Habits on Purpose

Do you automatically assume the best about people, or do you find yourself jumping to negative conclusions more often than you'd like? In this episode, I explore what happens when you deliberately practice giving the benefit of the doubt and make it a habit.    You'll learn the ten specific things that shifted for me when I started practicing this habit, from taking things less personally to havin...

Do you feel pressure to set big goals and overhaul habits this time of year? What if the most important thing isn't what you do, but what you remember? In this episode, I'm sharing a list of reminders that I want to carry with me into the new year. These grounding truths can help settle you when you feel unsettled and guide you toward growth when it seems impossible.   You'll discover why progress...

As we wrap up the year, it's the perfect time to reflect on some of the most impactful insights and tools shared on Habits On Purpose . In this special episode, I've compiled a collection of powerful moments from past episodes—reminders and strategies that have helped many of you throughout the year.   As you listen, I invite you to reflect on how these tools and reminders resonate with you now, a...

The holiday season often brings a lot of joy, but it also comes with its share of stress and obligations. In this episode, I explore a simple but powerful shift that can change how you experience the holidays: the difference between saying "I have to" and recognizing "I choose to."   The habit of saying "I have to" can quickly take over during the holidays. You'll discover how recognizing your abi...

Do you ever feel like you become reactionary and out of control in an instant? In this episode, I explore the feeling of being reactive, particularly when it happens with the people you care about most. Reactivity can make you feel like you're no longer in control of your emotions, and the intensity of that reaction can feel overwhelming and insurmountable.   Today, I'm introducing the concept of...

Do you bristle when things do not go according to plan? In this episode, we explore how the habit of trying to control everything becomes one of the biggest time wasters and energy drains in your life. When you pour effort into things that are not fully under your control, you lose time, and you exhaust your mental, emotional, and physical resources.   Many of us do this without realizing it. Tryi...

What if being undone, feeling big emotions, or even feeling overwhelmed is actually what healing looks like? Most of us have been taught that doing well means feeling calm, composed, and in control, but I want to make the case that falling apart might be a sign of your greatest emotional strength and a marker that you're at a meaningful growth edge.   In this episode, I explore why emotional capac...

Do you ever find yourself reading too much into a situation and suddenly thinking everyone around you dislikes you? In this episode, I explore how the meanings we assign to everyday moments can shape our experience of life. These interpretations can either lift us up or weigh us down, often without us even realizing it.   You'll discover how to identify your default meaning-making patterns and lea...

Have you ever mapped out a perfect plan for change only to watch it fall apart within days? That cycle is not a discipline problem. It is a sign that the foundation beneath your habit change is missing the elements that make new patterns truly sustainable. Most people focus on the plan itself, not the internal and practical skills that allow a plan to hold up in real life.   In this episode, I bre...

Have you ever noticed how quickly you brush off something that was actually really hard? This instinct to minimize difficulty might seem harmless, but it shapes how connected you feel to yourself and how honestly you experience your life.   In this episode, I explore the habit of minimizing difficulties: why we dismiss or dilute how challenging something was after it's over and how this pattern di...

Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed by an inner critic that constantly tells you you're not good enough, that you should be doing more, or that you'll never get it right? This inner narrative can be so persistent and familiar that it feels like it's just a part of who you are. But what if you could separate yourself from these critical thoughts and see them for what they really are: just thought...

Why does inner work matter when so much of life's struggle seems to happen outside of you? It's easy to think the real problems are external—your workload, relationships, or circumstances—but neglecting your inner world limits your ability to handle those outer challenges effectively.   In this episode, I explore how doing inner work builds the foundation for meaningful external change. You'll lea...

Have you ever made a detailed plan to change everything at once, only to find yourself back where you started weeks later? Grand plans often look inspiring, but they rarely hold up in daily life. They demand more than what's realistic for the season you're in and leave no room for flexibility when life gets in the way.   In this episode, I explore three key reasons why ambitious plans often fail a...

Ever reach the end of the day and wonder where the hours went, only to realize you still haven't done what you set out to do? Maybe you got lost in emails, organizing, or helping others while your own priorities slipped away. This disconnect isn't about poor time management; it's a sign of two related challenges: time blindness and values blindness.   Time blindness, common in people with ADHD but...

Do you sometimes feel like the person you show up as each day isn't the real you? Between work, family, and the constant pull of daily responsibilities, it's easy to drift into autopilot and lose touch with your inner self. In this episode, we explore how to come back home to yourself and cultivate a sense of internal belonging that grounds your thoughts, feelings, and actions in what truly matter...

Ever feel like everything is spiraling out of control? Maybe you're running late, snapping at others, or watching a small setback feel like a catastrophe. These intense moments don't just come from what's happening on the surface; they're amplified by short-term stress that hijacks your perspective and makes you lose sight of what actually matters.   In this episode, I share a simple technique bui...

Are your habits shaping the life you truly want, or are they running the show? Habits influence how you think, feel, and show up every single day. The way you respond to challenges, interact with others, and navigate your own mind is all shaped by the patterns you repeat, often without even realizing it.   In this episode, I explore why habits are so vitally important and why, if you want to live...

When a problem keeps showing up in your life like an unwelcome visitor, how do you respond? Maybe the same struggles keep resurfacing despite your best efforts—leaving work at the office, carving out time for what matters, or breaking free from patterns that no longer serve you. It can feel like these challenges are unsolvable, draining your energy, and stealing your peace of mind.   These problem...

Do you ever feel torn about what to do next? Maybe you're juggling work deadlines, school drop-offs, or endless to-do lists, and each decision feels urgent. When different parts of you want different things, it's easy to get stuck overthinking and second-guessing yourself, leaving you frustrated and unsure of how to move forward.   In this episode, I share a three-step framework to help you gain c...

Do you find yourself making plans repeatedly but never following through? You set intentions to exercise, organize your space, or reach out to someone you care about, but it never happens. This pattern can leave you frustrated and stuck, questioning why you can't just do what you say you will, even when it's something you genuinely want.   In this episode, I break down what's really going on when...

Do you ever feel like you're stuck in autopilot mode, running through the motions without really asking if you're living the life you truly want? Most of us have at least one habit that feels out of alignment, whether it's scrolling at night, overindulging, or staying in a draining job. We judge ourselves harshly, wondering why we can't break free. But what if these habits are not the problem? Wha...

Life is going sideways. You're snapping at your people, overthinking, doom scrolling, or eating all the snacks. You know things aren't going well, but it feels like you just can't stop, and you can't get out of the pattern. The momentum of these moments can feel impossible to interrupt, even when you're fully aware that what you're doing isn't working.   In this episode, I'm sharing the neuroscien...

Does anxiety make you feel like there is something wrong with you? It can feel uncomfortable, overpowering, something to manage or medicate away. We've been taught to see it as a flaw, a weakness, something broken that needs fixing. But treating anxiety as an adversary might be exactly what's making it worse.   In this episode, I'm exploring a radically different approach to anxiety—one that sees...

Do you feel like acknowledging your struggles will make them worse, or that it means you're weak or indulgent? Many of us have been taught to push through challenges, minimize what we're feeling, and judge ourselves for reacting in normal, human ways. But this mindset keeps us from fully understanding why we're struggling in the first place.   In this episode, I explore why validation is one of th...

Have you ever tried to "think your way" into feeling better, only to feel stuck in the same patterns? It's easy to fall into the belief that changing our thoughts will automatically change our emotions and habits. But what if the solution isn't about forcing yourself to think better thoughts? What if it's about understanding emotions in a deeper, more compassionate way?   In this episode, I revisi...