HERself

Dr. Angel Montfort is a mother of four and a perinatal mental health psychologist. She understands the heaviness that comes with motherhood and is here to coach us through the changes and challenges this role brings. This is an episode we both wish we would have had when we were brand new to motherhood. We hope it hits home to those of you struggling through the baby blues, mom guilt, speaking to...

Shayla (known as @heyshayla on Instagram and YouTube) has a hilarious yet real take on motherhood. She is the mama who questions everything and gets all the answers so we don’t have to do the research. Ummm, yes please sign me up! We loved talking with her about her pandemic pregnancy, marriage after kids, and how she talks about the tough stuff to help others not feel so alone (but also where she...

We invited our husbands back on for their 6th HERself podcast interview! This one takes a different spin as a follow up from @decoding_couples in episode 79. We talk through a partner’s perspective on relationships after children, where we can continue growing in our communication, prioritizing marriages in full seasons, and how finding ourselves as individuals can improve our marriage. This is a...

We have had several therapists on the podcast but Jenna is the FIRST who specializes in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). The perfectionism, intrusive thoughts, and over-checking many of us do can be linked to OCD and these can all increase postpartum. Luckily there are solutions we can start doing today to reinforce a healthier habit and future for those who do struggle with these issues and J...

Mom guilt. It is something that can feel so heavy and can change as the seasons of parenthood change. We are always evolving and with it, comes a new set of skills and strategies to help us through. This week, we follow up from episode 12 on how mom guilt looks different in our lives, where we have grown, the new challenges that have popped up, and where our listeners are experiencing mom guilt. L...

Stacey and Rachel from @decoding_couples join the podcast as two therapists who are experts in the ways couples communicate. They detail out the feelings many women in our community are having around “my partner doesn’t get it”, the unfair division of household work, and how much our marriages and relationships change after adding children to our family. This is a great one to listen to with your...

Today we are reflecting back to our very first episode! These are some of the hard questions we asked in episode one and in many instances, we have grown. But there are some that we are still working on. Since we recorded the first episode, our world is different. Our lives look different. But our message and impact are the same: let’s keep taking the steps to find our better selves! BetterHelp Co...

Dr. Mona joins the podcast this week. As a pediatrician and mother, she gives a unique perspective on caring for our kiddos AND making sure we support us as mothers along the way. She also pulls in her personal experience with birth trauma and how women can begin to heal from such a tragic event.  Dr. Mona is an advocate for helping women through the 4th trimester and beyond and it shines brightly...

Let’s be honest for a minute: how are you at setting boundaries? Maybe you need to be more clear in your communication to others. Maybe you need to take action and not give in when there is a little pushback. Maybe it’s actually setting them for yourself and with yourself so you can quit feeling burned out, resentful and have energy to do the things that are most important to you. Fueled by the wi...

As a pediatric physical therapist and mother, KC opens up in today’s episode on a variety of topics. If you know her from Instagram, you’ll see a whole other side of her today. We dabble in milestones, we get deep on anxiety, and she shares what has worked well for her on this motherhood journey in hopes to help some of our listeners who may be going through the same. Thank you, KC for sharing you...

This one is jam-packed full of good information! Alyssa has years of experience in her dietitian practice and weaves in personal stories that are SO easy to relate to. She has a way of helping women break the chains and find food freedom and makes the steps to get there super tangible. Much of what we learned about eating and issues surrounding food started in childhood and Alyssa walks us through...

Mom rage. It happens to most of us at one point or another and can feel debilitating and shameful. But you are not a bad mom. Let me repeat that… you are NOT a bad mom, you are simply a mom that is overworked and not getting your needs met. Like an iceberg, there is much more below the surface. In order to feel better as mothers, we need to get to the root of the issue instead of just focusing on...

In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, Kat Herro joins us with her story and a message that feels like a warm hug. Infertility affects 1 in 8 couples and we know there are many members of our community who are in this special group. The tests and procedures can be a lot on a relationship and on a person and Kat goes into the details of her journey and where she and her family are at toda...

Dr. Ashurina Ream (known as @psychedmommy everywhere) is back on the podcast today. Dr. Ream is a psychologist who is certified in perinatal mental health.  We covered SO many important topics in this interview. We spent the first half of the podcast talking about body image- diving into specifics about why many women struggle with this and what you can do to start improving yours. Before focusing...

In today's episode, we cover some of life's biggest transitions. Motherhood, job changes, and the transition into post-pandemic life. We talk about the ways that we've navigated these transitions- our stumbles and experiences.  Just like in most episodes, we don't have the answers for you. But we do have some prompts that you can think about- including checking in with your OWN...

Elicia Shepard joins the podcast again and brings a real take on her life as a stay-at-home mama. Her vulnerability with topics like isolation in the pandemic, sex and intimacy struggles in the early baby years, and finding purpose outside of motherhood were inspiring. This episode helps to build a bridge between mothers who work outside of the home and those who stay home with their children and...

As women, there are many areas where we can edit our life to become the best version of ourselves. The little things we do on a daily basis can add up to big changes over time. We all know the heavy feeling of overconsuming thoughts and being pulled into an unhealthy obsession at times. Pairing that with a need for multitasking and it can be a recipe for disaster. Today we discuss a few strategies...

Chasity from @momfully.you joins us on the podcast today. We dove into SO many important mom conversations. Chasity calls the link between self-care and mom guilt a "toxic relationship" and helps us understand why we need to make them break up and make sure we are caring for ourselves. She outlined what it looks like to operate from your values and achieve a "you do you" mental...

We live in a culture that loves positivity- people tend to value, respect, and admire it. But what happens if we're too positive? It can become toxic. If we start to suppress or talk ourselves out of any negative emotion we come across- we aren't allowing ourselves the full human experience.  Today, we dive into a lot of details about toxic positivity- what it is and why it can be a prob...

Today on the podcast we have financial advisor Cameron Rogers from @ellevest . This is an episode that you aren't going to want to miss. Cameron discusses everything from common financial mistakes that people make, to step 1 when it comes to investing, to whether you should be maxing out a 401K or investing elsewhere. This episode is jam-packed with investment information- and if you're...

In this episode, we discuss yellow flags. We all have them. Those moments in time when you aren't feeling yourself- maybe you're less patient with your kiddos, you're quicker to anger with your partner, you're feeling overstimulated to the point that you need to put on headphones. This continues to be a challenging time for women- in a lot of ways. So many of us are feeling str...

Our husbands Drew and Colin make their fourth appearance on the podcast. We love having the men on because every story has two sides and our listeners always get to hear our take. We love their honesty and vulnerability as they tackle what is challenging about dad life and partnerships during this stage of having little ones. Our goal is to let other couples know that they aren't alone in the...

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin ( @vanessamarintherapy ) is back on the podcast today. Her first episode (episode 21) was the most listened to episode of 2020...and in this one she brings the SAME goodness. Sex and intimacy are a big part of relationships, but this information can feel underserved for those in long-term relationships. Sometimes as couples, we can let this important piece fall to the w...

We're SO excited for this one. Nina ( @balkanina ) is on HERself today, sharing her taking on everything from gentle parenting, to influencer life, to body confidence. Nina leads her community in such an authentic way- she is going to share her take on things while also sharing vulnerable and imperfect moments along the way. She brought the same energy onto our podcast as we got to know her e...

Comparison is such a trap.  In this week's episode we talk about comparison in parenting, possessions, body composition/body image, and relationships. Let's be real: we live in a swipe up world that can leave us always lusting over what we need to buy next. We scroll past diets and workouts galore all promising to shrink our bodies. We hear exactly how we're supposed to respond to t...