Heal From the Ground Up

For the longest time I have attempted to give to myself the inner child healing I so often give to others.  However each time in doing so I wasn't able to connect to my inner child in the way I have helped others connect with theirs.   In the recent episodes you have seen me go through various challenges and stages of healing.  In this monologue I share how I feel I have put the pieces together fo...

What if you lost everything you ever cherished? What if you were never able to attain any of your goals or dreams? The loss I am talking about is the loss of everything you cherish and want to attain outside of yourself. If you were to lose all that, than all you would have left is you. As you listen to this podcast I want you to think if you were to lose everything who is your true self that woul...

Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind?  Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can?  We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.   While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team.  Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward...

Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind?  Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can?  We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.   While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team.  Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward...

Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind?  Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can?  We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.   While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team.  Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward...

Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind?  Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can?  We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.   While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team.  Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward...

Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind?  Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can?  We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.   While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team.  Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward...

We've all had an upbringing that has grealty shaped who we are and what life expereinces we have.  The problem is that we only feel the pain of our past wounds without having any idea where it comes from.  I personally suffer from anxiety of trying to feel safe and using things like work productivity and accomplishments to feel this temporary and superficial feeilng of safety.  In the next episdoe...

What I offer here on Heal From the Ground Up truly comes from an intimate journey of mine.  It's a journey and story that I have been witholding from you all because to be honest I wasn't honoring my own story and the true value I had to offer.  I have created a platform for so many coaches but I forgot to use my platform to tell my own story.  And this podcast is about telling you that story so y...

Who are you at your core?  Who are you without your goals, dreams and to-do list?  Because who you are at the core does not change based on how well you complete your goals and dreams.  It is your intrinsic worth that is untouchable.  It is the indestructible beauty that you were born with.  This is the biggest lesson Ilearned in this conversation with my friend Paul Colaianni from the Overwhelmed...

The caller Mave states that she lacks confidence and finds herself very vulnerable to taking on others' opinions of her. She can spend a whole day ruminating about another's opinion of her. As a child, she learned to not trust herself. We went through a process of discovering the experiences that resulted in not trusting herself, and how to start to love herself – instead of giving authority to ot...

Michael Hsu, the caller I will be coaching, was working with the dynamic of needing to attain perfection before launching a new project.  The focus was primarily on the outcome and “getting it right.”  This is a classic struggle and although we believe that “getting it right” makes a better product, it often has the detrimental effect.  The authenticity and flow of the project suffers or worse yet...

In a period of basking in being in love, Michael, the caller notices discomfort that won't let him relax: Is it okay to be happy? Is it safe not to work hard all the time? Does he need to reach for a problem when there isn't one handy? Together, we look at the religion of productivity and the possibility of navigating instead by joy. I walk Michael through a two-part process of minding the pain bo...

Being abandoned is an illusory pain.  It is illusory because the pain is so severe that in order to protect our sense of worthiness we take it out our consciousness and embed deep into our subconscious. We still feel the pain of abandonment but we do not know what this feeling is and may project it onto other people who are not responsible for it. The caller here, Gina, feels like she cannot trust...

For most of my life I have struggled with being too selfless.  Interestingly, the people that have irritated me the most in my life have been selfish.  Although it is very important that we give to others, the most important person we need to give to is ourselves.  Having said that, giving to ourselves becomes much more complicated when we have been emotionally abandoned or neglected by our family...

If you missed the previous episode (episode 7: The Danger of Not Trusting Yourself), please listen to episode 7 first. As episode 8 is a continuation of episode 7. In episode 7 we focused on Deborah’s relationship with her husband where she felt constantly marginalized, and made to feel less than. What kept her from leaving the relationship or really standing up for herself was the fear of instabi...

When we don't trust ourselves we may get stuck in a pattern of unhealthy behavior that mask our lack of trust in ourselves.   The caller Deborah tolerates a lot of verbal abuse from her husband in large part because of the fear that she cannot stand on her own two feet.  This lack of trust in herself stems from her tumultuous childhood.  Her father struggled with infidelity and her single mother s...

The degree of lack of love within ourselves is to the same degree that we'll experience a lack of love in our relationships.  We can feel lost and confused as to why life is keeping something we deeply desire and feel we deserve. Often people end up feeling like there's something wrong with them because they're still single. Only the vulnerability of personal responsibility can help us see clearly...

For the most part we all think we do love ourselves but when we look really closely our actions may say otherwise.  It doesn’t help that society praises sacrifice, care and devotion to others but very little praise is given to loving and caring for yourself which is often misperceived as selfish.  Our lives have become so fast-paced and busy that our core needs become lost in all of our responsibi...

How is it that the mere mention of something like global warming can cause rifts between family members? It's hard enough to be graceful colliding with the beliefs of perfect strangers. How do we navigate that discord with loved ones without disconnecting? For those aspiring to unconditional love, forgiveness, tolerance, we often disconnect from ourselves in our reactiveness and end up feeling as...

When we take on big challenges and enter into unknown territory our fears of failure and our sense of danger are at their peak.  That’s understandable, but not always the most helpful.  In this coaching session we learn how to be with the fear, stop fighting it, transform it, stop identifying with it, let it go and then allow the authentic truth of our power and beauty return to us and move throug...

Do you feel hopeless and feel like you will be single forever? Before we project what’s wrong onto the dating world, we have got to see what we are and are not doing to prevent ourselves from attracting our life partner.  What are the blocks that are keeping you from meeting your life partner?   Let’s take a look at today’s caller, Jodi, and see what we can learn from this coaching session on how...

What happens when we mask our childhood wounds? We think everything is in the past, but the truth is if it is left unresolved it will continue to control your life.  Here you will see the caller Vince explore his current feelings and his past experiences and see the missing link between the two. However, knowing the connection is not enough. You must do the work in order to heal. It's important to...