Calmly Coping

As an entrepreneur who works from home, it is very important for me to maintain certain boundaries in order to protect my time, energy, mental health, and relationships and so I can put my best into both my career and my personal life. This is something that I have refined over the years since I started working from home full-time as of March 2020 (as many others did!) In this episode, I'll be sha...

We all know how important sleep is to help us function better in our daily lives: to have improved focus, energy, and motivation. But did you know that sleep is also incredibly important for your mental health? Sleep deprivation is associated with an increase in anxiety and depressive symptoms, including an increase in expecting the worst-case scenario. Our culture is massively sleep-deprived and...

High-functioning anxiety isn't always just incessant overthinking or sleepless nights; sometimes, it shows up as the constant need to prove your worth, the subtle self-comparisons, or the relentless planning. These, often ever-present, behaviors and ways of thinking can be manifestations of your high-functioning anxiety. I'm a firm believer that awareness and understanding can help you stop strugg...

When you're ambitious, you can find yourself caught in a perpetual cycle of striving for more, pushing boundaries, and yet, despite all accomplishments, wrestling with a nagging feeling of inadequacy and needing to achieve more. Why does each achievement feel like a fleeting victory rather than a lasting satisfaction? If you've ever felt the weight of your own expectations, if success is a moving...

Everybody puts pressure on themselves at one time or another. Pressure to be a better person, be healthier, do more work, be a better wife, husband, parent, the list goes on. But how much of this pressure is healthy, and how much of it just results in more stress, tension, and anxiety?   In this episode, you will learn: How to know when you're putting too much pressure on yourself Why you think pu...

Those with high-functioning anxiety wear a mask of calm, perfectionism, success, and busyness on the outside to shroud the torrent of overthinking, self-doubt, overanalyzing, fear of failure, and insecurity on the inside. This mask often stays in place because the fear of "what if's" keeps it there— what if I'm really not good enough? What if people think I'm a fraud? What if everything falls apar...

Perfectionism can be a double-edged sword: on the one hand, your high expectations and attention to detail can result in high quality work that is admired by others; on the other hand, your constant need for perfection can be exhausting— resulting in overthinking, overanalyzing, and being extremely hard on yourself. In this episode, I'll be sharing some essential mindset shifts to help you stop st...

"I'll rest when I finish this project… when I'm done with work for the day… when I've checked everything off my to-do list…" Sound familiar? You might have learned to believe that you need to EARN rest and relaxation, which can make it difficult to actually relax when you need to. When will you have accomplished enough to actually relax? When will you feel deserving of it? In this episode, we'll e...

Hustle culture. "I'll sleep when I'm dead." The expectation to work all hours of the day now that we can access work from anywhere. These are just a few things that have contributed to declines in mental health in workers, whether you are employed or self-employed. It's the expectation that you must constantly be doing more, working harder, and that incessant feeling that you aren't doing enough....

Are you experiencing the incessant internal monologue of self-doubt? It's those negative thoughts that feed off of your insecurities and make you feel as though you can never do anything good or right. Self-doubt is when you lack confidence in yourself and your abilities, and it can sometimes be hard to ignore, resulting in a negative mindset, dwindling self-confidence, and poor performance. This...

Performance anxiety: it's the psychological and physical nervousness that occurs before and during a performance of any kind that can make it more challenging to focus, do your best, and feel confident in yourself. Performance anxiety affects up to 20% of Americans, including individuals who perform for a living and those who are in positions of leadership. It is entirely possible to take steps to...

In our hyper-productive culture, it can be incredibly easy to confuse being burnt out for laziness, because they can feel like one and the same. The problem is… it's okay and necessary to be lazy every once in a while, but being in a state of burnout is NOT okay and is ultimately unsustainable, potentially leading to more serious mental health consequences down the road if you don't do anything to...

You may be familiar with the fear of failure, but have you ever considered that you could be afraid of success? You might struggle with the fear of success, or "achievemephobia", if you worry about the potential consequences that come with success: more exposure, more responsibility, more expectations, more pressure, the fear of maintaining it, and the worry that you still won't be happy even if y...

This episode is a calming guided meditation for overachievers. This simple 6-minute exercise can be done in any location where you feel safe to close your eyes and be undisturbed for about 6 minutes. This guided meditation will be helpful for you if you are a high-achieving person who is feeling stressed, tense, anxious, or overwhelmed and will help you to feel calm, grounded, and grateful.   Posi...

Are you the kind of type A, organized person who loves your to-do lists? And yet you sometimes find yourself also resenting your to-do list, feeling overwhelmed and controlled by it, and as though you cannot relax until everything is checked off? In this episode, you will learn actionable as well as mindset tips to actually stop your to-do list from controlling your life (and your mind).   In this...

We've all been there: you have a relaxing and rejuvenating vacation (or even a stay-cation), and as your time off comes to a close you start experiencing anxiety and dread about returning to work.  You want to hold onto this feeling of joy and being nourished by rest, but you worry that you will just be thrown back into the stress and pressure of your job upon your return.  Is it possible to hold...

Hi, my name is Tati and I'm an overachiever with high-functioning anxiety. I can say that I have overcome my high-functioning anxiety because it is no longer controlling me negatively in the way it used to, but if there is one thing we know about anxiety, it never goes away 100%. That's because anxiety can be a helpful emotion, so when it comes to high-functioning anxiety, part of managing it is u...

Do you spend most of your time working? Is it hard for you to disconnect from work and do you feel a compulsive urge to work and get more done, even when you know you should be relaxing or spending time with loved ones? Workaholism affects about 1/3 of the working population and can have significant negative consequences on physical health, mental health, and relationships. In this episode, I'll b...

Do you just feel like doing nothing? Maybe you know you have so many things you should be doing… but it feels overwhelming and like dragging your feet to even get started. Everything in your mind and body is telling you to stop, when you know you should be doing more. You might be frustrated with yourself and being hard on yourself as a result. In this episode, I'll be sharing what to do when you'...

Are you a leader who is struggling with self-doubt? Maybe you are an executive, manager, entrepreneur, thought leader, or decision-maker in some way who questions yourself often, overthinks decisions, worries about what others think of you, and/or struggles with feeling confident in yourself. You're not alone in feeling this way, I have worked with countless leaders who have the same struggles, an...

Do you ever find yourself struggling to relax without a sense of guilt that you should be doing more? In today's episode, we're diving into what you can do when you feel guilty relaxing. We'll unpack the reasons behind why this happens (especially in high-achievers) and I'll share practical strategies to overcome it. Get ready to learn how to free yourself from the burden of guilt and embrace rela...

Have you ever wondered if the stress you're feeling is more than just your typical everyday pressure? Well, in today's episode, we're diving deep into the signs that your 'stress' might actually be high-functioning anxiety. As someone who has experienced it firsthand, I know how easily anxiety can disguise itself as stress, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and uncertain. Join me as we explore the su...

This brand-new episode of Calmly Coping is all about positive affirmations for overachievers. If you struggle with difficulty relaxing, overthinking, and putting too much pressure on yourself, this one's for you.   In this episode: We'll explore how repeating positive affirmations can rewire your brain, boost self-worth, reduce stress, and improve your overall performance. I'll guide you through e...

High-functioning anxiety: when you appear high-achieving, calm, successful, organized, and put-together on the outside… But on the inside, you are struggling with anxiety, fear, self-doubt, insecurity, people-pleasing, overthinking, and overworking. In this classic replay episode of the podcast, I'll be discussing 4 tips that you can practice this week to start coping with your high-functioning an...

When you're overwhelmed, it can make it difficult to focus, get things done, think properly, and get motivated.   If you struggle with feeling overwhelmed with tasks, responsibilities, thoughts, and emotions, then this episode is perfect for you.   In this episode, you will learn: My 5-step process to cope with feeling OVERWHELMED Why you need to adjust your expectations for what you can get done...