ago, I was one of them. Listen to an update on what I’ve done right and wrong (so far) and how life as a mom of a 3 year old and 17 year old is going.

Remember a few weeks ago when I said we were taking a break from fostering? Well, here we are, one week away from an amazing 17 year old girl joining our family. Listen to find out how in the heck that happened.

Here’s a little mixed bag of life updates: Maggie’s status, visits with Jack’s birth parents, keep Jack’s little brother for a weekend, becoming a host family with Safe Families and... my love life.

The most gorgeous two day old baby girl joined our family over Memorial Day weekend. This multi-part episode navigates what it’s like to say yes to a placement, — from that first phone call from the caseworker to picking her up at the hospital to settling into a new routine together at home.

Today I’m talking about my very first placement, a gorgeous three month old baby girl. Hear what I did right, what I did wrong, and how being a mom for the first time changed me

Well here’s a situation we never thought we’d be in — solo parenting during a lockdown in a pandemic. Tune in for an update on our situation and some Q&A.

Find out what happened with the teenage girl we were getting to know, and what’s next for us along our foster care and adoption journey.

I’ve learned a lot in the past four years of fostering, and I cringe when I think of some of the mistakes I made earlier on in my journey. Let’s talk about what I’ve done wrong — and how you can avoid making the same mistakes.

From a listener submitted question: How do you balance a demanding career with being a solo mom? My answer: Carefully, and sometimes at the cost of my mental, physical, and financial health.

Curveball alert! We are in the early stages of getting to know a sweet teenage girl who might eventually join our family. Let’s talk about the harsh realities teens in foster care face when they “age out,” what getting to know a teen in care is like, and how this all might work.

You’ve got questions, I’ve got answers. In this two parter, I’ll answer listener-submitted questions about foster care and adoption.