If I were your coach

What if the thing keeping you stuck isn't the situation itself—but your resistance to it? We spend enormous amounts of energy trying to escape what we don't want, hold onto what we're afraid to lose, and force circumstances to become something other than what they are. But resistance has a strange effect: the harder we push against something, the more force it can seem to exert back on us. In this...

Our attachments to what WAS bypasses what IS evolving every moment. To love, create, inspire, and capture what is possible in life is often held hostage by the attachments that have leverage over us. We use strategies, tactics, and manipulations to desperately hold on to realities that are no longer true. Shame often at the heart of the hurt and fears we are seeking to minimize, translates as 'thi...

As part of being human we seek to make the unknown known. To avoid loss, to avoid threat, to have a sense of control. Through constructs, assumptions, and Boolean logic we all lead with our conclusions. "If this, than that." And the longer we are alive, the more we value and limit ourselves with these anchors. These core constructs have the intelligence of beginning with a solution and ending with...

Why do we know exactly what to say to hurt the people we love most? In this episode we explore the shame hiding beneath our arguments—the moment hurt turns into blame, criticism and the need to win. Through candid stories about marriage, family and emotional triggers, the conversation asks what becomes possible when we stop trying to make someone else feel our pain and finally reveal what we're ac...

Witty, fun, and entertaining. Melora Hardin and Breck give us the experience of knowing when to work and how to work when navigating yourself to an extraordinary life. Along the way we talk about core defaults, when you are operating from two extremes of a survival response. The deception is that you think you are doing something different to change the outcome, but your survival response is provi...

If you are trying to prove something you are on the wrong path, if you are creating something you are on the right path. As the subtle difference between the two makes all the difference. When you are underwater, when you are under threat, we all have something we say. It is there all the time, and it is proving a point. The point being proved every time it comes out of your mouth.   "Nobody is ta...

Two fathers talking about parenting for an unusual take on navigating all that comes up when kids come into your life. A meandering conversation to appreciate your unique journey as a mom or dad, bringing to light that no one has it easy.   Take stock and know it will be a messy ride of love and loss when finding freedom in chaos. Children are the manifestation of every unresolved issue of their p...

"Love is an interruption in where you thought you were going and what you thought you knew." - Breck A continuation of the core series, Core Connections is how our behaviors interact in relationships.   When the best parts of one another connect it is magic, when the worst parts of each other connect it can be a blood bath. Noticing when the relationship is stuck by our vulnerabilities is key in h...

The way into everything and the way out of everything is communication. And everything is a function of communication and relationship. Your anxiety will distort your communication and your relationships to various aspects of your life. As complex as we are, it is not easy to know when you are navigating or when you are pushing your own head underwater. The Core Series is an evolutionary process t...

Jeff Greenberg has fit an enormous amount of life into life. As the CEO of the Village in Los Angeles, gold records adorn many of the halls of his studio. Huge names have cut legendary albums and recorded some of the most incredible music in recent times.  For someone who had signifcant challenges with sobriety and following through on most anything, his transformation has been and still is tremed...

When we are triggered, reactive, feeling competitive where we are not competitive, trying to promote ourselves inconsistent with our skill set or our self-expression; we are all equal. And we do one of three things, we get aggressive, we withhold, or we get confused. We often know when we are in the deep end of the pool when acting out of this reactive state. It is much harder to know when we are...

You have got to be able to lose, otherwise you are held hostage. Having the ability to move through loss and the fear of loss is a cornerstone of transformation.  Loss of love, money, relationship, sex, career, craft, health, and so many other areas affect our ability to move, create, connect, and communicate effectively.  The fear of loss alone is enough to create paralysis.   Listen and connect...

Anxiety. Not a theriputic definition, is something you should have control over you fundementally don't. I know I have it, I accept I have it, and I have the possibility to create with it. We will see if we can open up a conversation that has you speak up about your disfunction and have something to say about it. Find a relationship to it, kiss it, and create with it. This can be any disfunction. ...

In this episode, we introduce the context that your 'story' is driving your life. You come in with a story. Not that this is the truth, however exploring this interpurtation allows for the possibility of a different relationship to your life. Knowing your story and then working with that story, is a creative way to change the course of your life.   Connect more:   Guide to navigating the best and...

Mollie Birney is incredible. She has seen enough, done enough, and tackled enough to be such a contribution to so many people. A coach with sharp intellegence, formitable leadership and a huge heart. She joins us to bring the work to life and presence her path which she shares with so many to transform her life and thiers.  About - Mollie Birney Connect more:   Guide to navigating the best and wor...

If noise is the fuel, identities are the affect.  Identities are a way you want to be seen or a way you don't want to be seen.  Understanding your identies is key. In this episode you will become familiar with all the ways you want to be seen and how it dominates your life. As, all ones upsets come from constructs of identities. Connect more:   Guide to navigating the best and worst parts of yours...

Noise. The internal dialouge and commentary that has taken up residence in various aspects of your life.  Despite your desire to keep it around or get rid of it.  Noise will always have you and drowned out what you have to contribute.  No noise is the game.  Connect more:   Guide to navigating the best and worst parts of yourself: www.coreconfusions.com Consulting: www.breckcostin.com ; www.bryanm...

Generally, something has to breakdown before we reachout. In this conversation, we will travel around to examine the look and feel of transformation to recognize the path we are on.  "If you don't change the course of your life, it will mostly go the way you have already concluded." You have to do an inventory of your life. You might find there are things you know you struggle in and there are thi...

 Where most people start their life from… an introduction to a conversation about absolute freedom. Connect more:   Guide to navigating the best and worst parts of yourself: www.coreconfusions.com Consulting: www.breckcostin.com ; www.bryanmitisek.com