Built to Love

When couples say, “We just need to communicate better,” they’re often talking about nonviolent communication—whether they realize it or not. In this episode of Build to Love , Alexa Gelles sits down with David Ring, long-time student and practitioner of nonviolent communication, founder of the Empathease app, and author of Unclog Your Happiness . David shares what nonviolent communication really i...

Wedding season is all about the dress, the venue, and the perfect playlist—but what about life after the big day? In this episode, I’m joined by Colleen Marcoux, a wedding officiant and relationship therapist (and the newest member of Alexa Gelles Counselling) who has seen couples at their highest and lowest moments. We talk about: The surprising overlap between officiating weddings and counsellin...

You can have all the communication tools in the world—but if your mindset isn’t right, they won’t stick. In this episode, Alexa shares the 7 most powerful mindset shifts she teaches couples to get unstuck and build a lasting future together. You’ll learn how to: Break free from blame and start focusing on what you can control Reframe arguments and setbacks as opportunities for growth See your part...

You’ve probably heard things like “never go to bed angry” or “fighting is bad” and assumed they were gold-standard advice for a healthy relationship. But here’s the truth—some of the most popular relationship tips are actually doing more harm than good. In this episode of Build to Love , I’m unpacking four of the most common myths that keep couples stuck, confused, and questioning their connection...

Keep having the same fight on repeat? You’re not alone—and you’re not stuck. In this episode, I’m walking you through the 3 pillars of my Built to Last method to help you stop the cycle of conflict, communicate more clearly, and feel deeply connected again. These are the exact tools that changed my own relationship and now help my clients create love that actually lasts. What you’ll walk away with...

Welcome to the first episode of Built to Love ! Relationships can be tough, but they don’t have to be a constant struggle. In this episode, I’m sharing why relationships often feel harder than they should and what we can do about it. I’ll walk you through the key things I’ve learned on my own journey of building a healthy, lasting relationship—and give you a sneak peek into the powerful tools you’...

Looking for the "perfect" partner? Spoiler alert: they don't exist. In this episode, I’m diving into the power of imperfection in relationships. I’ll share why letting go of unrealistic expectations and accepting both your and your partner’s flaws can lead to a deeper, stronger connection. Relationships aren’t about perfection; they’re about growth, understanding, and making it work together despi...

Arguments are a part of every relationship—but they don’t have to pull you apart. In this episode, I’ll talk about why conflict is normal, how to handle it better, and how to use it to grow closer with your partner. I’ll share simple ways to shift how you respond during fights, improve your communication, and turn arguments into moments for growth. What you’ll walk away with: How to stop fights fr...

Welcome to Built to Love , the podcast for couples ready to stop fighting and build a lasting, loving relationship. In each episode, I’ll share tools to improve communication, navigate conflict, and face life’s challenges together. Whether you’re facing recurring arguments or want long-term success, this podcast will help you create the love you deserve. Hit subscribe and start building lasting lo...