Bispective

Why do so many people think bisexuality isn't real? The answer is surprisingly simple: most bisexual people are invisible. If a man dates a man, people assume he's gay. If he dates a woman, people assume he's straight. But bisexuality doesn't disappear just because someone falls in love. In this episode of BiSpective, I explore why bisexual people are so often misunderstood, erased and overlooked....

What happens to bisexual identity once you're in a relationship? Many people assume that when a bisexual person settles down, they’ve “picked a side” — that they’re now either gay or straight. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. In this episode of BiSpective , Lewis Oakley explores the unique challenge bisexual people face when they’re in relationships: how do you stay visible as bisexual...

As a bisexual man, I’ve noticed something that rarely gets talked about. Leaving a relationship as a bisexual doesn’t just mean leaving a person — it often means leaving a whole way of life. In this video, I break down: – Why bisexual people may struggle to leave relationships – How fear of rejection and biphobia plays a role – Why “starting again” feels harder when you’re bi – How dating differen...

Many bisexual people say the same thing: “I don’t know any other bisexuals.” So why does the bisexual community feel so fragmented and does it even really exist? In this video, I explore why bisexual people often feel isolated, even within LGBTQ+ spaces, and why building a visible, connected bisexual community has proven so difficult. We talk about: – Why bisexuals don’t have the same community st...

Many bisexual people come out later in life and deeply regret not exploring their sexuality sooner. In this episode, I explain the “great bisexual regret” and why so many bi people feel isolated, closeted, and alone.