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In this biblical series, we explore how faith, Scripture, and spiritual discipline shape emotional regulation and nervous system stability. Discover how biblical emotional intelligence can help you stay grounded, resilient, and spiritually aligned, even under pressure. This is the first of many conversations we will be having, with the hope of equipping our community with the knowledge and the rig...

The repetition of unhealthy patterns doesn't mean we're not learning from our mistakes. It just means we haven't learned to self-regulate in the face of unmet needs. It means the weight of our unmet needs outweighs the memory of the consequences of all our previous mistakes and setbacks. Until the need if met or we learn to self regulate, we will remain stuck in the cycle of dysfunction.

Your relationship with both yourself and other people is primarily determined/shaped by the relationship/s you had with/have with your parents/primary caregivers. The quality of adult choices you make is also primarily determined by the state of your inner child (the memory of your childhood experiences). There is no way of improving the quality of your life without taking stock of your past and r...

Your relationship with both yourself and other people is primarily determined/shaped by the relationship/s you had with your parents/primary caregivers. The quality of adult choices you make is also primarily determined by the state of your inner child (the memory of your childhood experiences). There is no way of improving the quality of your life without taking stock of your past and repairing w...

Sometimes we’re our worst enemy, we disqualify ourselves from opportunities as we honour the memory of our childhood and past setbacks, misfortunes, disadvantages and traumas. We continue to relive our childhood memories and end up undermining our current reality and the possibility of changing a lot about and for ourselves. Catastrophic thinking is usually at the root of most of our fears and anx...

Cognitive dissonance happens on our watch, we may not be consciously participating in the employment of behaviours, but there is a role we subconsciously play and this is why you have to develop the skills of bringing to your consciousness your unconscious thoughts before they’re converted into emotional responses and behavioural reactions. We can all control our conscious thoughts but without the...

Being you is a lot of work, it’s not something to be taken for granted and if you’re not willing to take responsibility for your life, you risk living a life that is borrowed from those whose opinions, beliefs and lifestyles you have accepted either consciously or unconsciously without question. Everything you’re experiencing today is a reflection of your personality and if you’re not happy with a...

it's easier to say,' But why don't you leave? it's easier to assume that victims of abuse don't want to leave their abusive relationships but the reality for a lot of victims is that, they wouldn't know where to start because of a lot of reasons. the language we use around victims of abuse sometimes intensifies their anxiety and makes it difficult for them to consider freedom. when we don't show s...

Being a saviour means your needs don’t matter until you have attended to your partner’s needs. It means, the quality of your relationship is fully your responsibility and the quality of your life is dependent upon that which is satisfying to your toxic partner. Most people don’t know how to be happy until they’ve made their partner’s happy.

Most of the time we struggle to find meaning with our lives outside of our misfortunes and we get stuck in the cycle of dysfunction. This doesn’t necessarily mean that we cannot change and that there is nothing good for us out there. Our lives at the end of the day, are a reflection of what we have accepted and what we’re doing nothing to change. No one but yourself can change the conditions of yo...