I'm Uncomfortable

From the stress of merging stuff (goodbye, perfectly organized spices!) to the awkward realities of sharing space and habits, we unpack all the small things that can make moving in both exciting and terrifying. How do you maintain your independence while blending lives? Is it really worth it to compromise on your favorite spatula? And how do you navigate the chaos of it all? Tune in for honest lau...

Betting on yourself and taking a risk (especially on an idea that's been sitting with you forever) is scary! But it's necessary. We sit down with Linda, founder of The Ugly Bao, to dive into the journey of self-confidence, resilience, and the art of unapologetically choosing yourself. After securing a high paying job after earning a million degrees, Linda shares her story of stepping into a family...

The men have entered the chat! In part 2 of the friendship breakup series, we get to hear from and about the men. From accidental tate-stans to boycotting abusers and dealing with friends whose partners control where they can and can't go - tune in for more listener submissions! Watch Pt. 1 if you missed out! Find us on Instagram @imuncomfortable.podcast DM us with any episode ideas or guest recom...

We all know breakups can suck, but what about when your best friend becomes a stranger, you're outcast from the friend group, or you feel like someone is just using you? We asked listeners to share their real, raw stories of friendship breakups and were overwhelmed with how many of you responded! Some ended unexpectedly, painfully, and sometimes even without closure. From silent fades to explosive...

"When I picture my future, I don't see you as part of it." If you've ever found yourself not eating, feeling like a zombie going to work, or struggling to do anything after a breakup, you're not alone. After her relationship unexpectedly (to her) ended, Jessica found herself spiraling into a pattern of neglecting her physical and mental wellbeing. Struggling with substances and food, Jessica final...

"There comes a point where you have to make a decision – stay in my career...or try this new thing?" Entrepreneurship can be a risky and terrifying thing. We sit down with Louisa, the founder of Mestiza Filipina, to hear the incredible story of how she left behind a successful career as a scientist to pursue her passion for bringing a modern and approachable twist to Filipino fashion. Louisa share...

Trusted by Balenciaga, Toyota and Marriot – Kyle Lam took us on a sound healing journey. If you struggle to meditate without feeling like you’re forcing yourself to sit still and “empty your mind”, get ready to immerse yourself in a whole new way to zen our. We’re talking SOUND BATHS with the incredible sound healer Kyle Lam who breaks down what sound healing is (spoiler: you’ve probably already e...

Whether it's organizing a group project at 32 or speaking up to boomer women at work - we dig into the uncomfortable habit of over-functioning and feeling like you're always taking the lead. We explore why women, especially, are conditioned to minimize themselves and constantly question their actions.  Join us as we hear personal stories, discuss sibling dynamics, and unpack the idea of be...

A few drinks post breakup, a discussion about self-worth, and the revelation of "alpha male" texting techniques led Vanessa and Melissa down the rabbit hole of alpha male influencers. Marketed as self-improvement (which we love) these influencers often lose the plot and warp into misogyny and toxic ideologies.   When did men start believing that society is stacked against them? We trace...

Ever felt like when it's good it's really good, and when it's bad it's awful? Maybe one moment your partner is lovey-dovey, and the next, they’re cold and distant. Maybe you feel like you're the only one holding the relationship together. These are just some of the warning signs that you may be in a toxic relationship.  We share our experiences of having been in them ourselves ...

Laying in bed with her boyfriend, content and happy, Vanessa suddenly thought: "Enjoy it while it lasts!" then: "WTF?" Ever find yourself waiting for something bad to happen, or thinking about what could go wrong, just when you're at your happiest? That's foreboding joy—a defense mechanism where we brace ourselves for bad news or disappointment when things are going wel...

Is it imposter syndrome, or are you actually not qualified? In this episode we try finding a new job - reading job descriptions, writing 500 different resumes, getting to stage 4 in the interview process only to get that dreaded "Thank you for your time...". We share practical tips on finding your confidence, making the application process more efficient, and questions you can ask during...

It might SOUND gross, but having a "rot" day may just be exactly what you need! "Rot day" seems to have originated as a concept on TikTok, where users share content related to self-care, relaxation, and indulgence. It's essentially a designated day to take a break from the usual responsibilities and activities to focus on prioritizing your well-being and recharge your batte...

If you've ever had a friend disappear after getting into a relationship (or if you've been that friend...) you know balancing your friendships and your relationship can be challenging! Who do you prioritize when date night lands on the same night your friends want to hang? How do you manage your expectations of your friend's time if they're in a new relationship, or if they get mar...

Sometimes doing something new or scary can feel impossible - what will people think? What if I fail? We get stuck on the "right" way to do something or the "right" choice to make that we actually end up feeling stuck (and doing nothing at all). We get into the clingy "what-ifs", how to face the actual worst case scenario, and ways to take small actions (that may lead...

It sometimes feels like college was just yesterday. Other days you realize it isn't as close as it once was. Millennials specifically have faced a lot of L's (losses) in comparison to our parents - from being told our coffee or avocado toast habits are the reason we can't buy a house to college costing 100x more to putting off having kids/getting married because "in this economy!?...

Armed with Chat GPT, the color picker tool, and our time of birth - we pit the Color Matching trend against the Venus Sign trend to see which worked best for helping us determine our personal style. You may have seen these trends and wondered if you should pay for the Astra subscription or $300 to get color matched yourself. Don't worry - we got you with this try. Tune in to find out which pro...

We think of voice as a product, an end result, but how often have you thought about what it feels like as it's leaving your body? Have you been in talk therapy repeating the same patterns of ideas? Carrie and Ellen join us in this episode to talk about sound as play, the neuroscience of sound, and share how somatic work allows us to come back to our bodies in a way that can be deeply healing. ...

We've got some juicy listener submissions in this episode - and some crazy stories of our own! Weddings can be beautiful, wonderful, crazy, stressful, horrific times. We get into why weddings (especially being in them) can be such an uncomfortable and stressful time. From bridesmaids fighting in the Vegas club line to bachelorette activities going way over budget, we share our own "first...

"Rotting" sounds great in theory, but if you're not used to resting and taking the time to recharge it may cause more anxiety than anything else. Inspired from a text reminder from Melissa to Vanessa, we explore why intentionally getting rest can feel uncomfortable. We discuss the pitfalls of rest as a reward, how to start small (even if it means scheduling in rest time), and share o...

What if instead of counting down the days until your period ends, you tracked your cycle...the entire time? Melissa has been a fan of knowing the science behind the cycle but Vanessa shares why she was so reluctant to track her period. Like, what men used to do to women (and might still do) in a misogynistic way?! No thanks. BUT over time Vanessa's mind has changed, and yours might too if you&...

Throwing up your hands and saying "Jesus take the wheel" (even jokingly, shout out Carrie Underwood) can be uncomfortable AF. But no matter how much you try, sometimes the only thing you can control...is yourself. In this episode we discuss what it's like to be the planner, organizer, and person "in control" of the details - which sometimes leads to feelings of burn out or...

What happens when you force yourself to be uncomfortable? For Vanessa, it meant finding out pottery was not for her. We're diving headfirst into the wild world of discomfort and exploring how leaning into those cringe-worthy, awkward and sometimes terrifying situations can actually be the secret sauce to leveling up in life. Vanessa reveals her secret new hobby and Melissa sets clear rules for...

"It's not you, it's me" is a real thing. We kick this season off exploring the discomfort breaking up, making up, and dating brings. Whether it's the angry break up, the mutual break up, and the "what even was that" "break up", we cover the importance of defining boundaries after a relationship or friendship ends, why "block them" isn't alway...

Do you know the difference between being empathic, thoughtful, and caring and being a people pleaser? As self proclaimed "recovering people pleasers", we're excited to spill the tea on eight dead giveaways that you might just be a people pleaser too. We discuss how trying to please everyone can please no one and the negative effects that bending over backwards can have on your mental...