Dating in Your 20s

Lilly Wehman and Amelia Abernathy use the Summer House Season 10 drama to talk about self-worth, friendship breakups, and what happens when someone moves from one relationship into the next without slowing down. They look at Ciara, Amanda, West, and Kyle through a therapist lens without trying to diagnose anyone. The conversation moves through staying friends with exes, wanting to be the “cool gir...

In this episode, Lilly Wehman and Amelia Abernathy explore what it means to date while navigating a chronic illness. Through personal storytelling and a therapeutic lens, they unpack the realities of vulnerability, disclosure, and identity in relationships. The conversation highlights the emotional complexity of managing health challenges while dating, the impact of uncertainty on connection, and...

In this episode, Amelia Abernathy and Lilly Wehman explore the evolving nature of friendships, relationships, and identity in your 20s. Through an honest and reflective conversation, they unpack how life transitions—dating, career shifts, and personal growth—reshape social dynamics and emotional connections. This episode highlights the tension between holding on and letting go, while offering a gr...

In this episode of Dating In Your 20s, Amelia sits down with Lilly to unpack the lessons, heartbreaks, and reality checks that shape so many of our dating experiences in our twenties. Inspired by Dolly Alderton’s book Everything I Know About Love, the conversation explores how dating, friendships, and self-discovery are deeply intertwined during this decade. Together, Amelia and Lilly dive into th...

Your 20s are basically one ongoing identity crisis — dating feels confusing, friendships feel different than they used to, and everyone seems to be overwhelmed, healing, or “protecting their peace.” In this episode, Amelia and Lilly talk about one of the most underrated parts of dating in your 20s: the people around you matter just as much as the person you’re dating. This is a conversation about...

In today’s dating culture, where everyone is either soft launching, situationshipping, or pretending they don’t care…it almost feels controversial to say you have a boyfriend. Thanks to a recent Vogue article making its rounds, Amelia and Lilly dive into the very real (and very funny) question: Is having a boyfriend… embarrassing now? This episode unpacks the weird social pressure young women feel...

In this episode, Amelia and Lilly dive into the idea of personal growth through relationships —how every connection, whether positive or painful, can become a mirror for self-development. Lilly shares her reflections on learning to recognize and celebrate growth, emphasizing the importance of honoring both the messy and meaningful parts of the journey. Together, they unpack how relationships shape...

In this episode, Amelia and Lilly recap their time at the Beauty Boost Chicago event and reflect on the power of community and supporting local businesses. They revisit the mission behind their podcast — offering a therapeutic lens on dating and relationships — and dive into the “unwritten rules” of modern dating. Together, they question these societal commandments, encouraging listeners to decent...

In this episode of 'Dating in Your 20s', therapists Lilly Wehman and Amelia Abernathy share their personal experiences and insights on the emotional challenges of dating in their twenties. They discuss the vulnerability of early dating stages, the extremes of emotional responses, and the importance of community and shared experiences. The conversation emphasizes the need for coping mechanisms and...

In this episode, Oren Matteson sits down with Dating in Your 20s hosts Amelia Abernathy and Lilly Wehman to reflect on their podcast journey so far. Together, they explore how their conversations about dating, growth, and self-awareness have shaped their own relationships and perspectives. The trio dives into topics like communication, setting intentions, evolving expectations in modern dating, an...

In this episode of Dating in Your 20s, Amelia and Lilly sit down with Rev. DeVona Alleyne, LCPC, Clinical Director at Millennium Counseling Center , for a candid conversation about the complexities of narcissism in relationships. Together, they break down: The traits of narcissistic tendencies and how they can show up in dating The phenomenon of love bombing and its emotional aftermath The role of...

In this episode of Dating in Your 20s, Amelia and Lilly answer questions straight from you — our listeners. Think of it as your very own dating hotline, where we dive into the real challenges, worries, and curiosities that come with navigating relationships in your 20s. From ghosting and mixed signals to boundaries and confidence, nothing is off the table. These are the questions you’ve been DMing...

The Ghosts of Boyfriends Past — we all have them, but how much do they actually shape who we are in relationships today? In this episode of Dating in Your 20s, Amelia and Lilly spill the tea on how exes linger in our minds and what it means for dating in the here and now. From the emotional baggage that sneaks into new relationships to the little patterns we repeat without realizing it, we’re unpa...

In this episode of Dating in Your 20s , Amelia and Lilly dive into the intersections of dating, friendships, and the ever-present influence of social media. They unpack how podcasts shape modern perspectives on dating, the shifting dynamics of friendships across different life stages, and the challenges of people-pleasing in maintaining authentic connections. Together, they explore the importance...

In this episode, Amelia and Lilly dive into the infatuation-filled fog of new relationships—also known as the honeymoon phase… or, as they lovingly call it, boyfriend sickness. They explore what happens when all your time, energy, and identity start orbiting a new partner—and what that shift means for your friendships, your autonomy, and your group chats that have suddenly gone quiet. With stories...

In this episode of Dating in Your 20s , Amelia and Lilly explore the myth of "The One" — the idea that there is just one person we're destined to be with. They break down where this belief comes from, how it shapes expectations in dating, and the emotional toll it can take on those trying to navigate modern relationships. Rooted in therapeutic insight and real-life reflection, the conversation unp...

In this episode, Amelia and Lilly are joined by therapist Hilary Rosenberg for the conversation your TikTok algorithm hinted at but never fully explained: attachment styles—and how they quietly (or loudly) shape your dating life in your 20s. Together, they unpack the four main styles (anxious, avoidant, fearful-avoidant, and secure) and explore how each one shows up in modern relationships. From t...

In this episode of Dating In Your 20s , hosts Amelia and Lilly unpack how internalized beauty standards influence not only who people find attractive—but who they believe they're allowed to date. Drawing from both personal experience and a therapeutic lens, the hosts explore how messages from media, family, and culture shape unconscious dating rules: who is considered "out of your league," what ki...

Let’s be honest: conflict in your 20s can feel like emotional quicksand. In this episode, Amelia and Lilly are digging into what really happens when things get tense in romantic relationships—and why your instinct to shut down, fix everything immediately, or launch into defense mode actually makes a lot of sense (but might not be helping). Amelia and Lilly introduce a concept called Conflict Langu...

In this episode, Lilly and Amelia unpack the complicated relationship between alcohol and dating in your 20s. From social drinking norms to the deeper psychological patterns behind why we reach for a drink on first dates, this conversation explores what happens when alcohol becomes a default part of how we connect—and what it might be covering up. In this episode, we discuss: Why alcohol is so oft...

Dating in your 20s can feel like one long experiment in emotional exposure. In this episode, Amelia and Lilly dive into the vulnerable (and sometimes deeply uncomfortable) act of putting yourself out there—whether that’s through dating apps, awkward singles events, or blind dates arranged by your parents (yes, really). We talk about: The shame spiral of wearing a name tag at a singles event When a...

This week, Lilly and Amelia break down Materialists, the buzzy new film from Celine Song, through a therapeutic and cultural lens. From transactional love to the myth of the “perfect partner,” they explore how the movie reflects real dating struggles in your 20s—especially when ambition, wealth, and emotional intimacy collide. In this episode, we discuss: The blurred line between love and transact...

It’s not just ghosting anymore. From breadcrumbing and benching to orbiting and love bombing, today’s dating landscape has a whole new vocabulary—and it’s not just about decoding the terms. In this episode, Lilly and Amelia go beyond definitions to unpack the why: Why are these behaviors so common? What psychological needs are they meeting? And most importantly, what emotional impact do they leave...