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You don't need to stand up for yourself. You need a "self". Saying "Hey, Wait" is just the beginning. The real magic? Learning how to actually speak from your own reality. If you've been with us from the start, then you already know how much Nancy Dreyfus means to Jay. She's been Jay's mentor for years, and has shaped so much of the "Hey, Wait" approach you've been hearing about. Think of Nancy as...

Listen in as Jay shares a deeply personal update about a recent health diagnosis and how it is requiring she shift everything in her life. If you are an overfunctioning woman exhausted by people-pleasing, hear why confusing a capacity problem with a discipline problem is costing you everything, and how to finally begin listening to your body. Jay Moon Fields is a Somatic coaching expert and the ho...

Have you ever felt like you go missing in your own life to keep others comfortable? Fawning is an unconscious survival mechanism rooted in the nervous system that prioritizes someone else's happiness and demands over your own experience and boundaries. This episode features two fawners in recovery exploring how to break that trance, stop performing helpfulness, and start trusting your own internal...

Have you ever wondered why it can be so hard to stay in your body during moments of intimacy? This episode explores the deep connection between your nervous system, your body, and your capacity for pleasure.  Lisa West is a physical therapist, bodyworker, and yoga practitioner of over 30 years and the author of the book Follow the Feeling, A Roadmap to Emotional Freedom. She has worked with client...

People pleasing, perfectionism and codependence, oh my! Are you exhausted from constantly managing the people around you and performing for safety? If so, this is the episode you need if you want to stop looking outward for validation and actually feel safe being yourself. Beatriz Victoria Albina is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Somatic Coach, and the author of the bestselling book E...

I used to think I was just "bad with money." After my divorce at 23, I walked away from everything and gave my ex-husband all my savings out of guilt, stepping into a money story defined by debt, scarcity, and shame. But now I understand that my problem wasn't a lack of financial literacy—it was financial trauma, and if you've ever felt a tightness in your chest when checking your bank account, or...

When life gets overwhelmingly "lifey," your nervous system might be sending you signals of perceived danger and threat. This episode explores the power of pausing to track the physical sensations happening in your body and offers a simple path to reconnect with the quiet, peaceful trust inside you. Jay Moon Fields is a coach and educator specializing in nervous system regulation and somatic awaren...

You have pyrobably heard it your whole life: "You're too sensitive." If you feel things deeply, get overwhelmed easily, and notice every detail of everything, you might be wondering why you process the world with such extraordinary depth. Today we explore what it actually means to be a Highl Sensitive Person (HSP) and why it is a neurophysiological trait rather than a stress response. Muriel Kosov...

Lily Shepard walks (and dances) her talk. She's a trauma-informed movement educator and somatic stress relief practitioner who teaches women how to live and lead from their bodies, not just their heads or conditioning. We discuss what happens when you realise you have been taught to perform as a person, and how to transition from performing your life to actually living it. Discover practical tools...

What happens when the path you've been told to follow starts to feel intolerable?  In this episode, we explore the uncomfortable space of not knowing what's next and the courage it takes to choose what actually delights you instead. Jay and Sasha dive into the friction between cultural expectations of consistency and the messy, multifaceted reality of a life lived in alignment with one's curiosity...

Today's episode is about grief. Or at least it starts out that way, but the conversation evolves into being about authenticity, purpose and desire. And weirdly, as you listen, you'll find that these topics make sense together. Because for as heavy and all-encompassing as grief feels while you're in it, it's inseparable from some of the most essential questions in life. Who am I? What am I here to...

Have you ever felt like your nervous system is pressing the gas pedal and the brake at the same time? In the first solo episode of Season Two, Jay explores the often-overlooked "Fawn" stress response, a survival strategy that prioritizes connection over authenticity. If you find yourself shape-shifting to please others or losing touch with your own needs to keep the peace, this episode will help y...

This week's episode feels less like an interview and more like a homecoming. Jay sits down to steep in a conversation with Angelo Lazenka, one of her main mentors who shaped her life and work.   Angelo is wilderness rites of passage guide and the former Director and President of the School of Lost Borders. He has worked with thousands of individuals seeking growth and insight in the wilderness and...

I have a feeling it would probably land as truth for you if I said to you, Sweetie, you're doing too much. Almost every client I've worked with lately has been struggling with this—the desire to slow down paired with an almost panicky inability to actually do it. I've felt it myself over the past few months, as I've been forced into a much slower pace and lessened capacity due to some unexpected h...

If you're a highly sensitive person, you move through life differently than other people. You know what it's like to feel other people's emotions as if they're your own. To struggle to sort out what's your energy and what's someone else's. To walk through the world feeling like your nerves live on the outside of your skin. Today's guest, Dr. Maria Furlano, has spent her entire career helping highl...

Anger is a powerful and often misunderstood emotion. For many, it's an emotion to be suppressed, a sign of being out of control. But what if anger, when harnessed correctly, could be a force for good in your life?​ Today's guest, Dr. Mitch Abrams, is an expert in sport, clinical, and forensic psychology, and the author of I'm Not Fucking Angry!!! Adjust the Flames to Get What You Want and Need. He...

Do you ever feel like you're constantly running at 100 miles an hour, stuck in a state of high-functioning anxiety? You know all the "right" things to do for self-care, but you just can't seem to slow down, feel present, or access that inner wisdom. You might know what to do, but you can't actually do it. That is exactly what today's guest, Erin Washington, has experienced. Erin is the author of F...

Betrayal is a uniquely painful human experience that can shatter your sense of self, your health, and your ability to trust. What if there was a predictable path to move through the devastation and emerge stronger on the other side?​ Imagine turning your deepest personal pain into a mission to heal others. That is exactly what today's guest, Dr. Debi Silber, did. After experiencing life-altering b...

Do you ever feel like you're dating the same person in a different body, repeating the same painful relationship patterns over and over? Many of us search for a love that completes us, only to find we've lost ourselves in the process. This cycle of relating is more common than you think, and it has a name: love addiction. That is what today's guest, Jodi White, is here to unpack. Jodi is a license...

Is your relationship with work your most unhealthy one? In a culture that prioritizes constant production and consumption, it's easy to feel like you're just a cog in a machine, disconnected from your own vitality and purpose. The pressure to hustle is relentless, and the system can feel impossible to escape. What if the antidote isn't working harder, but divesting from that system altogether? Tha...

Have you ever felt like an imposter, terrified of being "found out" as unqualified, despite your successes? What if the key to overcoming that fear wasn't to "get it together," but to get radically honest and build your own unique toolkit for mental fitness? You may know Stephanie Szostak from her roles in hit films and shows like The Devil Wears Prada, Iron Man 3, and A Million Little Things. But...

What happens when your job becomes your entire identity? For many high-achievers, the line between a strong work ethic and a work addiction can become blurry, leading to burnout and a disconnect from what truly matters. Imagine building your identity around being "good at work" since elementary school, only to realize that the success you chased left you feeling empty and anxious. This was the rea...

Aging is part of the human experience, but as our bodies change, so must our approach and mindset toward caring for them. Imagine going from being an elite athlete and coach to Olympic track and field athletes, to barely being able to move only a few years later. When you have spent your 20s identifying as strong, physical, and healthy, losing the ability to move freely can feel like a devastating...

Why is it so hard for so many of us… to simply be ourselves? No one becomes a Somatic Healing Coach by accident. Learning to connect with what you feel on the inside doesn't always come easily. For Jay, that realization began after one of the most painful experiences of her young life, separating from her first husband. In this very special and illuminating episode of the Hey, Wait Podcast, Jay si...

The world may try to tell you otherwise, but you have the sovereignty to choose the kind of life you want to live. When we think of improv, we often picture shows like Whose Line Is It Anyway? or Saturday Night Live. While improvisation on TV can be incredibly entertaining, choosing to improvise in life by saying "yes, and…" can move you away from the scripted path others expect and toward a life...