Courage to Hurt & Heal

Send us Fan Mail You set a hard boundary years ago because you had to. Someone's dysfunction was bleeding into your family, and you cut it off. That boundary worked. Your kids are safer. Your gatherings are calmer. You finally have peace. Now that person says they've changed. And maybe they actually have. But something in you still refuses. And everyone — your parents, people who care ab...

Send us Fan Mail You get hurt at work and tell yourself to toughen up. Or you get hurt at work and spiral. But what if there's a third way — one that's honest about the pain and wise about what it actually means? Dave and Vicki walk through what happens when you feel overlooked, undermined, or publicly dismissed. And more importantly,  how to actually process it — not ignore it, not cata...

Send us Fan Mail Family gatherings are supposed to feel like home. But sometimes they feel more like the octagon—you're bracing for impact before you even walk through the door. What if you had a game plan instead of just powering through? Vicki and Dave talk strategy:  Why having an exit plan might actually help you stay longer How to interrupt a conversation that's going sideways witho...