Conversations With Kalekye

Has success come at the cost of love? For many women, building a career, creating financial stability and learning to stand on their own wasn't about proving they didn't need a partner. It was about refusing to put life on hold while waiting for one. In this episode of Conversations with Kalekye, I sit down with Nekesa Stephanie Wamalwa —a lawyer by training and Programme Lead, Next Gen at Trust A...

The culture where women expect the men they date to show them exactly how they can take care of them as early as date number one has really made it hard for men to settle down early... On this episode we get to hear from 'boy-child' on views around, provision, how early its expected and what happens when the expectations change in a marriage. Our guest Kevin Ismael, a communication specialists, sh...

In this episode of season three around 'Money and Relationships' we kick off with a very hearty conversation around the difficulties couples face when it comes to the money conversation: How much do you have, what do you plan to do with it and what are your spending and saving habits. To break this down and give us clear perspective on how we need to engage the money conversation in our love relat...

After numerous conversations on Parental Trauma and Dating Relationships, it is truly good to know there is a place to find healing. You just need to be tired enough to decide to heal.  On this episode of Conversations with Kalekye, we are honoured to have a seasoned therapist, Ruth Waithira, who admits that she herself found out that being un-fathered from age two showed up as trauma in her...

Children learn more from what they see than what they're told.  In this episode of Conversations with Kalekye, Korry Bachia shares how witnessing her father's violence toward her mother shaped her view of men, love, and self-worth. Determined not to repeat her mother's story, she built her life in full masculine energy — always showing up for everyone but herself. Korry opens up about self-ab...

Parental Trauma is often defined by what a child perceives of how they were treated or spoken to - but it also appears in what a child grew up watching. There are two ways it could go - completely avoid it successfully OR go in trying to run away from through the same situation without recognising it. That is the story of author, Agatha Mwende whose life flipped and turned when her single mum got...

Mothers are home. She is an anchor to a child's sense of belonging and comfort - so what happens when she leaves before a child has even understood her place in the world? That is the situation our guest, Saiton Righa, found herself when things became economically tough for her and her mum. From the age of nine, Saiton found herself being raised by silent grandparents and picking up her mother...

All things work together for good whether we know it or not. A breakup led to depression and that led to resolving lingering hurt between a mother and daughter. Achie Nimo is not a guest to this podcast, we have loved her insights and wisdom on season 2 when she gave us nuggets to survive Valentines without pressure. In this episodes she returns with a conversation dedicated to her late mother. Pa...

Parental Trauma and mother wounds clearly do not pick sexes as many would assume. Men have grown up in tough situations too but often shy away from sharing. In this episode of Conversations with Kalekye, media personality and actor Earnest Bantu opens up about his childhood and how it lowered his self confidence and esteem at an early age with the mixed emotions he received from his parents. He fe...

There is nothing that prepares you for loss... especially at a young age.  On this third episode of the series Parental Trauma and Dating, Kalekye sits down with Grace Kabebere, an ordinary Kenyan with an extraordinary story. Grace who is now stable and working as an Administrative Assistant did not begin her journey here. She was traumatised by death at an early age, never getting to know her rea...

It's Un-African to suggest that a parent and more so a mother can harm her child in any way. But to learn that it can even happen involuntarily from the womb as you carry your child is something I did not even know.  In this episode Kalekye sits down with lead coach and Psychologist Agiso Oduno of The Truth Encounter Coaching Service to unpack Parental Trauma and Dating by seeking to understand ho...

We are so excited to be back!! In this episode, Kalekye takes a look at some of the most impactful episodes that made season one which was a focus on 'Love Stories'. Some of the episodes took us to a place where we needed to think about the foundations on what love really means to us. Why do we think and behave the way we do when we get into a relationship? How much of it is influenced by...

Would you be able to turn a blind eye knowing the way the public behaves around celebrities? Would you keep your eye focused on the family ONLY when it comes to a partner in the lime light? As a person in the public eye, there are many difficult decisions one has to make as they get into a committed relationship. Award winning actor Moses Kiema had a conversation with Kalekye just to shed some lig...

Imagine watching your life happen before your eyes as if you were watching yourself in a movie. That is exactly how our amazing guest Wadzani Garwe felt after she received a her life changing diagnosis that came without any counselling or care just a 'we cannot insure you because you are HIV Positive'. On first chat with Wadzanai who is now a HIV activist aside from being an economist with the Uni...

Unlike her fellow GenZ's afraid of commitment today, Becky was determined to get married so that she can move to the next stage of her life. Having began dating at sixteen and gotten lots of heartbreaks, she came back to Christ and mapped her way to finding a husband in church. From meeting the guy on a Sunday to moving in by Thursday, Becky shares with Kalekye just how being on the same page,...

In this day and age, marriage is either something we run in to so fast especially as witnessed with young Christians OR are so afraid of because of the implication of the responsibility as witnessed with the Gen Zs. In this episode we had a conversation with the author of the book "Don't Marry A Poor Man' Christine Karanja Mutua, who is an educator, a wife and mother to young adults s...

There are loads of things that can happen to you in your 20s, becoming a parent by accident and seeing it through especially as a man is not common.  He is referred to as "The Voice of the African Boychild", Shamala is the epitome of responsible. Once he got his then Belgian girlfriend pregnant and she moved back home to raise her child in Belgium, Shamala felt he really wanted to be a present fat...

Jane Gichohi is an educator, a pastors wife and an author of the book "God why can't I have a baby" where she shares candidly about the journey into marriage only to discover that she cannot give the love of her life the one thing he loves so very much wanted - a baby. In this 8th episode Kalekye Mumo seeks to dig deeper to find out just how a couple can maintain a healthy relationsh...

15 years of marriage, 3 children and a whole vasectomy later, DJ Moz says marrying a woman from a far away country was the best decision of his life. Having first assumed his wife Deborah was an American wannabe Kenyan, he was happy to discover that she was actually Scottish and willing to assimilate into the Kenyan culture. What he was not ready for was having to follow Scottish culture that requ...

Njeri Migwi is truly a remarkable woman. She is a mother and the Executive Director of Usikimye Kenya, an NGO that fights against sexual and gender based violence. An organisation she began while she was still living under sexual and gender based violence, afraid to leave. And in this sixth episode, Kalekye sits down with Njeri to have a much needed conversation that opens us to a world of marryin...

Beautiful, divorced and still loving LOVE! That is Dr. Zippy Okoth who we had the opportunity to sit with and discuss the life & lessons she's experience after divorce & the end of a long term relationship that gave her a second child. Her motto is CHOOSE HAPPINESS and get a good support system. Her parents her were her greatest support telling her to choose life and not be tied to a m...

Something is usually in the air when the month of February arrives. From the marketing of lovers experiences and gifts to some form of chase and push among lovers and friends, Valentines can be a really difficult time to thrive. Our friend and expert Achie - iVow Agency explains it as a lack of understanding our identity. This is truly a valuable conversation that will leave you better suited to t...

In this final part of the conversation with Saint P, he shares about his turnaround and commitment to loving faithfully based on honesty after fully understanding who he is in God. The hardships finally made sense and made the journey worth while.  Do you have a love story to share? Lets have a conversation right her on  @conversationswithkalekye   Email us - conversationswithkalekye@gmail.com Fol...

Rejection and feeling unloved has such a high impact on how you choose to love. Having gone through a phase where he felt God was not on his side, Saint P shares how he began to date recklessly while seriously manipulating the girls to think not being the only one was okay. Do you have a love story that can save lives? Come share it on  @conversationswithkalekye  drop us an email on conversationsw...

Imagine knowing God but feeling that you were dealt such a bad hand that you would rather live recklessly without a care and hurt anyone you date? They say hurt people hurt people and in Saint Ps case he felt that even God the author of love didn't care and he was even willing to let the devil take over as he attempted suicide 3 times. Do you have a story to share? Come be on the show, we woul...