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Dateable AF Show Notes: Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?” In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle. This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Self-awareness is supposed to help you grow. But for a lot of thoughtful, high-functioning people, it quietly turns into something else… constant self-criticism. If you’ve ever replayed conversations, analyzed your tone, or found yourself thinking “What’s wrong with me?” instead of “That’s interesting about me,” you’re not alone. In this episode of the Dateable AF Podcast,...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?” In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle. This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?” In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle. This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?” In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle. This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication...

Dateable AF Show Notes: S3E9: Owning It vs. Explaining It: What Accountability Looks Like in Real Life Have you ever tried to talk to someone about something that hurt you, only to walk away from the conversation feeling like nothing actually changed? Maybe they explained their intentions. Maybe they shared their stress, their reasoning, or what they meant by what they said. And by the end of the...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Sometimes the hardest relationship problem to name is the one where nothing is technically wrong. There’s no betrayal, no explosive conflict, no obvious crisis. On the surface, everything looks stable. The relationship is calm, predictable, and relatively easy to maintain. And yet something feels off. In this episode of the Dateable AF Podcast, we explore the quiet paradox...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?” In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle. This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?” In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle. This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication...

Dateable AF Show Notes: S3E5: Fear of Being Seen vs. Fear of Being Left: Why You Abandon Yourself Before Anyone Else Can Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?” In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, an...

Dateable AF Show Notes: S3E4: You’re Not Bad at Communication. You’re Tolerating Too Much: When Talking Doesn’t Fix the Problem Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?” In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” stateme...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Have you ever had a partner say, “Hey, can we talk about last night?” and immediately felt like you were in trouble? Even when no one is blaming you, your body reacts like you are being attacked. Your heart races. You get defensive. You start explaining, justifying, or shutting down. Suddenly, a simple conversation turns into a fight. In this episode of Dateable AF, we expl...

Dateable AF Show Notes: A lot of people think emotional regulation means staying calm. But calm isn’t the same as connected. In this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood concepts in modern relationship culture: emotional regulation — and how easily it gets confused with emotional suppression. Because you can look “together,” be low-drama, and even feel composed… while being completely...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Why Intimacy Feels Riskier Than Loneliness** This season marks a shift. Dateable AF started as a dating podcast — but what we kept circling back to was how people relate. Dating is just one place where relationship patterns show up. Whether it’s a partner, a friend, a parent, or a coworker… the same emotional dynamics keep repeating. So yes, the podcast is still called Date...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Meet Rachel Howell and Dr. Sarah Kyle Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dive...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Meet Rachel Howell and Dr. Sarah Kyle Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dive...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Rachel and Sarah discussing Who is Queer? Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by two longtime friends, this show...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Rachel and Sarah are traveling. Here is a revisit of a great show they had in Season 1- Lesbian Dating on the Apps: Where hope and Sanity go to die! Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you v...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Rachel and Sarah discussing Situationships Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by two longtime friends, this show...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives...

Dateable AF Show Notes: Rachel and Sarah have another after party answering listeners questions. Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by t...

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E11 Rachel and Sarah discuss Ethical Non-Monogamy (1) Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe Theme Song: Cade Kyle Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you. Hosted by two longtime frie...