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We’re in shock. Jenn Tran’s Bachelorette story comes to a horrifying ending in the season finale, and we are devastated and frankly livid with this franchise. In this Bachelorette recap, we review the season finale where we learn Jenn and Devin’s engagement came to a near-immediate end shortly after filming ended and then see a disgustingly cruel After the Final Rose live finale where Jenn is made...

Fantasy suites brought us *two* surprise confessions of love, and if we’re being honest, neither of them felt great. In this Bachelorette recap of Jenn Tran’s season episodes 8 & 9, we deep dive into Jenn’s connection with Marcus and why she’s so invested in making their relationship work when there’s little reciprocation— and why one of us (for better or worse... er, well, mostly for worse) a...

Why did Jenn’s hometown dates feel so… concerning? It’s hometowns week on Jenn Tran’s season of The Bachelorette (Season 21, Episode 7). Usually hometowns is a big ol’ nothing-burger, but Jenn’s hometowns with Devin, Jeremy, Jonathon, and Marcus actually raised many new questions and concerns about her final four men and the relationships she has with each of them. Devin says I love you to Jenn, b...

This episode helped us learn a lot about Jenn - and it was heartbreaking. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 5 of Jenn’s Bachelorette season with special guest Jeremy, we break down her dates with Jonathon and Grant. We chat about Austin self-eliminating created an important vibe shift to her season, and one of Jenn’s most vulnerable moments to date. We go over why going back to an ex doesn’t a...

Sam M goes off-script, and Jenn sends him packing! In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 6 of Jenn’s season, Jenn has her first one-on-one date with Marcus. We weren’t totally sure about Marcus — we’ve heard some fairly gruesome allegations about his past and we don’t know if he’s ready to get married with Jenn — but we can finally see why Jenn likes him so much.  We talk about Sam M and Jenn’s drawn-...

We don’t often get a Bachelor date with so many red flags to unpack all at once, but the one-on-one between Jenn and Sam M. was really chock full of concerning moments. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 4 of Jenn’s Bachelorette season, we break down each interaction from this date and what went wrong, from the way he unilaterally made decisions on her behalf to ignoring her feelings and bounda...

It’s week 3 and we’ve finally formulated a theory for Jenn’s season! Let’s get into it. In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 3 recap, the conflict hasn’t stopped and Thomas N and Sam M are continuing to perpetuate a culture of pettiness and negativity. We chat through their (many) red flags obsessing over the other men in the house, putting down Sam N, and focusing on anything other than Jenn. We cha...

It’s only week 2, and the villains are already emerging. But… which guy is it? In The Bachelorette 2024 Episode 2, conflict begins to brew among Jenn Tran’s men—in particular, between Devin, Aaron, and Thomas N. Devin is quickly becoming a controversial character, with some fans on the internet saying he did nothing wrong and others already ready to get him off the screen. In this Bachelorette rec...

We’ve been waiting all season for Jenn Tran’s season premiere, and it did not disappoint! The episode kicks off with Jenn’s intro package where she opens up about her Asian-American background, her passion being a physical assistant, and her history with toxic relationships. We start the night at a new mansion (!) where she meets her 25 men — and she gives her first impression to Sam McKinney and...

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Joey knew what he wanted this episode - and chaos was not it. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why Joey sending home Maria was a good idea, and our speculations that Rachel might be next on the chopping block. We analyze his strong connection with Kelsey and how it feels slightly different to Daisy’s sweet albeit slightly underdeveloped relationship. In between, we discuss our favorite frontr...

You have to know someone to love them, but who is Joey really? In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why we think Daisy’s really not that into him and our surprise on Joey sending home Jenn who is actually super into him. We talk about Maria’s conflict styles and how they’ve been polar opposites the entire season - except for how they need their partner to show up for them. And why that quality ma...

Relationships are all about timing, and for Joey and Lexi, timing is not on their side. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about Lexi’s surprising decision to leave the show after learning that Joey wants a longer engagement and marriage before having kids - something that she can’t get on board with. We discuss the challenge of navigating differing timelines in relationships and why Lexi’s choice is...

We were rooting for you, Lea!!! Why?! This week’s two-day Bachelor special brought the demise of one villain and the rise of the next. Maria and Sydney went head to head in a two on one date, and we were disturbed and also just kinda saddened by Sydney’s behavior before she left. Then we get into the Lea of it all, including her squishy confrontation with Madina, her hard line with Maria, and why...

Let’s talk about this Sydney and Maria conflict, because there are SO many nuances to this situation. At first glance the drama seems to be about something pointless (a comment Maria made challenging the idea of age 31 being “old”), but Episode 3 unveils many more layers. In this Bachelor recap, we unpack the use of the words “bullying” and other therapy speak, the power of “in” and “out” group dy...

Joey’s Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited! After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he’s going to struggle most with this season. It’s episode 2 of Joey Grazidei’s Bachelor season, and we have some new dating theories! We discuss our new fron...

Joey’s Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited! After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he’s going to struggle most with this season. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on fr...

Even though Bachelor in Paradise is over, some of the couples (Eliza & Aaron B, Kylee & Aven, John Henry and Kat) are still going strong way after the finale. We discuss if we can see them working as a couple, why it’s so hard to date someone with too many expectations, and how everyone is deserving of love—yes even the “villains” who don’t end up learning anything from their past experien...

Despite a happy ending engagement for Gerry and Theresa, it was Leslie’s pain that was front and center in The Golden Bachelor season finale. We felt deeply uncomfortable seeing her fall back into her old, ugly stories about herself and witnessing her enduring anger toward Gerry—but in this Golden Bachelor recap, we discuss why maybe that discomfort is okay. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here t...

We’re almost to the end of Gerry Turner’s season and it’s giving messy! In the Golden Bachelor Fantasy Suites episode, we see a surprising sex-positive side to Gerry—and we love the way he’s approaching intimacy. However, we don’t love that he’s telling Leslie she’s the one while staying open-minded and planning a future with Theresa. We discuss why it’s important for Gerry to have his guard up an...

In a move that surprised all of Bachelor Nation, Gerry Turner sent home Faith Martin after hometowns—but it was their emotionally raw reunion at the Golden Bachelor Women Tell All that we really need to talk about. Back on the beaches of Bachelor in Paradise, let’s just say that we’re starting to get tired of the messy and harmful patterns we’re seeing from several cast members while fan favorites...

Golden Bachelor Gerry Turner is getting in his feels, and he can't stop saying I love you to his top three women - amazing in the moment but heartbreaking at the rose ceremony. We discuss how the hometown dates went, why meeting their families made things more serious, and if we think it's Theresa or Faith that he will end up sending home. Then we talk about what's happening on the beaches of Bach...

Our golden bachelor Gerry Turner has narrowed down to his top 3 women, and the stakes are higher than ever. In this Golden Bachelor recap, we discuss who we think Gerry might choose in the end and what his choice may represent about what he’s looking for from love at this age. Meanwhile on the beaches of Bachelor in Paradise, we witness the slow unraveling of seemingly picture-perfect couple that...