Codependent N’ Sh*t

No one talks enough about how brutal no contact really is. It’s not just about cutting someone off — it’s an identity death. It’s the death of the version of you that kept hoping, fixing, waiting, and losing herself in the process. This episode is for anyone who’s months into no contact and wondering why it still hurts so much… why it still feels disorienting and soul-shattering even though you kn...

Hey guys! I just wanted to record an episode as quickly as I could to let you guys know how much ChatGPT helped me with realizing I was unfortunately 🫠 in another abusive relationship (rose colored glasses were real strong). It also helped navigate the challenges I was experiencing, and ultimately how to successfully leave and take all measures necessary awards to ensure my safety. I know it soun...

What do you do when your seemingly perfect partner wants to go back to their abusive ex? How do navigate dating someone going through a separation but not an official divorce? This episode is extra vulnerable and contains talk of things I have never discussed in my life (especially publicly). **Trigger warning- this episode contains talk around abortion** Email me: codependentnshit@gmail.com IG: c...

Hello fam, this episode talks about the toxic side of incessant “therapy speak” on social media (and life in general), and the discomfort that can arise when we meet a healthy/available partner. Also obviously some catch up on my life and personal journey navigating grief, trauma, diagnoses, and a new game changer relationship 🔥. I love you guys so much and appreciate all your support. ❤️❤️

This episode may ruffle some feathers of individuals in recovery/aa/na but I also don’t care and feel it’s important for those of us who choose a different route of healing to be able to share. I also talk about the multitude of grief of a passing loved one, AND story time! About why I decided to end a relationship with someone seemingly normal & healthy. Ish. 😂 Do you like the show? If so, leave...

Hey guys! This episode I wanted to just catch you up with where I’m at and talk about the difference between LUST and LOVE. Lust is a lying bitch okay? 😂. Come find me and talk to me on stereo! https://stereo.com/codependentnshit

The answer is YES. Just kidding, maybe your situation is different. But if you resonate with anything I say in this episode - IT’S TIME TO GO! Bonus story about my 3 year situationship from hell 🔥. Love you guys! I love to connect with you guys and hear how episodes are helping you out. Message me! Tell me about your wins and losses with this stuff. It’s no easy feat 💖. Email: codependentnshit@g...

In this episode I go over the all too familiar and specific stages of narcissistic abuse, and also touch on the concept of making men or women our God, a.k.a idolatry. Spoiler alert: it’s the fastest way to forever be unhappy and unfulfilled. Love you Contact me directly with success stories, rants, connection, etc. at codependentnshit@gmail.com or on IG @codependentnshit

Hi Fam, this episode is about handling and coping with the reality of finding out your narcissist ex has a new supply (of course they do), why we aren’t victims & must take radical accountability, and also why I recommend 12 step programs as a means of integrative self-work and therapy. Love you ❤️ Contact me directly with success stories, rants, connection, etc. at codependentnshit@gmail.com or o...

The only good thing about rock bottom is the only way out is up. Rock bottom might feel like an emotional thing, but sometimes it’s your life choices playing out as things you’d NEVER imagine you’d do. When is enough enough? This episode is about my personal experience with hitting rock bottom, and how to navigate it - which can only be done with radical self responsibility. If you need extra supp...

Hello fam, quick episode letting you guys know how/why I’m finally truly surrendering to what is, the reality of my situations, my addictions, my codependency, my grief, and entering rehab. I wanted to record this to let anyone else struggling to know how okay and NECESSARY it is to get help if you’ve realized for the last time that you can’t do it on your own. There is a way out and you don’t nee...

WhatIn this bonus episode, I decided to openly share what’s truly working for me as I’m in this current process right now. I talk about tangible steps to begin to create an exit plan, and ultimately what needs to be done within us to not just break this trauma bond — but alll of them. Because we all know how easy it is to go find a new one with a new face! Do you like the show? Please leave a revi...

This episode is full details and warning signs I ignored of my most recent relationship that winded up being with yet another person with highly narcissistic traits. I want you guys to understand that even with years of healing work and self awareness around this stuff, you still can easily fall into these relationships. That’s why FOLLOWING YOUR GUT AND RED FLAGS IS SO BEYOND CRUCIAL! It’s hard,...

This episode is about the seemingly ever growing current societal trend to try and label EVERYONE as a narcissist. Sure, there’s definite upsides of gaining awareness on these topics/labels - but are we over-doing it? Is it a new form of self abandonment to always be pointing the finger? 🤔 Do you like the show? Please leave a rating/review! Let’s connect: IG @ashrakes or @codependentnshit Want to...

In this episode I’m recapping a bit about trauma bonds because well, I think every write in I get is about trauma bonds and let’s be real - this entire podcast is based around them 🤣. I touch on ways to get out of them, why we need to get out of them, and share some of my personal experience with how I’ve gotten out of them. It can be done ☑️ Do you like the show? Please leave a review! If you’d...

Hi fam! A lot of this episode is about my Mom’s abrupt recent passing and how I’m coping with that/how I’m getting back on track with healing in the wake of tragedy/grief. Sometimes things happen in life that can throw us off track with focusing on bettering ourselves. I also touch on the Holistic Psychologists new book, and the power of the mind/the placebo effect in regards to healing. Love you...

Hi guys! I’m alive! Just wanted to catch you up with why I’ve been MIA, and talk about why chemistry alone is NOT the recipe for a healthy dating dynamic. Compatibility is 🔑 to save yourself unnecessary pain/conflict! Do you like the show? Please leave a review! 🙏🏻 If you download the anchor app you can record a message to me/the show and I will air it on an episode❤️Follow me on IG - @ashrakes...

On this episode I’m going into the power of conscious inner dialogue and combatting opposing views/opinions a instead of making them mean so much to us. As individuals with codependent habits, we often will take on other people’s opinions and make it mean SO MUCH more than necessary. Thus creating internal misery, and even holding us back from our dreams and true desires. CUT THAT SH*T OUT! I love...

Lololol just a short holiday episode for my peeps that understand the struggle of the holidays with dysfunctional/toxic family. WE 👏🏼CAN👏🏼 DO 👏🏼THIS 🤣😩 Do you like the show? Follow me on IG @ashrakes or @codependentnshit Email me at codependentnshit@gmail.com.

In this episode I just wanted to catch up with you guys, talk a little more about trauma bonds, situationships, and why I believe relationship with God is integral right now, and in regards to healing “limiting belief bonds”. Do you like the show? Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or codependentnshit Submit your stories, suggestions, etc to codependentnshit@gmail.com. ❤️❤️

What is a trauma bond? What is cognitive dissonance? Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship without even realizing it? These are important things to learn and have conscious awareness of to start attracting healthier relationships in the future. Do you like the show? Please leave a good rating and review. ❤️🙏🏻 If you have a story, a advice suggestion, or just want to send some : codepend...

I’M BACK! ❤️ In this episode I just wanted to recap some stuff going on, talk about the impending apocalypse, etc. 🤣 but most importantly, address “addiction to relationships”. Why we shouldn’t shame ourselves once we find ourselves realizing we may be doing this, and why it throws our lives off balance. I also touch a bit on personal dating situations for me, and why I’m still finding myself dra...

SUP FAM ❤️ This episode is a little off typical topic, but I really wanted to touch on this and my opinion of WAP and why I don’t think it’s doing us any favors for progressing with women sexuality. ALSO - talking PROJECTION. And how altering it can be for our relationships to be conscious of how we ALL DO IT! 👏🏼 Do you like the show? Please leave a review! ❤️ Write in your suggested topics, per...

This week’s episode is about overall healing of codependency, dealing with loneliness when you’re in the in between phases of losing friends, and also how to point out wounded partners BEFORE you get involved. 🙌🏼. Download the Stereo app to come chat with me live! Follow me @ashrakes to be notified of when I’m on 🎙 Do you like the show? Please leave a good review! I love to hear from you guys so...

Can you heal codependency while in a relationship? My answer is yes. In this episode I explain more about why, and also helpful starting points for you and your partner. ALSO - Are you putting up with fu*k boy/girl behavior just because a person FINANCIALLY has their life together? I’m getting real on this topic and why you need to see the reality of this situation! 🤭 Do you like the show? Plz le...