Family Constellation Guy

When someone close dies, the emotions range from sadness, anger, hate, anxiety, shame, guilt, and last but not least relief! What to do if all you feel is relief - listen in!

As we move into another year, I am refelcting oin some of the core beliefs I was brought up with and seeing how even the negative ones have helped me with life's journey

I periodically run training weekends and the sort of feedback I get is " Following the training weekend I have found myself being more curious about the hidden dynamics in all sorts of situations and gaining a better understanding of what might be going on "behind the scenes ". It aims to enable a therapist or coach for example to simple enter their clients ancestral field to help them establish w...

rafe.website/contact.asp?frm_id=podcast&wks_id=rafe.website If something has happened in life that makes you want to re-evaluate, then I recommend the Zero Budget! Its starting from scratch - what do I need in my life right now? and that question will revela the difference between how you are and how you want to be. If that means dealing with the hidden dynamics, call me!

What can we do when we get triggered by certain events or even words? We can continually find something takes us back to a trauma in the past - even decades or more, and we find ourselves hurt (again) or upset. This episode asks you to challenge the triggers, or do some work on what started it all off in the first place. Family Constellation Therapy is fantastic at underpinning current experience...

We have 2 memory stores, cognitive and body/cell. How do we assess which one is dominant? How do we validate?  

dna tests can reveal uncomfortable secrets sometimes, so I urge you look at the whole family system too! Go ahead with the test BUT I recommend doing a constellation alongside it!

We inherit stuff!! we all do - form the generations behind us, and some may be unknown in our cognitive thinking brain, but is certainly not unknown in our body. Putting that "stuff" back where it belongs relieves us of the burden we have thusfar carried. If you need to contact me, go to https://rafe.website and click Contact

When we imagine our mum or dad we run the risk of overlaying the image of perfection - the textbook version, or archetype. The Constellation model enables us to visit the story and see where the stuff that has formed us belongs - sometimes we get to see that things/ideas/beliefs that we have held all our lives, are nothing like the person we actually are. So then we can drop the archetype and begi...

What does DNA do, and how does epigenetics change all that? This episode looks at how we can modify our experience of chronic illness using Zero Budgetting and it also looks at the role of epigentics in the creation of cells.

I get asked if the issue the client wants to present can be done as a constellation? My answer is always to see if the issue is systemic. A headache from drinking too much is not systemic, but why you got drunk in the first place might have roots in your family system!

After a discussion I decided to see what ChatGPT (AI) had to say about the work I do in the field of Family Constellations and Intergenerational Trauma. Perhaps surporisingly it knew who I was, and what it says seems actually pretty on the ball, so I thought I'd pop it in here!  

Why Constellation work? The constellation model allows you to get a perspective on some of the things that we all carry with us, prejudices, attitudes, etc. It shows you where they came from, and hence, where they belong. Enabling yourself to free up the space to true to yourself, rather than to elsewhere in the system, can be enormous! Take a look at the testimonials on my hub website - rafe.webs...

Many peoples around the world have a similar process to the Hawaiians - Ho'oponopono. Pono means being ALL right with the world you inhabit - ponopono just doubles the strength! and the Ho'o means getting to it. The four sentences are I'm Sorry Please forgive me Thank you I Love you and they are there to be often repeated to help you get to being alright with your world on every level. This podcas...

See the countries of your origin as representatives in a constellation showed me a whole host of possibilities! Honouring our pasts, however difficult is pretty important - if we are standing here in 2024 we survived whatever vicissitudes that befell our past  (love that word!), and some simple honouring techniques can resolve a ton of grief!

This is a short hypnotherapeutic tape to help you sleep - I know a lot of people struggling at this time to fully relax and engage with what their body needs.

This week I am exploring what a parent is? What are the rules, and how have they changed for you?

How to be entirely grateful for the life your mum gave you, but anything that doens't fit with you - hand it back! The Constellation model gives a brilliant way of leaving stuff that isn't really you somewhere other than with you!!

Talking about how Intergenerational projection of gender bias can affect us, and give some simple tools for correcting any side effects of that bias

This week thinking about what it is that I offer that is different - what is my Brand? I get requests to work from all over the world - last week Romania on the Black Sea coast, this week Canada. All online (alas) but it made me wonder what it is that is different that I offer? Surely, especially after the put downs I had as a kid, no-one really wants what I have to offer? Well I got over that one...

A workshop can show you the things you have been carrying, perhaps all your life. It can show you the loyalties that underpin that, and enable you to see where those aspects belong - and no longer with you! The feedback we get from workshops is amazing. Next workshop is this Sunday in York at the Hot Yoga studio Links at https://rafe.website

When we experience a mix of senses - hearing colours. or smelling music, thats full blown synesthesia, but what if we experience the collective subconscious? What if the grief of the world at this time preys on our own feeling of wellbeing? Many people experience a feeling of pain when they are near someone in pain, or they feel others grief. Well, thats what this weeks episode is about

In 2010 I did a constellation which took me into being chair of DHAdvice.org by 2014 RBS had cost the charity an extra £516,000 over the previous few years after the RBS crash of 2008. Instead of taking them to court, we managed to get them into a meeting in Parliament with our MP Chris Williamson. On the way to the meeting I saw a poster of a gorilla and thought nothing of it. Listen in and you'l...

There are many different sizes and shapes of trauma - but knowing what thy are, where they fit, and what beloings to you can rapidly speed up your healing process. Make contact and get some help! www.family-constellations.co.uk