Everyday Reform

for years, i believed being “nice” meant being endlessly accommodating. saying yes when i wanted to say no. avoiding difficult conversations. staying silent when someone crossed a boundary. but here’s what i’ve learned: clarity is kindness. confusion is cruelty. whether it’s an unpaid work opportunity, a friend who consistently shows up late, a boss pushing past agreed-upon boundaries, or someone...

welcome to everyday reform, for the love of change. love nowadays is all too punitive for my liking. we live in a culture obsessed with cutting people off. don’t double text. if they don’t text back in three days, block them. one mistake and suddenly someone is permanently disqualified. but what happens when we begin treating relationships like courtrooms instead of places for growth? as a crimina...

welcome to everyday reform — for the love of change. 🎙️ this week, we’re talking about how to become a better conversationalist and why the quality of our lives is often dictated by the quality of our questions. my love language is curiosity. some of the most meaningful moments of my life — from a conversation with a formerly incarcerated woman at 13 that changed my entire trajectory, to the frien...