Four Titles, One Truth

When a country gets tired of war, do the people wearing the uniform feel like we’ve grown tired of them, too? We remember strangers thanking us for our service, paying for meals, and applauding as we returned home from deployment. Those moments meant something. Today, we’re asking what has changed, and whether public appreciation tells the whole story of how America supports its troops. In this ep...

Your children know you as Dad. But how much do they know about the person you were before fatherhood, your dreams, fears, mistakes, and the experiences that shaped you? In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance explore father-child relationships from both sides: as sons who still have questions about their fathers and as fathers considering what their own children know about them...

Same confidence. Different expectations. What changes when a Black man walks into a room full of Black people versus a room full of white people? In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance explore Black men’s confidence, identity, belonging, and the expectation of respect. Through their own experiences, they examine how childhood, family, and military service shaped the way they r...

You can look successful and still feel stuck. What happens when you want more for yourself, but procrastination, fear of failure, or not knowing where to start keeps getting in the way? Tommie Jones and Lance Taylor look inward at the habits, responsibilities, and learned limits that have shaped their own personal growth, from putting off important tasks to questioning whose definition of success...

Are men truly resilient, or have we simply become good at surviving whatever life throws at us? For generations, men have been taught to push through adversity, carry their responsibilities, hide their struggles, and keep moving forward. But does surviving difficult experiences automatically make us resilient? Or have we confused endurance with genuine strength? In Season 3, Episode 14 of Four Tit...

What does emotional safety in marriage feel like, and how do you rebuild it after you’ve caused your spouse pain? In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, TJ and Lance talk about the everyday moments that build trust between spouses. TJ shares that he feels safe with Nikki and knows she has his back, yet letting his guard down can still be difficult. He also reflects on his responsibility to mak...

What happens when your father dies just as he begins to see you as a man? Tommie lost his father in 2004, only 13 years into his 30-year Army career—and just as their relationship was beginning to change. Lance had his father through almost his entire military career but lost him before retirement. In this deeply personal conversation, Tommie and Lance examine father loss, grief, father-son relati...

I loved Nikki when I proposed. But love wasn’t the only thing shaping that decision. What finally makes a man ready to ask someone to marry him? Why do men finally decide to get married? TJ and Lance look back at the marriages they grew up around, what they witnessed during their military careers, and how those experiences shaped their own expectations. They talk honestly about love, timing, respo...

You can have a spouse, family, friends, and people willing to support you—and still feel completely alone. But what if part of that loneliness comes from never letting them see what you’re truly carrying? Why do some men feel alone even when they’re surrounded by people who genuinely love them? Tommie and Lance examine how fear of betrayal, judgment, and failure can cause men to hide financial pre...

What do you do when you want a stronger relationship with your adult child…but you don’t know what’s keeping them distant? What do you do when your adult child becomes distant, but you don’t completely understand why? Tommie and Lance have an honest conversation about repairing strained relationships with adult children, when to keep parenting, when to simply listen, whether giving them space crea...

Most of the time when a married man says “never mind,” he didn’t forget what he wanted to say. He decided it wasn’t worth saying. But what happens when “never mind” stops being something you say once in a while and becomes how you communicate in your marriage? In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth , Tommie and Lance examine why men can feel corrected, dismissed, or unheard in marriage, and why...

After more than 30 years of active-duty Army service, Tommie thought he was prepared for military retirement. What he wasn’t prepared for was the identity shift that came with transitioning from military service to civilian life. In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance have an honest conversation about military transition, veteran identity, purpose after the military, and the c...

For many men, keeping things close to the vest can feel like protection. Health concerns. Mental health. Financial struggles. Marriage problems. Fear. Failure. Problems with our children. Even parts of our past we would rather people not know. But there’s a difference between privacy and secrecy, and sometimes a difference between protecting ourselves and protecting the image we want other people...

What does it really mean to provide for your family? And what happens when the money, sacrifice, and hard work still aren’t enough? For generations, many men were taught that being a good husband and father meant one thing above everything else: provide. Work hard. Pay the bills. Keep food on the table. Make sure your family never goes without. Tommie learned that definition by watching his father...

What happens when a marriage isn’t falling apart…but isn’t growing either? In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance have an honest conversation about a question many husbands never stop to ask: Are you happy in your marriage…or have you simply become comfortable? Through personal reflection and lived experience, they discuss how careers, responsibilities, routine, and complacenc...

Are you leading your family the same way you lead at work? In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Dr. Jermain Williamson (CW5 (R)) joins Tommie Jones and Lance Taylor for an honest conversation about one of leadership’s biggest challenges: learning to lead at home while building a career leading others. The military intentionally develops leaders through schools, mentors, promotions, and decad...

Can you be a good father and still fail your child in ways you deeply regret? In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance have an honest conversation about fatherhood mistakes, missed opportunities, and the difficult gap between loving your children and making sure they actually feel loved. Tommie reflects on his own relationship with his adult son and the painful realization that...

What Nobody Tells Men About Life After 50 is an honest conversation about aging, purpose, marriage, fatherhood, retirement, health, friendships, and how our perspective changes as we get older. In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, retired Army leaders Tommie Jones and Lance Taylor discuss the realities of life after 50—the lessons they wish someone had shared years ago and the truths many me...

Thank you to everyone who has listened, watched, subscribed, commented, shared an episode, visited our website, or supported Four Titles, One Truth in any way. What started as two friends having honest conversations has grown into a community that continues to challenge, encourage, and inspire us. The conversations have helped us grow as husbands, fathers, veterans, and Black men, and we can only...

Two retired Army veterans, fathers, and Black men ask a simple question: How did we grow up in America and barely know anything about Juneteenth? In this episode, Tommie and Lance talk about growing up Black in America in the Midwest...and neither of us remembers being taught much about Juneteenth. Not in school. Not in church. Not in everyday conversations. Years later, after discovering Juneteen...

Remember backward hats, giant shorts, loud bass systems, tube socks, and movies we thought were classics? Yeah…we need to talk about it. In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance take a break from heavy conversations and look back at the trends, styles, habits, and moments we were convinced made us cool growing up…that now make absolutely no sense. From backward hats, baggy short...

In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, retired Army leaders Tommie Jones and Lance Taylor sit down with Navy Chaplain Dr. Larry Brant to talk about the difficult reality of suicide in the military, mental health, leadership guilt, trauma after deployment, and the emotional weight carried by service members long after they return home. Tommie opens up about losing Soldiers under his leade...

What happens when politics stops feeling political… and starts feeling personal? There are moments when politics stop feeling distant… and start feeling personal. In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth , Tommie and Lance have an honest conversation about what the current political climate feels like through their lens as Black men, fathers, husbands, and veterans. This isn’t a debate about part...

What happens when you do everything right… build the career, provide for your family, and become the man you said you’d be… and it still doesn’t feel like enough? In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth , Tommie and Lance sit down with Albert Butler (CPA, author, father, and leader) for a real conversation about success, identity, and the quiet tension many men carry but rarely talk about. This...

In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth , Tommie and Lance sit down with Kaleth Wright to have an honest, unfiltered conversation about fatherhood, pressure, and the reality of raising boys into men. This isn’t a parenting guide. This is a real conversation between fathers who have already raised their sons and are now looking back at the results. Together, they explore: When fathers start expec...