Defining You ~ Inside and Out

In this heartfelt episode, Kathy and Mike discuss thetransformative journey of recovery and sobriety, celebrating three years of Mike's sobriety. They delve into the challenges and lessons learned throughout this journey, including the parallels between recovery and the 75 Hard Challenge, emphasizing the importance of mental toughness, accountability, and support systems. They highlight personal g...

Last episode we discussed the concept of micro moments, In this week's episode, Kathy picks back up with the ripple effects of micro moments on our lives and the lives of others. Dive into the importance of intentional choices in daily interactions, especially how both positive and negative moments can influence those around us. Kathy shares personal anecdotes and practical takeaways for creat...

It's easy to feel overwhelmed by the need for big changes. In this episode, Kathy shares her experiences and the transformative power of micro moments and how small, intentional choices can lead to significant changes in our lives and relationships. Kathy encourages listeners to embrace these micro moments and be mindful of their impact on personal growth and well-being. If you would like more inf...

Busy is not better and Kathy knows this very well. In this conversation, Kathy discusses the societal pressure to be constantly busy and how it often leads to burnout and a lack of fulfillment. She emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care, saying no to obligations that do not align with personal goals, and being present in the moment. Kathy encourages listeners to reflect on their time...

This special episode of Defining You, is close to Kathy’s heart.  In this heartfelt conversation with Kathy’s brother Sean, a fire chief and EMT, and her son Anthony, a firefighter and police officer. They discuss the often-overlooked mental health challenges faced by first responders, including PTSD and theemotional toll of their work. The hope of having this conversation is to help break the sti...

In this episode, Kathy and Nikki discuss the significance ofperspective in personal growth and relationships. Kathy and Nikki share personal experiences and lessons, they discuss the importance of empathy, and emphasize the need for open-mindedness in understanding others. They highlight that changing one's perspective can lead to growth and a deeper understanding of oneself and others. Plus ,...

In this episode of Defining You, Kathy and Nikki have another amazing guest, Cornelius (Con) Sheehan. Con is here to talk about Attachment Theory and how our different attachment styles affect our relationships. You’ll find out what those attachment styles are, how they show up and what you can do to change these tendencies and move into a more secure attachment style. Con also explains the differ...

Are you ready to start living a life defined by you – not by stress, expectations, or old patterns?  Defining You: Inside and Out – Wellness Coaching is more than just advice — it’s support on a journey to reconnect with your mind, body, and purpose. Through mindset shifts, personal development, and real self-care (with a side effect of confidence + weight loss!), we’ll find your balance — from th...

This week Kathy and Nikki have a very special guest! Mary Ellen Loranger joins the pod to share her health & wellness story. These ladies energy, vulnerability and authenticity in this episode is admirable! Mary Ellen is an amazing motivational health coach, a hustling entrepreneur, a mother, a wife, a leader in her community and the author of an amazon bestselling book "Win Today A Jerse...

Did you know accountability manifests in various ways, bothinternally and externally? In this episode, Kathy and Nikki discuss the importance ofvulnerability and humility in taking responsibility for one's actions, thedifferent types of accountabilities (internal vs. external), and the dynamicsof team accountability. They talk about the role effective communication playsand the necessity of genuin...

Happy 4th of July!! In this week’s episode of Defining You, Kathy and Nikki discuss the concept of love languages. They also discuss their favorites of the week, and the love languages they think should be considered for the list and…you might even hear something about writing a book!?! They also have a favor to ask… as you listen to them expand on the traditional five love languages and explore a...

Welcome back for part 2 of Effective Communication! In this episode, Kathy and Nikki pick back up from last weekand delve into the nuances of effective communication, exploring various styles including passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive communication. They share personal anecdotes, discuss the importance of body language and facial expressions, and even recommend an engaging bo...

The frustration of not feeling understood is something we all face and effective communication is the answer to avoiding most misunderstandings and arguments. In this part 1 of 2 episode, Kathy and Nikki discuss what healthy and unhealthy communication looks like. Listen as they share what they have learned works and doesn’t work when communicating in their daily relationships. Be sure to tune in...

We lighten it up this week with a FUN episode taking a walk down memory lane. In this episode Kathy and Nikki reminisce about growing up Gen X and despite being from opposite coasts , surprisingly very similar! We hope you enjoy this episode ! Links to this week's favorite items: Nikki’s favorite this week : https://a.co/d/ef9CUdf This extra-large towel warmer fits oversized towels,bathrobes, and...

It can be overwhelming trying to find the right therapymodality and/or the right therapist for you. We are here to help! In this episode of Defining You, we guide you through the process of selecting the type of mental health professional, the therapy model and the therapist that will bea good match for you. Kathy and Nikki also dispel common myths associated with therapy and tell you why it’s goo...

Have you ever been annoyed by something someone does? The little things that drive you crazy are commonly called “pet peeves”. In this week’s episode Kathy and Nikki talk about Nikki’s travel adventure, her creative vacation pod set up, which all leads into some pet peeves that listeners sent in as well as some of their very own! Thanks for listening and we appreciate all of you who sent in your p...

We all know someone who frequently complains about their problems but actively rejects any offered solutions or support we try to give. These types of people are "help rejecting complainers"... or as we like to refer to them .. askholes. In this episode Kathy and Nikki talk about how they handle these exact types of people and well ... they might just call you out if you are one of those people to...

May is Lyme Disease & Mental Health Awareness Month. Did you know every year an estimated 500,000 people are diagnosed and treated for Lyme disease ? Thousands of so many others go undiagnosed and suffer for years. In this episode Kathy shares a glimpse into her 15+ year journey with Nikki of what it is like having Lyme disease to help spread awareness and let others know they are not alone. T...

You may have noticed we look a little different this week! We thought we would have a little fun while talking about a topic that hits close to home for so many. If you have ever experienced hair loss then this episode is for you! We have our special guest this week, our friend Nickie, and she is sharing her journey through hair loss and regaining confidence in wearing wigs. Links to this week's f...

Sometimes it is hard to decide what path to go when we are faced with big life decisions. In this episode Kathy and Nikki discuss what it means to "choose the bigger life" and hope that their experiences and what they have learned, help when you have trouble making a big decision in the future! We would love to connect with you, drop a comment below or send us a message to let us know your thought...

Who has battled with forgiveness? We sure have! In this episode we discuss our perspective on what forgiveness looks like and the different kinds of forgiveness we experience. We would love to connect with you, drop a comment below or send us a message to let us know your thoughts! We have also linked our favorite things this week below! Our Fav's this week! The Measure: A Novel https://a.co/d...

When parental roles are reversed it can become a challenging season. In this episode Nikki and Kathy discuss their experiences being the caretaker while juggling the demands of life. If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: definingyouconnection@gmail.com Follow us on our socials! https://...

Society often has an influence on everything we do and say and everything we don't. In this episode Kathy and Nikki get into why things we don't talk about enough should be normalized! If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: definingyouconnection@gmail.com Follow us on our socials! https:...

In this episode Kathy and Nikki discuss from experience, how sometimes it is necessary to go no contact with a loved one. If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: definingyouconnection@gmail.com Follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profi...

In this episode Kathy and Nikki share advice they would give to younger versions of themselves . They even had listener's of the pod chime in! Make sure you stick around to listen to why Nikki advises against camping in the desert!! If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: definingyouc...